To send a angry text?

[kelliparr]

My friend of 15 years has turned all the friendship group against me.
I lent her £400 and asked for it back,she refused saying she was skint.
Then started telling all our friends I was hounding her for money and threatening to take the money from her kids mouths.
Anyway it's been 2 months and they are all going out socialising etc and I have no friends left.
One girl still messages me but won't meet up.
She told me she knew I was in the right and had done nothing wrong.
Do I message this girl and say why are you taking her side?
I'm really hurt and angry

That's a good point, the rest of the group will likely be hit up for a loan at some point too. She'll alienate her friends soon enough.

It’s NEVER a good idea to lend friends money! I’d take her to small claims court!

So I ended up texting that girl nicely
And she replied saying "we've never been friends,it was "Charlotte " who invited you along with us"

@Dollymixture22 I've always "lent " her money but never got it back and I've never asked but this time I asked and I don't think she liked me asking.

Ahhh OP, that is so shit. You do a nice deed and it gets thrown back in your face.
You’ve never been friends?! Well stuff her as well!!

Small claims for the one who owes the money and block for the rest.

You know weirdly I'm not even upset now.
I thought I had lost a good friend in this girl but as she's never thought of me as friend ..I've lost nothing

I've woke up today a bit upset.
We've socialised together just me and her
How can she now say we aren't or weren't even friends.

Time to get some new friends I think. Try the mum 'dating' style apps.

After this maybe it's best to not have any friends.
I struggle to trust people and this hasn't helped

Hi
Don't contact any of them again,the negative energies of the group will just bring you down and they are really not nice people.Take her to court.

I am so angry for you op. You did a lovely thing and are being made to suffer for this. Privately, many of these women won't agree with what queen bee has done, but don't want to rock the boat. More fool them. These women are no loss but please don't be put off making new friends. Most people don't behave like this and you sound like a lovely friend to have. Lick your wounds for a bit and then hold your head up high. In a few years you will be glad you don't know this given of witches anymore

Coven not given

Onanither thread you started this morning

had been friends with a girl for years and I lent her money £300 ...I asked for it back and she said she didn't have it.

What is it £300 or £400 or is this a different friend?!

Bad form to do this, @lovemenorca

You have a RIGHT to be bitter.
She`s clearly a user.
Personally I would try and find out where they are meeting up next and walk in and ask her to start paying you back in front of everyone.
Name and shame.

@lovemenorca Does it REALLY matter? It’s still a whack of money and OP deserves it back.

Get new friends

I echo this. These people aren't your friends, they have no loyalty to you - do you really want these kinds of friends?

OP sorry you've been treated like this. Sadly some grown adults never really grow out of the high school nastiness 🙄. I'd just back off from all of them they're clearly not your friends and as for the one texting you saying we aren't friends take her at her word and reply if I'm not your friend why are you bothering? Please don't contact me again. I daresay the one who borrowed and didn't pay it back will soon start her nastiness with the others so leave them to it they'll wise up eventually and learn the hard way. And when it happens you can smirk at the fact karma paid them back 🤣 in the mean time OP find some nicer friends they do exist not everyone is a two faced, lying nasty bitch.

@lovemenorca Some people change the facts to avoid being outed

Good god, this is like being in a playground.

Find yourself a new social circle, OP, preferably one with adults in it.

All these ‘friends’ sound completely foul! I would tot up everything you have ever leant her (or whatever you can prove) and take her to small claims court. You have nothing to lose now and quite a lot of money to gain it seems.

Don't contact any of them again,the negative energies of the group will just bring you down and they are really not nice people
I agree with this advice.
They are bitches and she is a bitch. She will do the same to them as she's done to you and that it called Karma.
You dont need friends like that. Not every one is like that. It stings but move on and dont look back.

@lovemenorca well it was £400 but £100 was for a Michael buble concert ticket.
I've sold that and now I'm only £300 down

I would put it all on the group chat.

You owe me £400, before that you owed me xxx amount and xxx amount, I wrote them off and ever chased for that amount to be repaid.

£400 is a lot of money for me to be loosing, you are clearly still managing to go out and spend money, so perhaps you could work out away if paying me back as it's making it hard for me to provide for my own family now and I can't afford to loose that amount.