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To think I should have let him fail the interview?

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TheMessyCleaner · 11/09/2019 14:05

I had an interview for a cleaning job this morning. There was one other candidate, a man in his forties; English wasn't his first language. He was late for the interview but as they weren't on time calling us in no one noticed.
We spoke for quite a while and I really hoped that he did alright as he needed the job. We were then left alone to do an English and maths exam. He looked really stressed and asked me what to do. I tried to help him by reading the questions, he still looked confused. Anyway I ended up helping him so much that he ended up passing me the pen and test. I refused to actually write the answers for him but I did tell him if he was wrong if he directly asked me.
When we were called in for the interview, the interviewer said 'messy, you first, sorry mr X I know you arrived first, but messys name is first on my list.' The other man didn't correct him, even though I was there ten minutes before him.
Now I just have a horrible feeling that I might have done myself out of a job. I was trying to be helpful but I basically gave the man a lot of insight into the job whilst we were waiting as I had researched where the job was and what we were doing and he hadn't. Then there was the test, and them thinking I was late.

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Booboostwo · 15/09/2019 06:49

I am lost in this post. Which one is it: do you feel guilty about your privileges and helped the guy because you wanted him to have the job, or do you want the job for yourself in which case you helping him was really odd? It can’t be both.

Savingforarainyday · 15/09/2019 06:58

I have been in a similar situation - helped people I was in an interview with.
Not to the same degree that you helped, but by offering encouragement and suggestions.
Both times, I still got the job- I hope you will too.

I would feel incredibly disappointed with myself if I couldn't help someone in need.
You did a good thing ( maybe too much of a good thing....) anx you seem like a decent human.

Have you thought about working with people such as him? Seems you have a genuine interest.
Good luckSmile

Nixen · 15/09/2019 07:01

£18 p/h for cleaning?! Wow
I was surprised at the interview requiring tests and research into the company but if it’s paying that kind of money that explains it! That’s more than I earn, glad I got that degree 😂

Juells · 15/09/2019 07:18

I would feel incredibly disappointed with myself if I couldn't help someone in need.

I'd be the opposite. I'd be like the OP, then come out afterwards kicking myself and wondering why I'd been such a gobshite 😡

If the OP sat down to do a test in a job interview and found she couldn't answer the questions, would she have asked for help from someone else who was applying for the job, a rival? There's a special kind of entitlement there. Male entitlement, I suspect.

PhilCornwall1 · 15/09/2019 07:27

It's a hard world out there and if I'm in an interview/test situation and others are there, I would be helping none of them. I want the job and really don't want them to get it over me.

If another candidate (who, let's be honest is in direct competition with you) is given the test and is struggling, I'd be thinking happy days, that's one less person to potentially worry about.

Savingforarainyday · 16/09/2019 19:49

Did you get it, op?

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