To think it;s rude!

[Bottletopsx]

1. When you hold out your hand for change in a shop and they put it on the counter?
2. You hold a door open for someone and they glide through without a word?
3. When someone looks you up and down surreptitiously (literally)
4. When a family member does not acknowledge a gift you have posted to them?

5.When a shop opens another till and someone from the back of the queue runs to it?

It sounds like part of the very British problems lost.

Never fails to make me chuckle

Ooh I'll add..

People who put their bags on train or bus seats when it's full but don't move them or huff if you ask.

People who hold hands taking up entire path as they walk towards you, having seen you, and expect you to step in the road or into bushes to get past them.

People who say "Can I ask you?" but don't get to the point. (No Briony I don't have 10 minutes to waste, what's the question? 😆)

Here in Spain money is always put in a little tray , it's quite rude to put it in a person's hand.

@phoenixrosehere if you can't already see how queuing is the fairest way to go about these things, I'm not sure I can convince you.

@boptist yeah I get that but then again you would never pull anyone up for anything if you thought like that all the time and sometimes you do need to say something to people if they've been rude or acted badly.

@Mlou32 I don't choose to "pull up" strangers on what I perceive to be rudeness, but what might actually be social anxiety, distress, distraction, stress, shyness... I don't look for the worse in people.

My bugbear du jour is when I'm washing my mug in the communal sink at work (which must take, oh, an entire minute if I do a thorough job), and someone comes up with a vessel of liquid and asks "can I just...?" and empties it past me into the sink before I can even point out to them that waiting 30-odd seconds is unlikely to result in serious injury that I spend the next few minutes wishing upon them.

@Bipbopbee

Sales assistants who push in front of you whilst you’re browsing clothes to replace a load of clothes from the changing rooms back on the hangers.

This is me 10 minutes past closing when people won’t bloody leave despite the tanoy announcement and the lights dimming!
If I don’t get my department finished I have to stay late so if you are in my way tough!

defo no 5,that irkes the shit out of me

and another one i dont like(even though i dont,or never work/worked in a shop)is people talking on a mobile or taking a call when they are being dealt with by a shop keeper or cashier,i find it very disrespectful to the person serving you

ive been known to cut calls or not answer and once i had a cashier say oh your phones ringing and i said its ok i will answer it later if find it rude and disrespectful to answer at the till and she was gobsmacked

@Afolnerd

Never had it in that context where shops were closing.

It’s happened several times and I just end up leaving the shop as the customer service is clearly non existent.

People who stop at the entrance when they arrive on the tube platform.

@Baptist hmm you've already stated that you used to do the exact same on the regular. And it's not looking for the worst in anyone. If someone is rude towards me, then I'll say something. Not really any more to it than that..

"and another one i dont like(even though i dont,or never work/worked in a shop)is people talking on a mobile or taking a call when they are being dealt with by a shop keeper or cashier,i find it very disrespectful to the person serving you"

I was waiting over two weeks to see a doctor. Part of the issue was I'd gone through the quick referral pathway to a local hospital and had a load of appointments, including a biopsy. The doctors receptionist had dug out an appointment around all this and phoned me to tell me. I'll be getting results via a phone call. So i answer my phone.

I've been a Carer and some people are shopping in their work break etc.

So have good reason to answer a call.

That's how things, work now. You can't walk into a doctors etc and just get an appointment. Clinics don't use email uf they're giving you worrying results.

Likewise, there's people supporting family members with anxiety etc.

If the DWP call you three times and you don't answer, you can be sanctioned.

Schools expect you to pick up etc.

@boptist

Your comment isn’t making sense.

If you are in the queue with others and a till has opened with a cashier saying they’re open and waving and no one seems to be budging because they’re preoccupied, it’s rude to move over to the till? Why?

A queue means that people are served on the basis of who has been waiting the longest rather than who has better eye sight or mobility or fewer children to care for or bags to carry or no wheelchair to push...

Of course queuing makes sense and it is only polite that the people in front of you have the choice to move to a new till before you. I’m not sure why you don’t understand this.

Some days I prefer change on the counter as I get static quite easily and I will shock people until I can discharge myself 😁 I put the cash on the counter and ask for change the same way yes people think I'm rude but my regular shops are used to me now 🤷‍♀️

@boptist

I understand it. I just disagree that it is rude. If no one is going to budge because they are distracted despite a sales clerk trying to get their attention or choose not to for whatever reason than the till is fair game.

I agree phoenixrosehere
Yes it is nice to pause when the new cashier opens to give people in front priority but if they don’tmove then fair game. Same as if a new customer arrives, onviously they will choose the cashier with no queue.