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Original poster

Aibu to be put off by this?

39 replies

IsThisOddThough · 17/09/2019 10:41

Messaged my local gym to find out how much it would be. I sent this via email to the address on their website.

About an hour later I received a message through Facebook messenger to my personal profile from the man who manages the gym informing me of the costs etc...

AIBU to find this odd? I feel like he's seen my name on my email is a woman's and so has searched for me on Facebook. Why would you not just reply via email? Or am I being dramatic?

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steppemum · 17/09/2019 10:49

weird and creepy.
Email him and tell him it is weird and creepy and therefore you won't be joining his gym
Oh and breaks GDPR, as you have not given him permission to use your FB

joblotbubble · 17/09/2019 10:54

Oh and breaks GDPR, as you have not given him permission to use your FB

Eh?

AmIThough · 17/09/2019 10:55

Yeah he's weird.

@steppemum he hasn't really broken any data protection laws though has he...

Cakeorchocolate · 17/09/2019 10:55

I would find this odd. And creepy.
I would expect a reply from the same method I contacted them.

I have had enquiries returned by phone before when I've contacted by another method. That annoys me. I do email or other written ones for a purpose.

I don't know why you're jumping to the conclusion of it having anything to do with your gender though.

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IsThisOddThough · 17/09/2019 11:03

I don't know why you're jumping to the conclusion of it having anything to do with your gender though

I don't know, I just got a feeling like he wanted to see what I looked like? Maybe I am just jumping to conclusions but I don't really get why else you'd look up my Facebook first before replying?

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steppemum · 17/09/2019 11:05

I think he has
She gave him her name and email for the purposes of contacting her for the gym. He has used her details to search for her on FB.
Not on

PumpkinP · 17/09/2019 11:05

Very weird

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IsThisOddThough · 17/09/2019 11:55

Okay at least it's not just me who finds it strange.

I think I'll be avoiding said gym.

Should I reply and say I find it unprofessional or just not respond?

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HugoSpritz · 17/09/2019 12:00

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

DoctorAllcome · 17/09/2019 12:03

It sounds weird, but I know a lot of people who run their business through Facebook. (One has a gym, one does reupholstery, one does custom jewelry, one does miniature painting, etc).
They do all their advertising and messaging through the business Facebook page. So he may have just done it that way because the cost info you wanted is more readily available to be sent out from his Facebook account.
I would ask why did he message you through Facebook..see if it’s perfectly innocuous or not.

AlexaAmbidextra · 17/09/2019 12:03

There’s some bollocks spoken about GDPR. It’s become the new health& safety. 🙄

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IsThisOddThough · 17/09/2019 12:11

Sorry to clarify, he messaged me from his own personal Facebook. Not the gyms Facebook page. It does have one, I checked but the message came from his personal account.

Seemed like just a casual and smiley message. 'let me know how I can help Smile' that kind of stuff.

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TheAlternativeTentacle · 17/09/2019 12:13

Screen shot it, and send it to the owners asking why he has responded on facebook, using his own personal account?

This is definitely not the correct response.

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IsThisOddThough · 17/09/2019 12:15

I think he is the owner to be honest. From what I can gather.

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proseccoaficionado · 17/09/2019 12:21

That'd piss me off too, it's odd. I'd casually ask why do they message customers from their own private account rather than the gym's and why don't they reply to your chosen means of communication.

Jaxhog · 17/09/2019 12:31

Definitely odd.

The usual business convention is to reply to potential customers via the method they communicated to you with. So email to email, messenger to messenger, etc. To reply via Facebook to an email enquiry is a strange thing to do. To reply from your personal account to a business enquiry is just creepy.

Block him and try another gym.

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IsThisOddThough · 17/09/2019 13:02

I wouldn't even have minded so much if he'd had called me rather than emailed back but this just seems very outside the normal scope of appropriate!

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BarrenFieldofFucks · 17/09/2019 13:03

Very odd

sigmaalphamu · 17/09/2019 13:07

Oh my god! This is an insane amount of drama over NOTHING!!

Op are you very attractive or something? You certainly think he fancies you.

If you're that bothered about this sort of thing, you should have changed your settings way before now to make yourself unsearchable.

You can also set your account so that anyone you're not 'friends' with can't message you.

omikron · 17/09/2019 13:08

Did you use the 'contact us' widget on their website? That may not actually be a proper email account their end so they would have to contact you another way.

PumpkinP · 17/09/2019 13:18

I dont think there is any drama, I mean no one has suggested she logs it with 101... yet Grin

Bakingberry · 17/09/2019 13:19

I find it odd, but it could be a generational thing. How old is he? You said it's his own business, so he might not have a separate personal and professional account. But I find it odd he didn't use the official gym Facebook page to respond.

sigmaalphamu · 17/09/2019 13:22

I dont think there is any drama, I mean no one has suggested she logs it with 101... yet 

That'd piss me off too, it's odd.

just seems very outside the normal scope of appropriate!

Block him and try another gym.

I think I'll be avoiding said gym.

I think all this is dramatic and wouldn't put me off using a gym ffs

PullingMySocksUp · 17/09/2019 13:24

How does he know it’s the right person he’s messaged?

sigmaalphamu · 17/09/2019 13:26

Presumably with the name and surname? Op might have used the same email address to sign up to Facebook as she did to email the gym which is the easiest way to find someone's profile through google.

As I said, you can make yourself unsearchable anyway if one is that bothered.