This is my first time posting so please bear with me. Apologies if it’s a bit long.
After having DS last year I had really bad PND and me and DP went on a break, we are back together but still live separately and our relationship is a million times better. The problem is MIL, I went NC with her not long after DS was born but always said she can see DC whenever she likes but she hasn’t seen our 2 children for a few months (she only lives up the road) because she’s too tired, working, needs to go shopping etc. She usually expects DP to run around and take DC to visit. He works really long hours and works away a lot so that doesn’t really happen. Example, this week he will be in North Wales, next week Netherlands. Yesterday was DD’s birthday and MIL dropped a present to DP’s this morning. The present is something extremely pink and girly which DC is far from. I want to message her and thank her for the gift but also say she clearly doesn’t know my children but nicely of course. Something along the lines of ‘hi MIL, thanks for DD’s gift but I think you need to spend a bit more time with DC’s as it’s not something she is really a fan of’ I’m not against the idea of possibly having low contact with her for their sakes but I don’t know if this could be seen as me just being picky or trying to start an argument?