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AIBU or is she a CF

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Goodlookingcreature · 15/09/2019 10:45

Sunday morning, on the way to catch the train to work. Stop off at the local shop to find the deli absolutely jammed, so I take my place in the que, hoping I’d get served before I would have to dash for the train.
Just as I was 3rd from the top, this CF came in and asked the guys in front of me if she could go ahead because she had a baby in the car. They let her, i was annoyed because I was also in a hurry and if I missed my train I would be an hour and a half late for work. But I shut up and said nothing. She got her potato wedges and went to the till to pay for them. I was another few mins at the deli, and when I joined the que for the till, it was also long. As I was second from the till, the same CF steps in front with a bottle of water (so obviously paid for wedges) and says to the man in front of me “excuse me could I just step in front I have a baby in the car?” And I said no I’m sorry, I have a train to catch, we’re all in a hurry.

She looked appalled and very taken aback, clearly not used to hearing that. The man in front let her step in front of him and she turned around and told me I was very rude. I said no, I’m not. You skipping two ques is rude. You did the same at the deli. Join the back of the que like everyone else. I have a train to catch, we all have places to be. She turned around and kept telling me I was disgraceful, and rude. The cashier kept saying “it’s done now it’s over now stop it now” and the man who let her first then let me first and told me I had a point.

Is expelling a child a reason to inconvenience everyone else?

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Playmytune · 15/09/2019 11:39

You are completely in the right, she was CF. As you say we all have somewhere else we want to be, rather than queuing in a shop! To answer your question having a baby is not a reason to inconvenience everyone else! If she really has left a baby in a car itself she has behaved appallingly and illegally!

Hopefully with you calling her out over this she may think twice before doing the same again, but probably not!

Potatopia · 15/09/2019 11:41

YANBU. You are a hero.

PlaceYourItemInTheBaggingArea · 15/09/2019 11:44

It's annoying for everyone else in the queue, but I bet she walked out of the shop punching the air. You don't know until you try and I bet she she hasn't totted up weeks of her life queuing.

I have never done this by the way but have some admiration for people that dare to do it. It's pretty rude but meh.

sonjadog · 15/09/2019 11:44

I would have responded like you did. I have said no to people trying to queue jump before when it hasn't suited me.

It also isn't rude to not give people want they want. This is how women on MN end up saying yes to everyone and being doormats. We need to stop this idea that saying no= being rude.

Reallynowdear · 15/09/2019 11:45

She's a CF, there probably wasn't a baby alone in a car.

AuditAngel · 15/09/2019 11:50

Yesterday I was in a queue at a very popular sweet shop in a tourist town. I had queued with the youngest, elder child still perusing, but as I neared the front i called her and said time was up. I was next in the queue (2 staff serving, one queue -as it always is there). As the free member of staff called next, someone came from nowhere to pay, I said “I’m next, there is a single queue” and the woman turned to the staff member “aren’t you running 2 lines?” And the staff member said “no”

I think the staff could be more proactive, immediately sending people to the one queue, but I had waited ages and was not going to be pushed in front of.

BlueJava · 15/09/2019 11:51

YANBU, really annoys me. I get that someone may be bursting for the loo and need to jump a queue. But generally there is no reason to queue jump.

Carthage · 15/09/2019 11:51

I can't stand people who think because they have a BABY it entitles them to preferential treatment. Most of us have had babies and it didn't entitle us to be arses.

My pet hate is people in cafes who waltz up to the front of the queue with their buggies because their friend is at the front. I once had three of them push in front at once. You can't really do anything though because the person at the front would just order on behalf of all of them. But it's really rude.

Givemestrengthorgin · 15/09/2019 11:56

Fair enough her asking to jump in front but she was a definite CF to then rant at you and be rude to you for saying no and that you were in a rush too. The only time I've had to ask to jump the queue was in a petrol station when I was already running late for a funeral and then realised I needed to fill up!

nettie434 · 15/09/2019 11:57

I really hope she hadn't left her baby in the car and was just trying it on as an excuse. You were right to point out that she was being thoughtless. I feel sorry for shop assistants when somebody tries to jump the queue. There could easily be other people queuing in just as much of a hurry.

Hope you got your train - sorry you are working on Sunday.

Deathraystare · 15/09/2019 12:00

Phooey, did she heck as like. Probably heard somebody else say it once, and now she uses it as a handy excuse for queue-jumping.

That was my thought exactly.

If she'd said to me she had a baby in the car outside and I would have said "And?"

SchadenfreudePersonified · 15/09/2019 12:07

Good for you!

Well done for speaking up.

CoinOperatedBoy · 15/09/2019 12:19

"I have a baby in the car" Phooey, did she heck as like. Probably heard somebody else say it once, and now she uses it as a handy excuse for queue-jumping.

Exactly, she's found something that works.

I'm seriously surprised no one said "What are you doing leaving a baby in the car alone? - get back there!"

SunshineCake · 15/09/2019 12:22

Only thing you've done wrong, Op, is to spell queue like this -que.

MoominKitty · 15/09/2019 12:26

Wow that lady is so damn rude!! I'll offer someone to go in front of me if I have a full trolley and they only have little bits, or if I see a parent looking stressed with small children, but if some random persons just brazenly walked to the front and asked Mr pushed in I'd tell them to go back to the back!! I've been in a rush or needed the loo and I've ether waited my turn or left my shopping if just bits.

SunflowersNKittens · 15/09/2019 12:28

She shouldn’t have left her child
In the car. When I was younger a poor mum
Popped into the post office, baby in car and the cat caught fire. It was awful. She was being a CF

RustyParker · 15/09/2019 12:29

She was a CF and I bet didn't even have a baby in the car.

I was in a store recently where space is limited so there is one long cue in front of the middle till and everyone queues there until one of the several cashiers are ready. I was at the front when a woman just walked straight to the cashier just as I was talking over (CF ignored the whole queue of people behind me).

I walked over and said "actually I'm next, the queue is over there". She huffed, the cashier served me then when I finished and was walking away the cashier turned to CF and said "sorry about that"!!! My DH had to stop me turning back and saying something. The cheek! Apologising to the queue jumper!

Original poster
Goodlookingcreature · 15/09/2019 12:30

But that’s it guys, to do it once, okay we’ve all been in a rush but twice?! In the same shop?? She prob did it paying for her wedges too! I called the shop and complained about the staff, who basically told me to shut up and let it go. “It’s over! It’s done!” If someone gives up their place in the que they should step to the back instead

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timshelthechoice · 15/09/2019 12:35

YANBU

maz7777 · 15/09/2019 12:46

I would've asked her what the hell she was doing leaving a baby in a the car! Who the hell does that like it's some normal thing to do!

HeartZone · 15/09/2019 12:49

This is rife and sooooo annoying.
Last week I queued for the train for ages ( it was at the platform but we were not allowed to board) .... a couple of mins before departure a CF stood in front of me 😮 I said nothing....
At the taxi rank at my destination no taxi’s .... I queued....a taxi pulls up after a few minutes and a different CF appears out of nowhere but I waved and smiled at the taxi to show ‘this is mine!’ and jumped in ... but what I really wanted to do (but didn’t) was to show CF there was a queue behind me....
Not sure if relevant but both CF’s were male.

MQv2 · 15/09/2019 13:04

Yanbu

I also hate the assumption that the person at the front of the line has the right to decide for everyone whether they also wish to be skipped.

That's the assumption on the part of the skipper, I appreciate that if you just happen to be at the front of the line you've been put in an award position by a selfish twat

diddl · 15/09/2019 13:05

I think that you were rude in that she wasn't asking you, but the man in front of you.

Perhaps if asked for preference due to a baby in the car, the standard reply should be "best get straight back to it then".

Original poster
Goodlookingcreature · 15/09/2019 13:06

She was holding up the entire que by skipping ahead of every single one of us that was in front of her

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BrendasUmbrella · 15/09/2019 13:09

I wouldn't have called the shop. The customers let her push in, not the staff. You were just wasting their time over an issue that was nothing to do with them. She was a cheeky fucker and shouldn't have been served faster than anyone else, but you calling the shop to complain at them makes you sound like you're spoiling for a fight.