To not want him to take the job

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DH was made redundant a couple of months ago. We have a toddler. I returned to work FT when she was 10 months old. I feel so guilty for leaving her but we need the money and I am the main breadwinner. The only thing that use to ease the guilt was that DH use to work a late shift so DD was only at a childminder for 4 hours per day.
DH is manual labourer who has always struggled to find work. He is hard working and always willing to work.
He has been offered a job which is day time hours. He is pleased about this. I am gutted as Dd will need to be in childcare FT. AIBU to ask him to look for Evening or night work?

I would love to go PT but we can’t afford it at the moment.

Just as an aside OP as you mention your DH has done warehouse work. My DB works in this field and there is a real shortage of fork lift drivers (north of England). Can DH look at training for this/investigate demand in your area? If was willing to work unsociable hours he’d be snapped up.

I'm sitting here with my nearly 22 year old DD, who was in full time day care from four months old, 8am to 6pm, all year round unless I took holiday. I was a sole parent and admittedly didn't have choices, but DD has turned out fine and we have an excellent relationship. She's always been very sociable, a good mixer, academic, so I genuinely don't feel that there was any "missing out". Your DD will be absolutely fine.