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Not to go on this date because of this one comment?

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hatshoeleg · 14/09/2019 20:58

I have been on one date with him and I wasn't sure if I wanted a second but I agreed anyway.
Yesterday I was just talking to him and said "gonna clean my wardrobe out"
He replied .."you will have to show me on Friday when I'm in your bedroom"
Now I know that's not even a bad comment but as if I would sleep with him on the second date and how presumptuous that I would be sleeping with him.
Aibu to be put off ?

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littlecabbage · 14/09/2019 21:00

No YANBU. He's just after sex, and if you want an actual relationship, I would dump and move on.

TheNewSchmoo · 14/09/2019 21:00

Yep, would put me right off

WaynettaSlobOnTheSchoolRun · 14/09/2019 21:02

My fanny clamped itself shut reading that. Yuck.

hatshoeleg · 14/09/2019 21:03

I'm so pleased it's not just me being ott
Eugh creep

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Oysterbabe · 14/09/2019 21:03

Yanbu.
I was chatting to a guy on OLD and he wanted me to confirm whether I lived alone before he would agree to a date. Blocked him, it just sort of creeped me out.

Lego5678 · 14/09/2019 21:03

Always go with your gut , sounds like you weren't that keen to start with. Don't waste time, move on! And yanbu that kind of chat would put me off too

TwatCat · 14/09/2019 21:03

I'd have a bad case of sickness suddenly on Friday, and every other day for that matter.

Not to go on this date because of this one comment?
MittsMajuna · 14/09/2019 21:04

YANBU

In his dreams.

Move on.

Ohyesiam · 14/09/2019 21:06

Unless you fancy the pants off him, run away.

Ambidexte · 14/09/2019 21:06

Eeew, no, YANBU.

bengalcat · 14/09/2019 21:06

What a dick - yes I’d be pissed off .

TokyoSushi · 14/09/2019 21:07

Grim, nope.

hatshoeleg · 14/09/2019 21:07

I don't fancy him in the slightest
I thought second date something might click,sometimes I don't fancy straight away.

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LilouBlue · 14/09/2019 21:08

Presumptuous. I'm not against sex on a second (or indeed first) date, but for him to outright state that's what he was expecting would be really off-putting!
I met my now boyfriend on a casual sex site and he had a hell of a lot more manners than that.

Frangible · 14/09/2019 21:10

That’s possibly not quite as charming as ‘You’ve got a lovely pair of legs. What time do they open?’, but it’s a close-run thing.

Tell him you’re washing your hair. For the rest of your life.

BumbleBeee69 · 14/09/2019 21:33

That comment would have been screaming no thanks too Flowers

CorBlimeyGovenor · 14/09/2019 21:33

I personally would go for a second date and invite him back to yours to see your wardrobe. I would be tempted to fill it with the freakiest stuff that you can find. Do you have any male friends that would be prepared to sit inside your wardrobe handcuffed and with duct tape over their mouths? Either that, or fill your room with dolls and introduce him to every single one and have a really old grannyish nightgown hung up on the back of your door!

Purplecatshopaholic · 14/09/2019 21:36

Yuck! The presumptive attitude is a real turn off. Move on

everyonecaneffoff · 14/09/2019 21:37

What a creep.
I'd be totally put off by that.
It's far too presumptuous after a first date.

TanyaChix · 14/09/2019 21:38

YANBU. Ewwww.

Ihatefootball86 · 14/09/2019 21:40

@CorBlimeyGovenor Grin seriously though, had a texr just like that when I was 19 (years ago unfortunately) told him off haha and declined second date.

Jozen · 14/09/2019 21:41

What CorBlimeyGovenor says. Grin Absolute gold.

RLOU30 · 14/09/2019 21:44

Do the doll thing, please do the doll thing.

SparklyMagpie · 14/09/2019 21:47

I think @CorBlimeyGovenor is just as bad as his comment tbh 😂 as if you'd even let a dick like that in even for the potential comedy value

Goingonagondola · 14/09/2019 21:48

Gross.

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