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Is this inappropriate for my manager to do?

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Namechanged4posttoday · 13/09/2019 09:54

Hi everyone. As name suggest I have named changed as all females in my office and mums so dont know who comes on here.

I was off work yesterday due to my DH mum not being able to look after DD. She has been unwell and unable to go school.

Right now I'm tempting been at the company for 2 months now and its ongoing temp position.

My manager out of everyone has been a bit frosty with me but not rude or unfriendly if that makes sense?

Anyway so yesterday I emailed her telling her I couldn't make it in as nobody to look after DD.

I've come into work today and seen she has copied everyone in the team in including the manager from up north, the marketing manager.

She did the director and the manager of the north which is understandable as I ask them to sign my time sheet

But the other two I dont get? I said some personal things in there about my child care situation and she just passed the email onto people which was unnecessary.

I am in the office alone a lot of the time as everyone else works from home and am today.

Do you find this inappropriate or am I being unreasonable?

I'm really quiet annoyed about it to be honest

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Original poster
Namechanged4posttoday · 13/09/2019 09:54

Not tempting I'm temp working
Stupid auto correct

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Original poster
Namechanged4posttoday · 13/09/2019 09:55

Sorry manager of the south where we are she emailed which is fine.

The manager of the north was unnecessary

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Countrylifeornot · 13/09/2019 09:57

You are in a precarious position as a temp unfortunately, she could probably just tell you not to come back on Monday, depends on how much time and effort they have invested in training you.
I'd just suck it up probably in this instance.

sweetiepie1979 · 13/09/2019 09:57

Who did she send it too? The other girls in office? Did she email you back?
Trying to get a picture....

Mousetolioness · 13/09/2019 10:02

Very wrong of her to copy everyone. She could have just let co-workers know you would be absent that day if your absence would have an impact on their work. Sharing the reason why you were off was unnecessary and totally out of order.

TravellingSpoon · 13/09/2019 10:06

Surely you should have called in sick though rather than emailed. What is the company policy?

Original poster
Namechanged4posttoday · 13/09/2019 10:20

She emailed me back saying "thanks for letting me know"

I've come back in the office to check my emails and seen she copied in myself and these two unnecessary colleuges into the email I sent about my child care situation

The marketing manager doesnt even work in the country.

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Namechanged4posttoday · 13/09/2019 10:21

Nobody answers the phone that's why I emailed. In the office I'm the only one who answers it

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bridgetreilly · 13/09/2019 10:35

I'd say there could be a possible breach of GDPR. I would mention it to her that it seemed inappropriate to you, but unless there's something that's really sensitive information, I'd probably let it go.

Mousetolioness · 13/09/2019 10:35

As Countrylife says you are in a precarious situation potentially unless you are just seeking advice.

If the manager selected individual recipient names for the email - then possibly was done with an 'unpleasant' intention. If she was lazy, rushed or not paying attention and selected a pre-set staff mailing list - the most generous view would be it was a thoughtless oversight (outcome still not acceptable to you obviously).

Do you get the overall impression the business is savvy re data protection/personal information sharing issues? Did you have to demonstrate awareness of and agree to comply with GDPR legislation when you signed up or started working there? Been many years since I temped so don't know how it works nowadays.

At least you are aware of this issue and can request details of reason for absence can be kept confidential in any future communication.

AncoraAmarena · 13/09/2019 11:02

If you're often the only person in the office could she have copied them all in so that they knew there was no-one there to answer phones etc?

dollydaydream114 · 13/09/2019 11:10

I assume she just wanted to let people know that you weren't going to be in that day, especially as you say you are the only one that answers the phone - but yes, she was being lazy just to CC people into the email instead of sending them a separate note saying 'Just to let you know, [name] has had to take the day off at short notice today, so please email rather than calling the office if you need anything.' I don't think it's a massive deal in the big scheme of things (unless it contained ultra-personal details beyond 'My mum usually looks after my child but she isn't well today so I need to be home') - but it is slightly shoddy.

sweetiepie1979 · 13/09/2019 11:30

I’d leave it for now but just watch out for anything else if you feel she dislikes you. It’s awful when you have to take time off for children and you feel or or made to feel bad about it. X

WarshipWarrior · 13/09/2019 11:36

I wouldn't be that bothered. Cant you work from home too then if no one really uses the office?

AnchorDownDeepBreath · 13/09/2019 11:38

Has she copied everyone in, or just the managers? It wouldn't be unusual in some places for all the managers to be made aware when someone was off - even if they aren't based in the same area.

AmIThough · 13/09/2019 11:40

Will your absence directly affect the people copied in?

She's probably a bit miffed as they wouldn't get a temp in if they didn't need you to be available all the time.

FrauHaribo · 13/09/2019 11:52

I am in the office alone a lot of the time as everyone else works from home

so of course not BU to let everyone else know!

If the receptionist at work was off, I would make everybody aware. They do need to know! (and would get a replacement asap obviously).

If you are a temp, I would contact your agency for a replacement and no longer use your services if you are unreliable, sorry.

VladmirsPoutine · 13/09/2019 11:56

I'd write this off. Yes there was a more appropriate way of informing others of your absence but the nature of your role means you could be told not to come back on Monday so just let this go. It doesn't sound altogether a nice environment tbh.

familycourtq · 13/09/2019 11:59

Don’t put personal details in a work email. Stick to the work.

familycourtq · 13/09/2019 12:00

It’s not a breach of GDPR

Icantthinkofanynewnames · 13/09/2019 12:04

You can feel how you want but don’t say anything about it. As PPs have said, you’re a temp who has just taken time off and they might already be annoyed about that so don’t make it worse by making a fuss about who the email was shared with! In future also it looks better to phone in rather than email, and stuff like this wouldn’t happen.

GoneToTheDock · 13/09/2019 12:28

@FrauHaribo
If you are a temp, I would contact your agency for a replacement and no longer use your services if you are unreliable, sorry.

For one day? After 2 months? When op normally has a good child care set up?

Glad I dont work for you

FrauHaribo · 13/09/2019 12:30

GoneToTheDock
that's fine, don't worry there are plenty of people who do.

ElizaDee · 13/09/2019 12:37

@FrauHaribo Fri 13-Sep-19 12:30:50
@GoneToTheDock
that's fine, don't worry there are plenty of people who do.

That's got to be one of the wankiest things I've ever read on here.

AmIThough · 13/09/2019 12:42

@ElizaDee you must be new here if you think that's wanky...

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