Boys and girls sharing tents at scouts?

[MadameGazelleIsMyHomegirl]

Dd is at scout camp. As I was leaving I had a brief chat with 2 of the leaders. One said ‘they can choose who they share a tent with, as long as they’re happy. I’m ok with mixed ages, mixed genders, whatever.’ I immediately said that I hoped not, and that I was not comfortable with the idea of dd (10) sharing a tent with boys. I’m now thinking of putting this in writing as the more I think about it, the more it makes my hair stand on end. AIBU?

@Sweetooth92 on P2 is spot on.
The Leaders in your individual troop seem to have handled this badly.

How sad that you think 2 14 year olds can't share a tent without having sex- says more about you than most 14 year olds.

I totally agree with this statement ^
.......... though, I wouldn't let a boy and a girl individually share a tent when looking after other people's dc

It's not what the Scout Leaders view is - it's what the Scout Association Policy (which is guided by a whole team of professional safe It's not what the Scout Leaders view is - it's what the Scout Association Policy (which is guided by a whole team of professional safeguarding advisers) is. If you are not happy don't let your child go.
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Fair enough. What concerns me even more is that DS belongs to Explorer Scouts. He is one of the youngest (I believe it goes up to about 17?) and much less worldly wise (although still a raging
bag of hormones!)

Actually I believe the scouts official policy is to allow mixed sex accommodation because some troops may only have one girl and it would be a safeguarding issue to have that one girl alone.
When I was in Cubs the girls were always in a separate tent (annoyingly, usually a more modern one than the traditional ones we used). Early on there was only one girl so her elder sister (who had moved up to Scouts) attended to ensure that she wasn't alone.

This is the outcome of girls joining a boy's group! If you don't like it she can join guides.

Christ, I’m embarrassed for you. Spouting that bullshite, with absolutely no knowledge of why scouts accept girls and the fact that guilds accept boys and male leaders if they identify as transwomen.

Yes it can be mixed but as others has said only if the child and parents agree (my daughter was the only cub and choose to sleep with the boys rather than in a room on her own or with me (I'm a leader)

Scouts should NEVER sleep with an adult leader who isn't a parent

Scouts allow boys and girls to share tents. What POR says is that they must have separate changing facilities.

We segregate boys and girls, although sometimes they are in the same tent, but have a boys pod and a girls pod which is a zipped compartment in a large 8 man tent.

We do have some parents who are uncomfortable with that, so either they go in a completely girls tent, or if not enough girls they would go in a 2 man tent - with another girl if poss, and in their own if not.

In my experience (as a scout/explorer and then as a leader) there are limited scenarios when mixed sex camping is appropriate and parents have always been asked (unless it was an emergency situation such as one girl being on her own freezing in the middle of the night or a tent collapsing).