Slouchy or common for age?

[Elleoodle]

DD13 wears quite short shorts and a support crop vest around the house, she says she it too hot otherwise.
Is this too little? What do your teens wear around the house. DH has issues with it, I can't see anything wrong with it.
Also, she eats at the table with her legs on the chair and won't sit properly when asked. She sits correctly at restaurants. She's very tall and skinny and I think she finds her posture difficult to manage and her core strength is low. Again, DH has issues with it but I think it will come with time and she is able when the situation needs it.

Why shouldn't she wear what she wants in her own home?

What exactly are your DH’s issues with it?!

Clothes sound fine for at home with the family. Ask her to put a bit more on if you are expecting someone or the door goes. That's what we do with son who likes to sometimes wear just boxers anyway.

My dad would have felt extremely uncomfortable if I had dressed like that. I don't think there is anything wrong with it but I also don't think there is anything wrong with respecting people's different comfort levels. It would bother your daughter less to cover up. Maybe that's because of the way I was bought up though!

The posture thing I've not idea!

Is DH her father? I don't get why a father would feel uncomfortable whatever their child wears, if he's not her father and he's uncomfortable that says more about him and his eye for teenage girls tbh.

Tell your DH it could be worse. I remember I used to like walking around the house naked until my mum asked me to cover up as it was making my brother feel uncomfortable!

Personally I think it sounds fine for around the house. But maybe chat to DH and try to reach a compromise. Maybe a T shirt rather than a crop top?

I do make my DC sit properly at the table.

Let your decency-o-meter be whether or not her arse cheeks are visible.

She sounds like a show off to me.

Your logic about her posture, i.e. the height and lack of core strength, sounds feasible although I can't actually picture what you mean about her legs on the chair and why it would be an issue in the house?

Dh just feels uncomfortable. It wasn't how he was brought up but his were parents and cold and stiff, so no surprise there.
Yes, he's her dad.
She's not a show off, she's actually quite young for her age and reasonably comfortable in her own skin.

The table sitting mostly bothers him because it makes more mess and looks sloppy.
I'm more of the mind that, as long you know how to behave/dress in company and in public, how you relax in your own home is up to you. If you can't relax at home then when can you?

She does not sound like a show off to me but rather an unselfconscious, young teen wearing what makes her feel comfortable in the privacy of her own home. I’m writing this in short shorts and a crop vest top and I’m 48!

She knows how to behave in public and when guests are around. Leave her be.

I understand your DH, I think my father would have felt the same but I think he needs to recognise that the clothing is his issue, not hers.

I would insist on respectful behaviour from the whole family at the dinner table though, whether at home or in a restaurant.

"wearing what makes her father feel un comfortable"

I'm very glad she's comfortable in her skin but why should your DH's feelings be disregarded?

Showing off to her parents in a crop top how?

Well I dont see an issue with the clothes, I'm sure her dad has been on holiday when shes been in a bikini🤷‍♀️ If guests were over then I would understand.

The legs up thing I would stop though when shes at the dinner table, Tell her to sit normal.

How hot is your house?

Sits with legs on the chair she's sitting on or legs sprawled across several chairs so other people can't sit near her?

The clothes I'd leave. She's covering the essentials and telling her to cover up because she's making Daddy uncomfortable will just reinforce the idea that she should dress to comply with what makes men happy, and that her body is something shameful to hide

Showing off to her parents in a crop top how?

Okay I take back the showing off comment. I'm clearly off the mark there.

But combined with the short shorts, perhaps dad feels like she's wearing little more than bra and pants?

The clothes are fine. She’s in her own home. And a lot of teenagers slouch, especially when they’re growing.

Not sitting properly at the table at the age of 13 is just a 13-year-old being a teen brat pushing her luck. There is no way she’d be allowed to sit at her desk like that at school and unless she has something badly wrong with her, poor core strength and being tall wouldn’t prevent her from sitting at a table to eat a meal. She’s not a baby and this is something she’s doing to wind you up and test you, not because she has to.

She's in her own home! You should both be glad at the she feels confident and comfortable around her family and with her body (which she should do) rather than encouraging her to cover up and be ashamed of her body. I agree with other on the chair thing, as long as she wouldn't sit like that at a restaurant then it doesn't really matter

Definitely wouldn’t accept sitting at the tab with legs up.
Shorts and vest ok unless cheeks on show. If she thinks it’s ok, start wearing some yourself when her friends come round!

Your DH is the problem, not your DD

I asked my DS to NOT walk round the house in boxers. Sorry but I don't want to see his bits while I'm doing the hoovering. (Those suggesting some sort of unhealthy interest are just being ridiculous! )

Your dh needs to deal with his problem himself and not involve dd. Who could feels at home with rules about what to wear, especially if it them made her uncomfortably hot.
How hot is it in your house?

I second what others have said, your DH is the issue.

Do you live in the tropics???

She should be allowed to wear what she likes around the house. Her father should not see her as sexualised.