To think it;s rude!

[Bottletopsx]

1. When you hold out your hand for change in a shop and they put it on the counter?
2. You hold a door open for someone and they glide through without a word?
3. When someone looks you up and down surreptitiously (literally)
4. When a family member does not acknowledge a gift you have posted to them?

5.When a shop opens another till and someone from the back of the queue runs to it?

Yes to all of the above.
May I add one more? When you are in a bar or store, waiting for your turn and the staff serves a ‘regular ‘ before you.

Yes forgot about that one.

They're all clear signs of rudeness, so I'm not sure you'll get people disagreeing with you

I agree with all of them. Except the first, well I agree on the basis of if you've put money in my hand I will put it in yours but if you have dumped money in a wet puddle on the bar after me putting my hand out then you get the same treatment back.

YANBU

Number 1 - is actually kind of common in Japan - you put money in a tray and your change is put back into the tray I believe (but I am not certain) this is a politeness/germ thing.

5.When a shop opens another till and someone from the back of the queue runs to it?

Fair play to Tescos, who curate the queue into place when they open a till up. Or they did last time I was there. One of the checkout captains took the queue in order from a neighbouring till, moved it to the new one before opening it.

I once walked out of a shop that did as the OP describes .

Number 1 - is actually kind of common in Japan - you put money in a tray and your change is put back into the tray I believe (but I am not certain) this is a politeness/germ thing.

I thought it was to avoid any possibility of (a) the assistant fiddling you by dropping less change in your hand .... which leads to (b) the slight embarrassment if you then stand there and count it in front of them ?

@DGRossetti I could be wrong, just something I heard.

From my perspective No.1 is fine unless I am wearing acrylics!

I may have been guilty of no.5 today ... in my defence, the lad had stood at the till for at least 30 seconds, not only had nobody moved across but nobody had asked him whether he was opening - so I asked, he confirmed, and I slid into the empty checkout. I only had 5 items anyway, all large items that he had to use the scanner gun for, so there was no wait while I unloaded onto the conveyor ... Yes I know I was being a CF

When you are in a bar or store, waiting for your turn and the staff serves a ‘regular ‘ before you.

When I've been in situations like that, just as the bartender hands me my change, I'll point to whoever was after me and say "They're next". Which does highlight what a fucking weirdo I must be, but I still think is a better system that the free for all we usually have.

I worked retail and did bar work for a few years as a student and can’t tell you how many customers put their coins on the counter. It’s ridiculously rude. I always returned their change on the counter too to make a point.

A nice loud "you're welcome" is extremely satisfying when someone just glides through a door that I've held open for them without so much as a thank you!

When people sit on the aisle seat on a busy bus with all their bags on the window seat and glare at anyone who looks like the might ask them to move.

@EggysMom just unnecessarily rude. You only have to point out the new till to the people in front of you.

@Mlou32 I used to do that and feel smug. Then a driver did it to me in the worst day of my life when I didn’t wave thanks for her stopping at a zebra crossing. I don’t do it any more, you never know what someone is going through.

I have some!

Sales assistants who push in front of you whilst you’re browsing clothes to replace a load of clothes from the changing rooms back on the hangers.

Customers in supermarkets who literally put their bodies in between the shelf and what you are looking at ( and I’m not being slow either )

People who walk along then stop with no warning to answer a phone/get something out so you almost crash into them.

Oh this is fun! May I add:

1. People who stop dead in the door of the supermarket to check their bag/ phone/ stare into the middle distance. Just why?
2. I greet customers with a smile and a cheery hello and they just stare at me then shove whatever’s in their hand at me. Would it kill you to smile or say hello?
3. Customers on the phone who expect service. Sorry but I was raised to believe that it’s rude to interrupt so I’ll just wait until you’re finished.

People with no awareness at all in supermarkets- block an entire aisle with their trolley, handle then return unwrapped bakery products, look surprised that payment is expected and start rummaging through their bag/ pockets.
Online all the way for me !

When a customer carries on talking on their mobile whilst paying in a shop. So rude.

@boptist

Or they could pay attention depending on the situation;

I’ve listened to a cashier at the till say they were open and waving people over and no one moved because they were preoccupied with their phones. I moved over to the till and some people were still standing there in their own world. Even Lidl and Aldi’s announce when a till is opening so people should either stay where they are or go over. Why does another person need to tell you to move if you choose to not pay attention?

Are you accidentally living in Germany? None of these things would be seen as rude there!

Please can someone explain to me why the money on the counter is rude? I only discovered this was a “thing” in the US when my mother was accused of being a racist for putting her money on the counter in a supermarket. She was horrified to have caused such upset. My father was the same race as the cashier! I’d always been brought up by her that you put the money on the counter as she said thats partially why the counters are there (the small plastic type ones). She worked in a deli from a young age and had one of those counters and had been taught to always place change on there by her supervisor apparently because they said this was more hygienic. I think she just believed on the counter was the more polite thing to do.

I now realise both of us must have upset a lot of people over the years but I genuinely don’t understand why it’s considered so offensive please can someone explain?

They're all clear signs of rudeness, so I'm not sure you'll get people disagreeing with you

Sigh. There’s always one.

OP, I’ll add:

People who push into a lift in front of people who were waiting before them

Motorists who don’t thank you when you give them way on a residential road packed with cars.

Customers in supermarkets who literally put their bodies in between the shelf and what you are looking at ( and I’m not being slow either )

See also : information boards, board maps etc at attractions of various kinds. I always stand far enough back that other people can also see the information (but not so far back that I can't read it, obviously). Why, then, do some people come along and stand with their noses almost touching the board, thereby obscuring it for everyone?