I really don't like being called "mate".

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By anyone. I can't decide if it bothers me more coming from men or women.

I really hate it.

People been?! Problem with!
Predictive text.

Yeah, nah, mate. Chur bro. . .

Sorry, it's a bit of a cultural thing. . .!

Ha ha, My kids get cross when I say "guys". I am the same with Pal!

or dear
Gives my mum the rage.

I came here to say the same thing as @SD1978

Everyone says it at my work

Eg email from director about work, thanks for doing this mate

Bit weird but have got used to it and started saying it myself, easy to pick up this stuff

I don't agree with pp that guy =man but guys =both.
It just shows that male is default.
Otherwise people would say hello girls / ladies to mixed groups and that never ever happens.

Can't get excited about it. I hear it a lot (London).

Not a fan of mate at all... But it is a million times better than hun. Can. Not. Abide. It.

I don't care, at all: mate, pal, honey, love, dear, folks, guys or even girl (in local usage, often applied to an adult woman with no implication of any lack of respect)
Can just about tolerate in certain circumstances: ladies
I don't like: hun, my dear

Well, 'my dear' is okay in strictly limited circumstances but not when the bloke (it is always a bloke) in question is being a patronising twerp.

I'd rather eat glass than call someone "hun". I immediately internally judge someone who texts me starting the message "hi hun". I know, I'm a dick and I'm working on it. But it makes my teeth itch.

Working in a customer facing job I'm just grateful not to be called 'oi' or far worse at times.
When greeting customers I stick to 'Good morning/afternoon/evening' 'Hello' or 'Excuse me'.
I have been told off for calling a lady Ma'am (formal restaurant) as I made her sound like a brothel owner apparently. I was also pulled up on Sir because he 'isn't Knighted'.
I just steer clear of them all now - it's safer! 😁

Where do I have to move to if I want to be called 'maid'?

Meant to add... I don't mind mate.

Fucking detest babe and hun.

DH once called me babe randomly 5 years into marriage. I threatened if he called me babe ever again he'd be hearing from my solicitor. I'm not a talking fucking pig, I'm your wife. (Obviously I was joking, before I get accused of abusive behaviour towards poor DH ).

Better than being called a twat. My husband calls his friends mate, bud - seems ok, it’s just a word in lieu of friend.

I hate being called 'mate'. It makes my skin crawl. But I'm the same with any kind of over familiar term of endearment. Like 'luv' 'hun' 'babe' or 'sweetheart'.

My particular hatred is when 'love' is used as an insult by men who think they know better and want to talk down to the little woman. Think 'Listen, love'. I've heard that too many times to count in my job!!

And ‘mate’ can be used like that, too, Fatted. And if the other person doesn’t like it they can say “Don’t ‘mate’ ME, mate!!” Fighting talk.

@Fafoutis I think "maid" is used in Cornwall and maybe Devon and Dorset.

Plumbers and carpenters have mates, don’t they

Wtf does that even mean?? What you choose to call a friend or colleague has nothing to do with your occupation

Beaut is a thing around here. I refuse to use it.

The DC use dude and mate with each other and DH. They use "mothership" for me, though, which I love.

Oh I love dropping in a cheeky mate. It's used to sort of lend I "wait til I tell you" air a bit like "seriously" I.e - how you getting on with the teething Snipples? Mate, I'm not kidding it's the actual worst.

We use it endearingly. Some of you sound so uptight honestly mate!

Glad Me duck is dying out ?

DS1 came home form his GP's saying 'eh up me duck'. My Mother thought it hilarious

Thanks 1066. looking on rightmove now.

I have shopped in Lush a couple of times lately and two separate people called me "lovely". Yuck! It's just about acceptable from a primary teacher to a young child, but I am 50 and I am not fucking lovely.

My DH absolutely hates this as well he'll say straight away I'm not your mate . He says it's a kind of point scoring condescension thing . So he definitely agrees with you !

I hear men calling other men “love” quite a lot. I find that rather odd