To think it's too early to be thinking about Christmas?

[AndroidB]

Mil was asking dh yesterday what we intended to do for Christmas and that she wanted us to go to hers on Christmas eve and stay until the day after boxing day. Massive guilt trip included. AIBU to think it's too early to commit to plans for Christmas? Any of you plan this early ahead?

@joblotbubble me too. Never even crossed my mind to spend Christmas anywhere other than in my own home, especially once I had my DC. Family were visited either on Christmas Eve or Boxing Day, whichever fitted in with general arrangements but not pre-planned, just dropping in for a short while and other family members doing the same with us.
Me & my DC have always had happy, stress free holidays as a result.

I think she’s BU to start booking you for the whole of Christmas so that you can’t do anything else. I don’t think it’s too early to be thinking of plans though. It’s not that long until Christmas really!

I am doing my Xmas planning/ shopping now so I would say it's not too early.
Yanbu when it comes to your mil trying to guilt trip you. Tell her you already have plans and give her an alternative date you can visit (if you want to) or offer to do

a video call on Xmas day.

It isn't too early to be doing basic planning.

That isn't any reason to be guilt tripped into stuff though.

YRNBU it's too early. what do you want to do?

@AndroidB

Not too early at all to be planning Christmas.

But I would NOT be spending the 3 days - Christmas Eve, Christmas day, and Boxing day, at anyone else's house. Nor would I have anyone staying with us.

A visit for an hour or two yes, but the rest of the time will be spent in our home.

If they live multiple 100s of miles away, then I would visit them the week before Christmas, but no way would I spend Christmas eve through to Boxing day at someone else's house.

I’m already thinking about Christmas - I do most of the legwork, and I find it less stressful if I get going early.

But I do understand why some people really don’t want to think about it until much closer to the day - we are all different.

Nope.
Bought Christmas presents. All done. Means I can use funds in Oct and Nov for my twins' Jan b-day, plus Spring hols.
Have to plan ahead, as bi-cultural family dynamic; my ex also has older children with his first wife.
I used to NEVER organise Christmas, but these days? Yeah!

I’m already planning and Christmas shopping. I always start in September to be done by end November.
I’d quite like to be done by end October this year in case B*** messes thing up.
We don’t need to plan what’s happening as we always have my parents and MIL here, with Boxing Day to ourselves.

It’s not that far ahead to plan imo.

Only 3 pay days to go, so we need to think about our budget for gifts etc.

Part of budgeting for us is knowing who will be where (travel costs), who is cooking/hosting etc.

We usually start thinking and planning in September. Just a bit, it’s not like we’re in full on Xmas mode from now until the big day.

Low key Xmas here but lunch out is booked, a couple of gigs sorted and NYE hotel booked.
I only buy for 6 people and 5 of those are sorted.
No massive food shop to do as we eat out Xmas eve and day. I don't host .
Stress free and totally chilled.

Not too early to be planning, especially if theres travel plans & annual leave to take in to account. I only have 3 more pay days too so I don't see the problem with starting shopping now.

Yanbu to say no to MIL though, its your Christmas and your perfectly entitled to spend it how you want.

She's asking early before you make other plans. If you don't want to go just tell her you want a quiet one in your own home this year. Give her the heads up early so she can make other plans.