To not want to decorate sisters new house!

[Lillyrose80]

My sister has recently bought a house. It needs alot of work doing to it. She has left husband amicably and her ex husband is extremely supportive and has kids alot.
She is quite a pushy character as aposed to myself who can't be assed frankly and don't ever feel comfortable making people feel bad for doing something they don't want to do.
I have 2 kids btw, single parent, extremely unsupportive ex I do everything by myself. I have always been totally independent.
My sister has never really been there for me she only really contacts when she wants something. We've never been close if I'm honest.
She's added me to a group chat with other family member saying that she wants help to renovate new house giving us all jobs, painting, and laying carpets etc. Refurbishment. I just read the group chat and though wtf??? Is she f*cking kidding me or taking the absolute p*s?! I don't want to do this. I really don't feel I should volunteer my time to do this?? Its not my project it's hers
I would be more inclined to help a good friend as she has been quite horrid to me in the past. I really feel she is being a cheeky cow.
Now I know she will probably come back saying you have "free" time as I don't work like she does and my youngest started school this week. It is literally the first time I have had no kids at home in years. I have just signed up to study again and get myself out there so I can now get myself a career. I'm just pist off that she assumes I'm helping!!??!! And my life is overlooked. Now I need some advice please on what to say. I don't want to fall out with her so please give diplomatic response SUGGESTIONS PLEASE :)

AIBU?

I'd just reply

Nah.

Either leave the group or send a crying laughing emoji

“Oh God no I hate decorating. Got fed up to the back teeth of it when I did all my house on my own.”

Recently had my cf sister ask if we could help niece move house, because she has one toddler. I laughed and said, “Oh God no, we’ve moved half a dozen times, I’ve had enough of that. But hey, we managed fine with a gaggle of kids and no family help, I’m sure DN will be okay.”

Either leave the group or mute it and never read it. If she calls you about it just say "Sorry, really busy at the moment as I'm doing and don't have any spare time".

Agree with PP, leave the group.

If she messages you separately say you don’t have time to help as you are job hunting, redoing your CV etc- can’t argue with that.

Just leave the group. It’s a silent answer and if she asks you why you’ve left just say “I’m unable to help”

How about a reply like:

• I wish I could invoice you for wasting my time
• if you listened carefully you could hear me not caring
• i’m Sorry did I roll me eyes out loud?

Leave the group and think no more of it.

If you don’t want to just leave the group or say a blunt no (even though it could be quite satisfying), then you could try something like:

“Wow, what an exciting project for you sis! I’m afraid I won’t be able to help though. Good luck with it all 😊”

(Then leave the group!!) If she asks again/tries to say that you’ve got lots of free time now, then tell her you’ve been waiting for your youngest to start school so you can start your return to work. Therefore you’ve already got plenty of plans for your time and won’t actually be free at all. Keep repeating as needed.

Laurie message
Even with more sugar ! And leave group

I just sense you are going to engage with her and get in discussions about this, instead of just ignoring her requests/commands.

I also have a feeling you are going to help her.

If I am right you are the author of your own misfortunes.

Alternatively, buy popcorn and watch the group explode.

"No" is a complete answer. Possibly with a LOL emoji.

Give her some links to painters and decorators and wish her luck.

If she asks you outright say no fucking way

I would help family if they asked, but ONLY if I knew they would help me. It sounds like your sister is not like that, and to just give you jobs to do without asking first is quite frankly rude, in my opinion.

Just ignore, if she pushes it just say no. You don't owe her time, especially when she does nothing for you.

Would write 'Lol. No.' and then leave the group if you're not even close.

Leave the group!

Reply back asking what the pay per hour is and what lunch provisions are.

Agree with pps leave the group.
"NO" is a complete sentence...repeat in front of mirror multiple times until it becomes an automatic response to any CF**kery!

So I ignored for a couple of hours and was about to leave the group and she asked me directly in the group discussion "Lilly what do you fancy taking on?" to which I replied "No thanks Chick, count me out. Good luck with it all and Congratulations on the new chapter of your life, I hope the kids are all well"

BTW thanks so much for all of your replies. I have been laughing alot. Great advice x

A classy and clear response OP, good job

Perfect response.

If she comes back again say your sorry to leave her short staffed and tell her you’re dying to see all the before and after photos.

Some people

Great response! Well done op 👍

Congratulations OP for saying no. Hopefully you can continue with it when your sister tries other stuff with you.