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Is this inappropriate for my manager to do?

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Namechanged4posttoday · 13/09/2019 09:54

Hi everyone. As name suggest I have named changed as all females in my office and mums so dont know who comes on here.

I was off work yesterday due to my DH mum not being able to look after DD. She has been unwell and unable to go school.

Right now I'm tempting been at the company for 2 months now and its ongoing temp position.

My manager out of everyone has been a bit frosty with me but not rude or unfriendly if that makes sense?

Anyway so yesterday I emailed her telling her I couldn't make it in as nobody to look after DD.

I've come into work today and seen she has copied everyone in the team in including the manager from up north, the marketing manager.

She did the director and the manager of the north which is understandable as I ask them to sign my time sheet

But the other two I dont get? I said some personal things in there about my child care situation and she just passed the email onto people which was unnecessary.

I am in the office alone a lot of the time as everyone else works from home and am today.

Do you find this inappropriate or am I being unreasonable?

I'm really quiet annoyed about it to be honest

OP posts:

managedmis · 13/09/2019 12:46

That's where BCC comes in handy

Yeah, that was shitty of her

ElizaDee · 13/09/2019 12:47

I'm not, but that ^ is wanky. And most likely so far from the truth it's unbelievable.

AmIThough · 13/09/2019 12:53

How can you assume that 'plenty of people do work for me' is untrue? Or wanky?

Unless you quoted the wrong post?

Beautiful3 · 13/09/2019 12:57

Maybe she wanted to inform your colleagues as they needed to cover your phone and duties? I think because you're a temp, I wouldnt say anything.

DarlingNikita · 13/09/2019 12:57

so of course not BU to let everyone else know!

It's not the letting people know she was off that's the issue, it's sharing the whole email with specifics of why she was off.

OP, I'd speak to your agency about it.

user1487194234 · 13/09/2019 12:58

I have to be honest and say that if you complained to me about this I might consider getting a newtemp in. That might be wrong of me but I can see how I might do it

LonelyGir1 · 13/09/2019 12:59

Wasn't it so the others knew they had to cover the work you wouldn't be in to do?

DarlingNikita · 13/09/2019 13:01

Wasn't it so the others knew they had to cover the work you wouldn't be in to do?

Again, yes, sure, but there was no need to share any personal stuff.

RedskyLastNight · 13/09/2019 13:06

Maybe the manager didn't think the "personal stuff" was particularly personal?
Forwarding "I won't be in today because my usual childcarer is ill and I don't have anyone else who can cover" is not particularly a problem. If there was substantially more personal info, OP would have done better to ask her manager to ring to discuss.

FrauHaribo · 13/09/2019 13:09

ElizaDee
I am not sure what you expect someone to feel because you don't like their post

ElizaDee · 13/09/2019 13:15

I don't care what you feel. Your post came across wanky. So what.

Fairenuff · 13/09/2019 13:23

I don't think it came across as wanky.

WonderWomansSpin · 13/09/2019 13:29

All of them needed to know you weren't in.
Two of them didn't need to know about your childcare situation. Two of them did need to know.
It sounds as though your manager was saving herself from typing another email.
As a PP said, I wouldn't put private information into an email about why I wasn't in work. I'd give that information by telephone.

MouseInATelescope · 13/09/2019 13:34

I think she should have informed them of your absense if it is part of her job to do so.

Passing info regarding your children onto people you don't know well/trust, completely out of line. There are reasons they are very careful about this in schools.

FrauHaribo · 13/09/2019 13:36

ElizaDee
am I supposed to care what you think?
There are not many companies in London who struggle to recruit, let alone temps.🤷 That's called the real world, like it or not.
Who's wanky here.

MouseInATelescope · 13/09/2019 13:38

I wouldn't put private information into an email about why I wasn't in work. I'd give that information by telephon

Yes this. I haven't dont this in the past and have given away WAY too many personal details in emails, but I need to be more careful now, especially since me & my ex split.

SconeofDestiny · 13/09/2019 14:02

Bloody hell, how many posters are incapable of reading and understanding the basic info provided by the OP?

OP included personal details in the email to the manager.
Manager forwarded entire email to various other managers who have no direct managerial role over OP, presumably for operational reasons.
OP is the only person working on the office so if she's not there, there's no-one to answer the phone. Therefore OP can't phone in sick.

Issue under discussion: Manager didn't remove personal info. before forwarding on. Likely breach of GDPR as well as being poor management practice.

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 13/09/2019 14:03

I am in the office alone a lot of the time as everyone else works from home

How else is she supposed to let people know?

She probably just hit 'forward' and didn't think about it.

As a temp, I would not recommend complaining.

Walkamileinmyshoes · 13/09/2019 14:04

You’re a temp, OP. Back in the day if you were a temp, or on probation, you didn’t dare breathe the wrong way, if you wanted to be given a more permanent position.

Don’t say a thing

And Frauharibo your post wasn’t wAnky.
The great thing about this website is you can get HONEST opinions from people who are informed on the subject, and anonymous.

If you think your boss is being frosty you might need to keep your eyes and ears peeled for something else. And fgs don’t puss her off more.

Walkamileinmyshoes · 13/09/2019 14:05

Piss

LonelyGir1 · 13/09/2019 17:27

DarlingNikita Fri 13-Sep-19 13:01:09
Wasn't it so the others knew they had to cover the work you wouldn't be in to do?

Again, yes, sure, but there was no need to share any personal stuff.

Not sure your name change has worked?

Doesn't sound like something personal (all you said was that you had no childcare) or a breach of GDPR to me. By all means take it up with HR...and start looking for another job simultaneously where they align more with your expectations and are flexible.

Allmyfavouritepeople · 13/09/2019 17:40

Op I think you are reading too much into the situation.

You haven't done anything wrong. All the pp posting about you being 'unreliable' will undoubtedly have used parental leave or sick days or working from home or maternity/paternity or TOIL but because you're a temp you are obviously taking the piss by having 1 day off in 2 months.

I don't think you have anything to worry about at your job. The email was most likely a lazy way of saying 'this is why we won't answer the phone today' but the good thing about temp jobs is that there's lots more out there.

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