Slouchy or common for age?

[Elleoodle]

DD13 wears quite short shorts and a support crop vest around the house, she says she it too hot otherwise.
Is this too little? What do your teens wear around the house. DH has issues with it, I can't see anything wrong with it.
Also, she eats at the table with her legs on the chair and won't sit properly when asked. She sits correctly at restaurants. She's very tall and skinny and I think she finds her posture difficult to manage and her core strength is low. Again, DH has issues with it but I think it will come with time and she is able when the situation needs it.

Legs on her own chair.
Looking at photos of her around restaurant tables, she does slouch when sitting up. Back arched, shoulders curved. Her proportions are very gangly. Underweight (dh's families build), very tall, arms longer than height. Has even been assessed for a syndrome due to it but was ruled genetic. SIL was similar and couldn't even open a tin herself at this age. Low muscle tone, build and height seem to make certain positions uncomfortable. I could insist she sits correctly and she can do it but I'm almost 100% sure she's avoiding it due to it being uncomfortable.
No cheek on show.
Dh runs hot too, sweats always - not overweight. House feels normal, no heating on. I run cold though and always load jumpers and double socks on.

Blimey your DH would hate this house - unless we've got guests then there is a lot of wandering around in pants in summer! Also curious as to where are you that it's too hot still!?

Not sure on the slouching & I'm fairly strict on table manners - eating with cutlery properly, mouth shut, sat at the table whilst we're eating (I just find that unless it is a constant rule then it isn't automatic - so on the whole the rules apply at home or out). Saying that the sitting thing may well just be a small act of rebellion against her slightly Victorian sounding Dad? I'd probably let that go for now and focus on the positives - she's eating, with you, and presumably not stuffing it in like the cookie monster? Sometimes you have to choose your battles or they all become meaningless & he sounds like he needs to unclench & certainly not give her body issues by telling her to cover up in her own home!

(x-post on the slouching - I'm very tall and have had back problems since my teenage years, I've found an amazing Osteopath who has helped me a lot and recently taken my 6'4" very skinny 15 year old DS to see him too. It's been interesting to see the improvement in his posture generally, also a comment from the Osteo that it was refreshing to have the opportunity to help correct the issues now and not just see him in 20 years when all the bad habits and weaknesses are causing issues that are much harder to solve. Might be worth seeing someone like that if you think she has postural issues?)

Feet on own chair I'd ignore. It's a family meal not dinner with guests.

I could insist she sits correctly and she can do it but I'm almost 100% sure she's avoiding it due to it being uncomfortable

I have a bendy dd and that's very true, to sit and stand correctly she has to tighten muscles that are usually slack and it's painful after a short time. It then has a knock-on effect to other muscles.

See an Occupational Therapist, they are well-versed in low muscle tone, joint hypermobility etc. You can self-refer in some areas.

If not, Pilates is great for core strength, can you organise lessons for her?

Yoga's not recommended for bendy joints (hypermobility) because they stretch too far to start with.

This sits rather uncomfortably with me. You are essentially suggesting that your husband finds his daughter 'too much' because she's in short shorts and a crop top. Your issues are more than just your daughter's posture. Dear God this has all sorts of wrong written all over it.

She should wear weather appropriate clothing of her choice regardless of her age. If DH has a problem with it perhaps he could sit somewhere else?
Posture is a problem though, it will affect her in the long run so perhaps activities that help strengthen her core would be a great idea.
Research suggests that children with bad posture are more likely to have crocked teeth/backwards bites/nasal congestion/snoring which will cost you and DH loads in ortho treatments

I think she is wearing what most girls her age do at home. Dad's can be very odd at times, especially in regard to their DD's.

On the posture front, If she's taller than her friends/year group she is probably not going to want to stand or sit tall. Does she play a sport or dance OP? Core strength is so important and the act of sitting up correctly can really help her in the long run.

I don't see a problem at all with your daughters attire., your husband is being a bit stuffy and critical.. At the age of 13, teenagers are coming into their own, as in dress styles,and general demeanour. It's nice really, as at that age I was probably still wearing my school gymslip at the table ha ha.

I suspect your DH would have exactly the same problem if DD was a boy. He's been brought up in a conservative household and can't compute someone walking around all day in what he probably sees as not much more than underwear. I doubt there's anything 'suspect' about this as PP's have weirdly suggested; it's about etiquette. I'm pretty liberally minded, but I still expect my kids to get dressed every day.

Arms longer than height?!😯

Arms longer than height?!

Your arm span should equal your height generally.

Ahhh OK I was imagining a young lady with 5 foot + arms (been a long day)

like a gibbon?

My daughters arms are longer than her height as she has scoliosis, her arm span is taken regularly to see how tall she ‘should’ be.

She should be able to wear whatever she wants in her own home, and feel comfortable doing so. Your Dh needs to learn to chill out before he gives her body confidence issues. Christ, I run hot so wear as little as that indoors and there's no way I would put up with any of my family members telling me to cover up, so why should she?

If the shorts aren't porn star arese cheek showing short, ompromise with a strappy cotton t-shirt on top? If she sits OK in company I'd not be too bothered with being comfy at home (I'm all leg & often there's not enough leg room to get comfortable under normal desks & tables, it's a pain)