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Did I overreact to incident in restaurant?

172 replies

fatgirlonthebeach · 08/09/2019 06:35

Currently on holiday in Greece and was out last night for a meal with DP. It's quite normal here for cats to wander around the outside tables hoping to be given a bit of food. I like cats but I don't feed them as I know some taverna owners don't like it. We had finished our meal when a couple sat on the table next to us and started to feed the cats. I didn't have a problem with this until one poor cat started throwing up right underneath my chair. It really upset me and I didn't want to stay sitting where I was with cat sick on the floor so I told DP we would have to move to another table to finish our drinks.

The couple who had fed the cat saw me trying to move and heard me say (to my DP) that it was disgusting and I wasn't happy to stay sitting where I was. The couple glared at me as if I had gone mad and was making a big deal of it (whilst they happily carried on eating). I had a bit of a job getting away from our table as we were sat in a corner and the couple had put their bags on their spare chair which was blocking my exit. They made no attempt to move the chair to help me get out and carried on looking at me as if I was overreacting.

DP and I moved to another table and finished our drinks. The taverna owner came over to ask why we had moved so I explained and he apologised but I didn't blame him at all and smiled happily and said it was no problem.

DP seems to think that I overreacted and that we should have stayed at our table. He also wanted to order another round of drinks but I really wasn't happy to stay sitting where I was. The cat-feeders clearly thought I was bonkers.

Did I overreact? Would you have stayed sitting there with cat sick under your chair?

OP posts:
Disfordarkchocolate · 08/09/2019 06:37

No, I'd have moved to. And told the cat feeders why.

Oldbat66 · 08/09/2019 06:38

No I bloody wouldn’t.

HRH2020 · 08/09/2019 06:41

I would have asked the staff to clean it up. No big deal

Stopandlook · 08/09/2019 06:41

You did over react, you’d finished eating so should have just left. Saying that, I’d have done the same as I can get peed off in same situations. I’d forget about it.

LiveInAHidingPlace · 08/09/2019 06:42

Your husband would rather sit next to cat sick than potentially offend two strangers who you've never seen before and never will again?

Is he usually that wet?

flumpybear · 08/09/2019 06:43

A little, just move and carry on, no need to cut the night short

Weezol · 08/09/2019 06:43

Well DP wasn't the one sitting over it was he?
I'd have moved too and I've got a cat!

parrotonthesofa · 08/09/2019 06:44

I would have moved. Yanbu

Ounce · 08/09/2019 06:59

I wouldn't have let a cat throw up under my chair in the first place. Even a vomiting cat responds promptly to a firm nudge with one's toe.

Icantthinkofanynewnames · 08/09/2019 06:59

I think you overreacted. You’d finished eating anyway and it’s sounds like you only moved to make a scene. I also think it’s a bit OTT to say that a cat throwing up a bit ‘really upset’ you.

Shoxfordian · 08/09/2019 07:02

I don't think you overreacted
I would have moved too

fattt · 08/09/2019 07:03

No issues with moving but be honest, was it to make a point to the couple?

Icantthinkofanynewnames · 08/09/2019 07:03

I might be being overly harsh on you because this sounds like something my mum would do and everything she does is embarrassingly attention seeking - she always makes a scene in public. So maybe I’m being a bit unfair to you because it reminded me of my mum who drives me CRAZY! As a one off I guess it’s not THAT unreasonable/dramatic.

EleanorReally · 08/09/2019 07:03

did no one else know the cat was sick?

EleanorReally · 08/09/2019 07:04

it is like pigeons here, you shouldnt feed them, there are signs up saying dont feed the pigeons.
they shouldnt have fed the stray cats

Hamsterian · 08/09/2019 07:05

Yes I think you over reacted.

MRex · 08/09/2019 07:06

God no, I wouldn't sit "having a nice time" on top of vomit. The couple might not have noticed the vomit and just thought you didn't like the cat in general. Whatever, they were rude not to make way for you. Your DH is weird.

Teateaandmoretea · 08/09/2019 07:07

Of course yanbu. I opened this thread expecting a much more interesting scenario than that 😂. It is your husband who is overreacting, ffs you only moved tables you didn't start a fight.

LynetteScavo · 08/09/2019 07:07

You didn't over react. I would have been a lot less calm if my own car had vomited in my own kitchen.

Bourbonbiccy · 08/09/2019 07:08

I don't think you over reacted at all, the taverna owners we know try to discourage customers from feeding the cats.

I'm slightly different to OP as I dislike cats (and I'm allergic but only if I touch them) but the apartment we stay has a few (a lot less now than years ago) but the guests insist on feeding them the scraps, I hate it. The owner doesn't mind as she says it keep rats and the like away.

These are feral cats that could have any sort of disease, so really not my cup of tea at all, and especially don't want my don try to cuddle them..euck.

tasmaniandevilchaser · 08/09/2019 07:11

Of course YANBU, you moved, finished your drinks, no big deal. It would be disgusting to sit with your feet in vomit.

Strugglingtodomybest · 08/09/2019 07:12

I don't blame you for moving, but if you didn't stay for another drink simply because you thought that the cat feeders thought you were bonkers then yes, I think that's an over reaction.

Lex234 · 08/09/2019 07:12

YANBU for moving, I don't think many people would knowingly sit next to vomit if there was an option to move.

Costacoffeeplease · 08/09/2019 07:15

Bit snowflakey- ask the owner to clean it up, it can’t have been that much from a few scraps

Hederex · 08/09/2019 07:18

I think you overreacted a bit. I might possibly have moved but I certainly wouldn't have made it obvious why. I don't see an issue with the placement of their stuff, and I wouldn't have mentioned it to the owner.

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