Bought my friend a cheap baby shower gift ...aibu ?

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So it was my friends baby shower and I bought her some vests and bibs and a outfit (reduced for £15.99 to £5.99 in the sale )
She didn't know boy or girl so I wanted to wait till after the baby was born to buy nice outfits.
Anyway she said she didn't like what I bought and did I have the receipt so she could exchange.
I unfortunately didn't but she told me she took them back and the exchanged anyway
Now I feel so guilty that she knows I spent only £5.99
Aibu to feel crap here?
I've just spent another £30 on some more outfits now.

Anyway she said she didn't like what I bought and did I have the receipt so she could exchange

So, so rude. Although hardly unexpected from someone grabby enough to have a baby shower in the first place.

Please take the £30 of stuff back. The baby won't know about it or benefit from it (it will have plenty of clothes) and all it will do is reward your twat of a friend.

Bless op you sound a lovely friend but I agree take back the other stuff get your £30 back baby will have loads of outfits and may not even get chance to wear them and then it's £30 wasted when you could perhaps keep that money and get the baby something for birthday or special occasion instead

Why would you buy more outfits when she didn't like the first one?

Part of me thinks that she was rude & part of me thinks that if she wasn't going to use it...

But I agree that she could have just exchanged it.

It's not monetary, it really is about the thought. I was fortunate enough to get some beautiful gifts from friends when I had DS, all of them were colours etc that I liked so it meant so much that they'd gone and spent time looking for something. She sounds cheeky AF to be honest, I wouldn't get anything else. If it was a gift for her then maybe (although I think that's cheeky), but for a baby who won't know what it is let alone whether they like it it's a bit odd. Don't feel bad.

God, she was so rude! You have nothing to be ashamed of though!

She's rude AF and you reward her cheeky arse behaviour by buying her more shit? Fuck that. Take the stuff back. No more gifts. She's a pisstaking cow.

Wow. Your 'friend' is a cheeky, rude, grabby little cow.

I hope she has some redeeming qualities.

Unless they had ridiculous slogans on them I can't see why it matters what the vests were like they'll be covered in baby puke and outgrown before long anyway. Don't feel bad as you meant well but yeah I'd take back the new stuff you bought as Mrs fussy pants might not like those either.

She was rude to you so you spent another 30 quid on her? You felt embarrassed that it was reduced in a sale?

Seriously OP, have a word with yourself.

What could be so offensive about some baby vests etc

Some of them say things like ‘Daddy’s little princess’ and ‘I was born after mummy read 50 Shades of Grey’ and such like.

So, so rude. I remember my grandmother giving me 25 long sleeve tops for my DD when she was born, ranging from 6-9 months to 12-18 months. She proudly told me that she has gotten them reduced for 20p each so she spent £5 in total. I thanked her profusely, put them in a wardrobe and secretly wondered when I'd ever use them. Well when DD started creche, her clothes got destroyed on a near daily basis and I was so glad of them. Your friend is rude, she should have thanked you, end of and if she really felt she couldn't put the outfit on her PFB, returned it quietly and said nothing to you. Don't feel bad and certainly don't go buying more stuff!!

Wow, this is next level CFery really...

She could have tried returning them on the sly against your knowledge or regifted them/given them away to someone else. Who would ask for a receipt to return something and admit they didn’t like a gift? Seriously, so rude.

I’ve received plenty of baby clothes I hated and wouldn’t dream of putting DC in but I do the fake smile and appreciative thank you to their face! I’d never tell them I didn’t like it.

Also, I’ve never personally understood people spending a fortune on baby clothes. It’s so unnecessary considering how little time they actually spend in them.

She sounds well rude. What on earth's wrong with vests and bibs?! Sounds like a perfectly thoughtful, nice gift to me and I'd have been pleased if that had been bought for mine!
I mean, they're the most useful outfits you can have as a baby, you can never have enough of either!
Don't know why you felt you had to go out and spend 30 pounds more though, why? I'd have just said I'd swap it for her if she didn't like it and think how grabby

Would you expect anything less from a person who holds an event purely to get gifts?

When did people become so precious about what their baby wears?

When my DC were born I was given clothes for them that weren't to my taste. I still put the outfits on my DC, I wouldn't have dreamed of returning them.

Vests and bibs are a fine present, and tbh, £5.99 is probably about what I'd spend on a friend's baby, without feeling the slightest bit guilty.

Definitely have a word with yourself OP.

The mother to be has appalling manners.

So, so rude. Although hardly unexpected from someone grabby enough to have a baby shower in the first place.

It gets worse, it really does. You would not think there had been (is still) a recession on. People are thoroughly greedy. Obviously wanted something more flashy. Sounds a bit like the other poster's niece who did a thumbs up, thumbs down approach to her 18th birthday presents.

This proud Auntie(me!) got a nice photo on facebook of one of her nephews in his fire engine top and a thank you! Of course, if they did not like something I would be happy to exchange it but so far I think they have loved the stuff I bought them. I know my new SIL is not liking 'brands' but I don't particularly want to see a baby in logos so that's ok!

She was very rude.

You have nothing to feel bad about and tbh I think your friend was really rude - she should have said thank you and been gracious regardless of whether she liked them or not. You definitely don't need to give her anything else.

How rude of her! Don't feel guilty at all, you sound lovely!

In terms of hideous gifts, I have the best one: in Arab countries newborn girls are often presented with tons of jewellery. My sister received a tiny necklace with the symbol of the evil eye in it - i.e. to ward off evil - and the gold was folded over in such a way that a little loose evil-eye pupil rattled around within it. It was horrendous.

My very British mother did her best to act grateful even after that, so a non-appealing babygro is nothing, surely!!

It was similar to this... on a newborn

But if you didn't have the receipts, your friend won't know you only paid £5.99 for them. She'll know that they are now £5.99 in the sale, but she won't know that they weren't full price when you bought them.

Also, as others have said, she shouldn't have told you she didn't like them - it's fine to return gifts like that, but not to tell the other person you're going to do it (especially when it's something as innocuous as vests and bibs - unless they had offensive slogans on them I can't see what could possibly be wrong with them. It's not like the vests can even be the wrong size when the baby hasn't even been born yet!)