I really don't like being called "mate".

[NoDontLookAtMeImShy]

By anyone. I can't decide if it bothers me more coming from men or women.

I really hate it.

Hate being called mate especially by men.
Also hate 'Beaut.'

@Greytexpectations it’s an actual job title as in first mate on a ship or plumber’s or carpenter’s mate so yes it is all to do with your occupation it’s normally the term for an assistant

To answer the op, yup it’s annoying - also any other term like love, pet, gal, girl, duck, miss etc.

It's a term of endearment. I have no problem with being called mate, me duck, sweetheart, love, even hun isn't that dreadful.

I think Mate, Guys, and Dude are really nice gender neutral greetings.
I hate Ladies, Pet, Babe, Hun and numerous other names that sound like some small and insignificant creature.

@NoDontLookAtMeImShy

YANBU I hate it too, but moreso from men.

IME, a man calls a woman 'mate' to give her the message that he is not attracted to her, or interested in her romantically.

It pisses me off because I think 'I don't NEED you calling me mate or dude to show you don't fancy me. I am 100% NOT interested in you anyway. I am happily married, and have not a jot of interest in you anyway!'

Guys and dude aren't gender neutral :/

I would say mate is.

Me ducks around here, too.

I have randomly started calling DH mate though, and I have no idea why, it just pops out!

I am so guilty of this! I I never knew people didn't like it! I call people mate all the time! Also use guys as in like "hi guys" when I arrive somewhere and there's a group of my friends! Use these for both male and female! Genuinely didn't know it was an issue as I thought I was being friendly! It's automatic for me, so not even sure if I can stop doing it!

I don't mind people calling me mate in a friendly way. Why does everyone hate it so much?

I hate it too, it sits alongside 'dear' and 'madam' in my 'hate list'. I don't mind being addressed as 'guys' when I'm in a group though.

The only times anyone has called me mate they've tried to start a fight.

@pistolknight

it’s an actual job title as in first mate on a ship or plumber’s or carpenter’s mate confused so yes it is all to do with your occupation wink it’s normally the term for an assistant

Fair enough, never heard that before. The way Cherry put it initially it came across with an air of.... Snobbery for use of a better word 😂

Why does everyone hate it so much?

I personally don't hate it at all but suspect the dislike for it (especially on Mumsnet) is a class thing....

It depends. If a potential paramour is calling me “mate”, I would consider this a sign of being friendzoned, hence 😭😭😭

In that case, YADNBU.

I don't mind per se but ..... it's more often than not a sign that someone has mistaken me for a man

@GreytExpectations

I personally don't hate it at all but suspect the dislike for it (especially on Mumsnet) is a class thing....

PMSL there's always one! 😂 'it's a CLASS thing!' ... What a load of shit.

@Butchyrestingface

It depends. If a potential paramour is calling me “mate”, I would consider this a sign of being friend-zoned, hence . 😭😭😭

Exactly what I said/think... When a man calls a woman 'mate' he is letting her know he is not romantically interested in her. And as I said, it pisses me off because I think 'don't flatter yourself, I am not interested in you anyway!'

Round here there are a lot of Romany families so you might get called 'mush' as in awright mush..

I don't mind being called 'mate' or anything else if its meant in a friendly way not a patronising way.

@FaFoutis
"Maid" is Cornish as you like.

DH once accidentally called me ‘mate’ and since then it’s become a bit of an in-joke between us, so it’s not always weird! That said in general I would find it a bit jarring...

I’d rather mate to love anywY

I had an appointment with someone once who kept calling me “man”. I think it was from the northeast, so it’s possibly colloquial. Every time he said it I looked at him quizzically.

“It” should have been “he”

Ex DP would call everyone pal..it made me want to rip his throat out

I use it a fair amount and I have no objection to being called it. It is short and snappy and not overly familiar (like babe, hon, love, lovey or lovely). It is friendly and not sexual. I don't see a problem with it at all.