Am I being unreasonable to wanna spend my child’s birthday just us?

[Shannan]

My youngest son is 1 on Friday, we are going on a days outing on Saturday and I just wanted to spend the day at home with the kids on his actual day as a family, however my partner would like to take him to see his parents ( just him and my son ) they only live 15 mins away, but I really don’t wanna spend a couple of hours away from him on his first birthday! I’ve said they could come over ( which they won’t as we don’t get on ) am I being totally unreasonable for wanting to spend my sons whole birthday with him? I was wanting to spend the day together doing activities as a family, the thought of spending a couple of hours sitting alone is really getting to me.

Tabby Your post was horrible. You said, quite clearly, that grandparents should butt out. That you don’t understand why grandparents wanting to get involved on the gdcs birthdays.

Well, funnily enough, lots of gps are absolutely lovely and have good relationships with the dgc. We don’t actually know anything about he relationship between the grandmother and her grandchildren at all in this instance, but you’ve extrapolated madly based on, as flowery says, your own issues.

2 hours. Not a few hours. A visit from their son and grandson on his birthday.

Shock, horror, hold the front page.

Read my post, Tabby. What I do know is that my mother would never have allowed her relationship with her MIL interfere with my relationship with my grandmother.

I would be bothered about his parents wanting the best bits of time with their grandchild if they are content in not having a decent relationship with their grandchild's mother.

”Flowery....the op has indicated the in laws want their son to take the one year old to them on his birthday. This will take a few hours out of their day with him.”

Two hours total. And where do you get “insist”, and why are you assuming the family day out is planned for the Saturday because of the GP request?? OP sounds like she is thinking of refusing their request anyway, so it’s clearly not the reason for the day out being the following day.

Serious projection here!

Cassian...I dont understand why they want to see them on the day...not I dont think they shouldn't be involved. And very often they should butt out. I dont think that's so terrible saying that. "Extrapolared madly"! I think not...just taking part in a thread, just like you. And yes 2 hours is a lot out of a one year olds day when his Mum is sat at home, sad about it.

You have commented on how your Mother would never allow her relationship with her MIL affect your relationship with your grannies, but I'm not sure why? Do you think for some reason that I let my relationship with my in laws affect my kids relationship with their granny? Not sure why you would think that when you nothing about us.

Jeeze. Fathers really do count for nothing with most posters on this forum. It appalls me at times. And this thread is one of 'those threads'.

And cassian saying "what goes around, comes around" is quite a nasty horrible thing to say to anyone, so you aren't whiter than white are you.

Jeeze. Fathers really do count for nothing with most posters on this forum. It appalls me at times. And this thread is one of 'those threads'.

I can't edit my post above, but to be fair, it's not most people on this thread - but the posts dismissing him are aggressive and unfair and it winds me up.

2 hours is a few hours?!

Let him go, enjoy the peace. I am happy for mine to go anywhere at anytime if I can get some cleaning done or put the washing on. I have 3 children, they get less exciting the more you have. 😂