To be depressed about how much weight i have to lose

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I've lost just over a stone but I have 5 to go.

And its shit.

That's it.

Right.

I had ten stone to lose.

I have lost five and a half stone and have four and a half to go.

It has taken me 21 months so far. It is really shit and it is very hard work - but if I can do it, so can you.

What weight-loss plan are you using?

You need to break down the loss into smaller chunks.
I had 4 to lose, 2 down and 2 to go. I set myself smaller more achievable goals, helps to make it seem less scary.

The smaller chunks doesn't make sense though because it's not like I'm going to stop and eat normally for a month and the go back to the diet. So either which way I have a shit tonne of weight to lose.

That's really good Mustress

I have to lose a lot too op. My back aches I am so overweight. I am just hopeless at diets. Now I am back from hols I must make another effort. Good luck op.

I've got just under 3 stone to lose. I keep gaining and losing the same pounds now. It is shit. It's necessary but I do completely understand...

No what I mean is, say to yourself ‘ok the next few months my target is x amount of lbs’ and focus on that. Then set a further target. I wasn’t suggesting going on and off the diet Only trying to help.

I think weight loss is an incredibly hard thing to achieve, that's why there are so many overweight people. I don't have any pearls of wisdom except to just keep chipping away. A year from now you'll be so glad you started as hard as it is.

I hear you. I lost 4 stone, over 18months, 5 years ago.
My weight has gradually returned and I am back to my original starting weight. The idea of knuckling down to calorie restriction again is agonising and overwhelming. And what is the point if I can’t keep it off?

I lost 3 stone veeeeeerrrrryyyy slowly over 2 years.

Depressingly, I not only had another 3 stones to lose, I plateau'd for three years.

I was weighed yesterday and found I've put on 10.5lb since March.

I've got almost 4 stone to lose.

YANBU OP. 😢

I know buddy, I wasn't trying to be an arse. I just mean that for me personally it makes no difference. I have lost one stone and 3lbs so another 11lbs until its 2 stone and great except I'll still be fat. Really fat!

But less fat than you were!
And healthier than you were
And you’re doing brilliantly. You should be proud of yourself because this is HARD.

I agree smaller goals and some acceptance that this will not happen overnight. That why it is important that your methods are sustainable and leave you feeling good about yourself rather than like a punishment for being fat.

For me losing 1 stone didn’t make much of a difference to how I looked but 2 stone was noticeable and it made a big difference to my confidence. Remember you will only look better with every passing week and month and you don’t have to wait until you have lost 6 stone to start appreciating your hard work. Be kind to yourself!

I should feel proud but I don't. I feel ashamed I ever got so big. And totally flat somehow.

It is very depressing, especially when you have hypothyroidism and seem to gain even when you cut everything. I weight double my ideal weight. I am two people. This is disgusting. I wouldn't even dare go out if I still lived in the uk.

Good luck.

What Chinny said. It’s bloody hard, give yourself a break. You can’t expect to lose all the weight you want in a month, it takes time but it will be worth it.
I have to tell myself this everyday. Some days are so hard I want to give up. But I know that WHEN not IF I get to my target weight I’ll feel amazing. And proud of myself.

Why can’t you keep it off @LocalHobo? Do you revert back to old eating habits once the ideal weight has been achieved?

Yes it’s hard, boring, and shit!!

If you go and find BIWI and her lowcarb boot camp threads you’ll find a fabulous group of women doing incredibly well, not feeling deprived and losing lots of weight in a very sustainable way.

Podcasts or books by Jason Fung are really good too. His pod casts are great because he’s very down to earth and not full of stupid shite!

My friend lost 8 stone in 2 years. She's kept it off for 5 so far. Food was crucial, exercise less so. The way she approached it was to view it as a lifestyle change, not a diet. You need supportive people around too, avoid the friends who try & tempt you with booze & bad food, you know, the "oh go on" types .You will plateau, you will go up & down along the way and that's fine. Deciding to do it is half the battle I think. You've recognised the problem, you're already doing great! Good luck OP.

I hear you. I have 8 stone to lose but think I'm In denial about my size.... My knees however are not - ouch. You are doing so well, please try to be kind to yourself and even proud of yourself for doing something about it. I'm joining weightwatchers on Wednesday, referred by my gp. I can't even begin to think of a smaller goal as like you I just think when I lose 2 stone I'll be back to the size I hated being at the time.

You are doing great, keep it up and I hope you feel brighter about it all soon x

Truthfully I couldn't do this for 2 years. This is why it's depressing!

Same here. I've put on five stone in five years since I had my first baby and the thought of losing that five stone seems paralysing, I don't know where to start.

I’ve been doing it since March and I fully expect for it to take another 6-7 months to shed the other 2 stone. At least. Mid-thirties and on medication that makes things harder. OP with the greatest respect you need to be realistic, this is a long term change. You won’t lose this weight overnight and that’s ok. It takes time, a change in your relationship with food and exercise needs to happen.

I lost 5 stone a couple of years ago, and have kept it off.

If I can do it... anyone can!

And you can too OP. I have faith in you, you've already started and doing well, so keep calm and carry on

I should feel proud but I don't. I feel ashamed I ever got so big. And totally flat somehow.

Oh god yes. But you know what to do with that shame? Turn it into anger. Get pissed off at your fat. You are doing great losing!

You know how when you are somewhere and you are just waiting for it to finish? I look at the clock and think "I managed 20 min. Good" instead of "Ugh. 40 min left". It helps.

I believe in lifestyle change rather than just super restrictive diet. I am currently lowering my portions without counting cals. I think about what is going to go on my plate. Then I take half of potatoes/rice/pasta or similar fillers off. I do usually eat a lots of veg anyway, but by taking these fillers partially off I feel lighter, but not starving. And it's something I can stick with happily forever 😁

Btw I have between 4-5 clothe sizes to lose.

I was 19 stone at my heaviest. And diagnosed as T2 diabetic (runs in family). I was so low, and changes were so hard to make.

The only thing I can add to the above is that actually somehow the changes you make CAN stick. I'm sure I read somewhere that it takes 66 days or similar for something to become a habit. You have to get your head around the fact you can never eat the way you did before. I'm good during the week and am a lot more relaxed on one day of the weekend. That way, it doesn't affect my loss and I never feel deprived... if I'm really craving something, I think I'll have that on Sunday.

I also make a lot more effort to walk (having 2 spaniels helps that) and I'm 4 stone down out of 8................ it does feel amazing to wear smaller clothes, and that keeps me going. 16/8 has been the game changer for me - I eat for only 8 hours a day, and that's massively cut down the evening snacking I used to do.