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To delete friend who has joined an MLM

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lastqueenofscotland · 16/09/2019 13:35

A lady I know from work has joined an MLM selling some sort of laxative coffee.
Her FB and instagram are covered in posts for it and about her promotions/trying to get a car etc etc.
She very much fits the profile of people they poach, she’s a SAHM and it’s been a squeeze of late for her.

I think MLMs are poisonous and I hate seeing her posts flogging this nonsense.
AIBU to remove her from my friend list

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IAmALazyArse · 16/09/2019 21:21

I kind of want my Hun on FB, feeling left out. 😁
On the other hand... I am really happy no one I know has fallen into that trap.

YouokHun · 16/09/2019 21:44

614dad it’s not a profession. It’s not your own business.

Let me guess...Utility Warehouse?

614dad · 16/09/2019 21:52

Can't help with that. My wife buys some Mary Kay from her friend but only because she gives it to her at wholesale price. She seems to like them enough to keep buying so I guess they work.

Mrskeats · 16/09/2019 21:56

Why does that *coffee’ person keep using textspeak?

614dad · 16/09/2019 21:59

I did not comment in order to post my business. No clue what that is you mentioned. I put in $199 and have made over $4000 in just a few months without ever having to bother people or post on my Facebook profile. Some things do work and yes, some lie to people and offer impossible compensation plans. That's not what I do. Anything works if you work it and most who fail quit before they give it a chance. MLM is not for everyone and some companies promise people the world and make it sound easy. It is real work and I always tell people that. If you are willing to work it like a business, it can pay off. If you don't plan to work hard, please do not join and waste your money. I think people get into trouble when they join companies that require them to buy products every month. They may still be legit companies but that makes it harder to have success since you are spending money you don't have.

joblotbubble · 16/09/2019 22:00

@614dad

It's like MLM bingo reading your post Grin

614dad · 16/09/2019 22:09

MLM bingo? LOL. I am not defending it nor trying to change anyone's mind. I simply said it is working for me. That's all. Most people quit and that is a fact. I have people who joined and never did a thing while many others got paid right away and made some $ before quitting, even if it was just $200 or so. It's just the way it is. I never say people suck or that they are the problem. The mistake is some get excited over a presentation and join a business when they are not really willing to do enough work. Those should be customers and should never buy a 'kit" or join as associates.

joblotbubble · 16/09/2019 22:11

I simply said it is working for me

Nah, that's not all that you said at all.

Some things do work and yes, some lie to people and offer impossible compensation plans.

Anything works if you work it and most who fail quit before they give it a chance.

If you are willing to work it like a business, it can pay off.

If you don't plan to work hard, please do not join and waste your money.

KatiePricesLeftEar · 16/09/2019 22:21

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Weezol · 16/09/2019 22:22

Does some kind if klaxon go off or what?

614dad · 16/09/2019 22:28

on my original comment that was my point. No need to get all wound up when I am agreeing with you.

  1. MLM is not for everyone.
  2. Most fail (98% or so)
But, if you do not do what is needed, it will never work. I tell people that. Maybe I'm one of the few that rather have a happy customer than an unhappy and unproductive associate who will say the company is bad because they made no money. If you enjoy your job, keep at it. Some of us enjoy doing this type of work and are good at it. That's also fine!
joblotbubble · 16/09/2019 22:34

Haha

  1. I am not wound up

  2. there is not a chance in hell we agree

ReanimatedSGB · 16/09/2019 22:35

614dad: if you have an adequate product and you are the only one selling that particular product in your area, you can make a bit of money for a while. But if the business requires you to build downlines, it will get harder. You are recruiting your own competitors, and as they make less money, so will you.
And if the area is already saturated with people selling the whatever, particularly if it's overpriced, of questionable quality or the sort of thing people just don't need that much of, you'll soon find you're not making any money at all.

CoffeeQueenOfHerts · 16/09/2019 22:46

I speak text speak. Whats
Hunbot, poonique, YANBU
SAHM and OP

ladies its been insightful and a few comments on here say more about that person than me.

You are all entitled to your opinions but you know what, so am I.

One or neither of us will be proved right. On that note goodnight, stay safe and love your family, because at the end of the day they are the only people whose opinion I give a massive shit about (not coffee inflicted) x for anyones arse that feels it needs one

Mrskeats · 16/09/2019 22:50

You sound lovely op (original poster)
It’s called an acronym.

NoCauseRebel · 16/09/2019 22:54

The issue here though is the marketing and the promises of wealth/happiness/the ability to work in your own time etc etc. And some of the products are most definitely dodgy and shouldn’t be legal, but IMO most programmes which promote e.g. weight loss are dubious at best,even the more mainstream ones such as lighter life and so on.

But in reality there are some people who will make money doing it. And even if that is minimal compared to those who don’t,the fact that some do is what pulls people in in the first place.

The over marketing of what you’re selling is no different to someone who finds religion or meditation or has some kind of spiritual epiphany. They do it because they’re feeling so enthusiastic about it that they feel that everyone else should want to do the same.

I do think that most mlm’s are most definitely dubious, and I think that most people who are that pushy need to be avoided, regardless of what it is they’re pedalling.

But if someone goes into this line of selling in good faith, doesn’t over promote to their friends and family and just gets on with their life is there really any need to insult them personally?

I have a friend who did pampered chef for around seven years. She absolutely never made a fortune doing it, but she did make enough that she could afford to stay at home while her kids were little. But she never pushed the hard sell, never flooded her timeline with advertising drivel, and actually, wile expensive, some of the PC products were ok, and I have some of mine years on still. PC have ceased trading in the UK now and when they did she had multiple approaches from herbal life/foreverliving and so on, but she was no longer interested as that part of her life had ended and the kids were old enough that she was able to go back to full-time work.

But while she absolutely doesn’t want to be drawn into any kind of selling, she speaks fondly of her days as a PC consultant. It’s fair enough, she did what she did, she never boasted about it, never tried to make claims which weren’t true, so I don’t see the harm really.

Conversely however another acquaintance lurches from MLM to MLM, she’s done foreverliving and then juice plus and then something else, but she’s a highly strung individual who is easily influenced. And her timeline is absolutely flooded with this stuff, and she is not actually open to conversation about it, if she doesn’t like the questions being asked she gets highly defensive. And I managed to get myself blocked by her which I reckon is a bit of an achievement. Grin.

burnttoastandjam · 16/09/2019 23:18

@CoffeeQueenOfHerts

I cannot fathom out your posts.

Please use punctuation.

614dad · 16/09/2019 23:27

I work with services people already pay for so maybe I see it differently as I'm not pushing products. For me it is simple to get paid for helping others save money on monthly bills. Anyways, nice chatting. Have a great night.

OtraCosaMariposa · 16/09/2019 23:43

So it is utility warehouse!

GarlicMonsterMunch · 17/09/2019 00:05

Phones haven’t been restricted by character numbers for a decade now, do people really still type like ‘u do wats best4u’ in this day and age, saving space? I use WhatsApp, but still have unlimited texts, and my device has to be forced to type ‘u’ as a word-using the term as loosely as possible. Is it meant to be relatable or something?

GabsAlot · 17/09/2019 00:14

Just mute them go to folow and click that or under notifications click down to posts off and you wont see any but they wont know

IAmALazyArse · 17/09/2019 00:45

@GarlicMonsterMunch allow me to translate it into more understandable text for certain posters😁

Phones aven’t bin rstrictd by character numbers 4 a decade now, do ppl rly stil typ lik ‘u do wats best4u’ n dis da & age saving space? I uz WhatsApp bt stil hav unlimited txts & my device hz 2 b forced 2 typ ‘u’ as a word-using d term az loosely az posebl. iz it ment 2 b relatable o something?

Happy nightmares MNHalo

gostiwooz · 17/09/2019 00:47

The only way to make a lot of money by working from home a few hours a week around your family and other commitments is to find a niche market and exploit it to the full before anyone else finds out and copies you. And by the time they do, hopefully your product or service will have become well-known enough to stand on its own merits and be able to hold its own against the competition.

And selling overpriced tat for somebody else who makes a lot more money than you do out of your efforts is not the way to go about it.

BiologyIsntBigoted · 17/09/2019 00:52

I have to ask do u ladies feel these ladies are losing money?

I know they do. Only the very few at the top of the pyramiid, triangle, levels or whatever shit your scheme calls it.

I also have a family member who in a few schemes of these schemes, starting with Valentus last year and she's lost hundreds already but is totally brainwashed by the script her upline gives her.

She might be posting on Facebook that her business is thriving and she's paid a fancy holiday to Disneyland thanks to how popular her coffee is but the reality is she's making a loss and in the ten months shes been in their debts have increased, they've borrowed money of family each week for basic daily living expenses and her marriage is now over because of her "investing" bill money into her business. Her uplines tellher to cut out negative people including her husband.

She's posted this morning about how she's lucky to have the business and how she's just paid for a new Dyson airwrap. She hasn't. She borrowed my mils to take photos.

Her story sadly is not unique and more common than the ones making millions.

MuseThalia · 17/09/2019 00:54

argh that goddam coffee, someone on my facebook page is flogging it, and everyone who comments on her page about how fabulous it is, is also flogging it.