School mums

[schoolmums]

My daughter has been at the same school since nursery.

No idea why but all the school mums just blank me.

They say hi if they are on there own but if there is more than one of them then I get ignored.

It makes me feel shit.

I'd never leave anyone out.

If I try to talk to them it feels awkward like they can't be arsed.

Kids parties my daughter gets invited to, they mostly sit in a group without me.
It's horrible and I feel awkward as fuck.
I end up sitting on my own for the whole
Time.

I know this shouldn't bother me but it's shit seeing them all being matey and just blanking me.

We have all known each other ( kids in same year) for the last four years.

Well I say l known. But all stood in The same pick up place/drop off place since they started in nursery.

Life is too short. Walk with your head head high and be confident in who you are. You do not need their validation.

If one of them is on there own they will male conversation with me if I instigate it.

If they are not on their own they blank me.

Dont worry I'm a reject too. I'm honest. I dont use people. I'm not into gossip. I call a spade a spade and I dont glam up. There for I'm.an.embarrassment to be seen with and I'm no use to anyone and I guess I cabt be arsed to even pretend I believe you any more. Come talk to me. I find fellow rejects make the better friends

Parents in DD class v cliquey. I am really friendly with parents in DS class who is younger. Think it's luck of the draw. Yep fuck em. Their loss!!

My next school run is Wednesday.

I'm so done now fuck em

It's nice to know normal people get this and it's not an Unusual thing.

I'm almost quite proud of the fact that in 10 years of primary school runs I didn't make one single school mum friend a quick in and out in the way to work and back with a passing hello at the most, suited me just fine!

Balls to them.

There are loads of parties we dont go to as I dont want to sit with them & DD doesnt want to play with them/go.

I make it my business to be an absolute nuisance and talk the ear off anyone I see at the school gate !! You will be consulted about the weather if im there! Buuuut then what usually happens is someone cooler shows up and I’m a weird third wheel while they catch up or I wander off to consult the next lone person about the weather.
I too found out there’s a WhatsApp group that doesn’t include me.
Meh. Their loss I’m awesome

@schoolmums I felt exactly the same when my DD was in preschool and Reception. Used to make me feel sick with anxiety approaching the gates but now I've got to know a nice group of mums and just chat to them. There will always be mums on the sidelines who are shy and have no one to talk to so why not try and look around for someone standing on their own?
Ignore the bitchy cliquey types. They are pathetic and childish and behave worse than the kids!!

Don't try and instigate conversation anymore, blank them. I've never noticed if people ignore me in the playground. I couldn't give a shit about making mundane conversation with people I don't know. Infact I actively avoid it 😂

Sorry just realised someone else suggested similar further up the thread.

@Drogosnextwife me too, in a way I'm relieved when they don't speak to me!

Infact I like to have a giggle to myself when I see the usual cliques. They live a life of keeping up with the joneses it's quite sad.

You’re not alone. Same here for me in Aust. It gets me down as well. The store be friend I did make moved away

‘One friend I did make’

Think it's luck of the draw

Yes, I think you’re right. Sometimes it’s just an unfortunate mix - a couple of mums who seek out that queen bee status, combined with a bunch of mums who are drawn to being part of the popular crowd and/or have a face that fits. I think having a high percentage of PFBs in a class affects it too - once you have a second child at school, you probably give less of a fuck about making friends and making a good impression.

That’s my experience anyway. Reception class was cliquey as hell. Mums who I did chat to and had older children commented that their other children’s classes hadn’t been anywhere NEAR that unpleasant. Then the classes got mixed up for Y2 and, although people seemed less interested in chatting to people they didn’t know already, the outright hostility had gone. Such a relief to stand there not feeling like a social pariah.

@Lizzylozzy444, 😂 I am actually a nice personand I can make conversation with anyone, I just avoid making it with those people. Don't want to get sucked into their world.

Why are you bothered? I give 0 fucks to the School Mother’s gang, I collect my DS and off we go.

Same! At the end of last school year I messaged a mum who is also a neighbour as I knew she was having a rough time, offered to have her kids round to play so she could have a break etc and we chatted fine she was grateful for the offer etc. Saw her this morning twice, both times she was with one same other mum, and full on ignored my greeting... ok then??? Luckily I am genuinely not arsed about friends etc, happy to be friend to anyone but also to noone, but I couldn't help thinking how that type of thing could really damage someome who was looking for social acceptance!

I was never very close to other school mums in school-run days, but then I had little in common with them (many of them had known each other since they themselves were in primary school, I was a lot older, single, etc. It didn't bother me, because I'd learned to cope with it in todder group days.
You don't have to be friends with these people; you don't have to be more than civil to them. It doesn't matter.

Oh god they blank me too it’s awful oldest dd in P4 now and I’m less sensitive to it but it’s always left me feeling like shit!

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They still keep coming for me though like zombies tbh

Thankfully I’ve never really had a problem with cliques. But there is one particular mum who used to be really friendly with me, and all of a sudden has started blanking me or quickly ending a conversation if I try to talk to her. It doesn’t upset me, I’m just a bit baffled!