Aibu to be put off by this?

[IsThisOddThough]

Messaged my local gym to find out how much it would be. I sent this via email to the address on their website.

About an hour later I received a message through Facebook messenger to my personal profile from the man who manages the gym informing me of the costs etc...

AIBU to find this odd? I feel like he's seen my name on my email is a woman's and so has searched for me on Facebook. Why would you not just reply via email? Or am I being dramatic?

You’re being ridiculous. People can find you on Facebook via your email and phone number if you allow it. People use Facebook for business as it’s more convenient and you can talk easily, see reviews, join groups with other clients. You’re really overreacting and I’d think you were really horrible if you assume that just because he’s a man he must be some kind of pervert whose only contacting you on Facebook for creepy reasons you said yourself that he simply messaged you with the info about the gym! Just make your profile private if you don’t like it, otherwise you’re basically allowing people to contact you and are unreasonable to get annoyed about it. Poor guy didn’t even say anything wrong! YABVU.

It's not that I'm certain he fancies me or that I think I'm really attractive at all! I just don't see why you'd go to the effort of looking for someone on Facebook when you could just reply to an email unless you wanted to see them.

I sent an email to an email address which was on their website i.e. [email protected]

My email address isn't the one I use on Facebook but it does include my first name and surname so he obviously searched my name.

As I said, it was from his personal account. The gym does have a Facebook page because I checked. But he messaged me from his personal Facebook page rather than that.

I just honestly don't get why you wouldn't just reply to an email?

If you're that bothered about this sort of thing, you should have changed your settings way before now to make yourself unsearchable

I work with clients daily. I'm sure I could search a number of them and find them on Facebook. I'd never dream of messaging them through there though. It's unprofessional. (and weird!)

@namechangedbecauseithinkiabu

Great post that has a right go at OP and spectacularly misses the point

Yep, weird and creepy. I wouldn't join his gym. As for whether or not to tell him why, it doesn't matter really, he won't admit to himself that he's weird and creepy, he'll convince himself it's you with the problem so I suppose do that but only if it'd make you feel better. Or I don't know, maybe he would think twice about doing that next time. So I'm just posting to say I don't know. Hope that helps!

I also think it’s weird and creepy. I wouldn’t reply, I’d just choose a different gym.

grossly inappropriate and jumps the boundary between a business correspondence and a personal one. I don't want to be friends with the manager at my gym / my dry cleaner / garage guy etc.

Out of interest - what sort of gym is it? I can sort of imagine this happening with a specialist crossfit / boxing gym where they're trying to work out if you're the right fit (& that's a whole other world of assumption / judging of stereotypes on my part) rather than in a Virgin Active chain of stationary bikes

What kind of tin pot gym have a hotmail address???

I think I just won't respond!

what sort of gym is it

It's just a normal gym not a specialist one so far as I know.

Are you in the south east of England by chance?

PinkOne no, North.

I’d find it very odd that he replied via a different medium. As a teacher, I’d be most pissed off of a parent replied to my school email via Facebook. I can’t understand those pp saying she’s being dramatic. FB is for personal use, email is nice and bland/anonymous. Why would anyone go via your FB, having clearly looked you up, rather than via the return email. Loads more hassle.

Phew I thought I knew who you were talking about. I would give the gym a wide berth tbh it's totally creepy stalkerish behaviour.