To offer toast instead of uneaten dinner??

[FusionChefGeoff]

I'm usually hardline - have one very fussy DC and don't want to make it worse.

Tried something new today - just a gnocchi tray bake thing, nothing too risky but still, no technically 'safe' food apart from broccoli as a side.

Both have refused after 1 bite.

Posted too soon - they've politely got down and are happily watching TV but I feel bad!

Should I give them some toast???

How old are the DC?

7 and 4

They haven't even asked for anything else? Is it possible you're a terrible cook?

I would but then I don’t force my kids to eat loads of things they don’t like.

I don't think so - adults are generally very complimentary

Do they usually do this or is just one of them fussy?

Generally, I wouldn't offer something else.

They’re not going to starve. Offering toast is a surefire way to turn a fussy eater into a defiant one. They will then just wait for their toast whenever any new food is served.

I generally offered toast if the dc generally didn't like dinner. Possibly I am a lax parent!

*genuinely didn't like dinner

One is very fussy - one is awesome so this is really hard!! If it was just the big one here he'd get another meal no question but I'm wary about setting a precedent for the fussy one.

They haven’t asked for anything else so clearly aren’t starving so no I wouldn’t give toast unless they say they are hungry.

I’m assuming your not a horrible witch and they ask for food when hungry?

I think I'll leave it and just be ready early tomorrow with big bowls of porridge!!!!

Yes just offer toast. Mine are 8 and 11, and are sometimes still fussy!

They genuinely didn’t like it, why not just give them cereal or toast?

I wouldn’t want to have to go hungry if I genuinely didn’t like my dinner.

But then I’m not scarily uptight like some people on here.

If they ask yes but if they are happy don't worry about it

I never offered anything else, it was dinner or nothing.
If they are hungry later dinner is in the fridge.
Mind you my son would have eaten dirt - he always ate everything I gave him.

They haven't asked so don't offer.

Dinner or nothing in my book.

Did they eat the 'safe' broccoli?

Toast but only because if mine don't eat they'd be up at 5am!!

No dinner or a good try at something new.. Equals nothing else in this house.
My dsd is mega fussy. But it's stuff she used to eat.. But at her dm she only has variations of pasta, chips and nugests, sausages. NO veg fruit or anything.
As I say she used to but now screws her face up.. We put small amounts of the veg with meat etc and tell her no pudding until eaten.. The last lot literally had 1 spoon of Sweetcorn.. She took 45min nibbling it.
The others got their puddings.. We'll the corn and broccoli disappeared in seconds because she knew shed miss out.

We would never force her to eat things she don't like at all. But we encourage new foods. And thankfully she actually liked some new stuff and was proud of herself.

I’d give them something. Not toast for mine though as they love the stuff and would always choose toast over dinner.
I offered weetabix or cereal and fruit.

I wouldn't. Rod for your own back!

No toast !! Both are old enough to give something more than one bite to try it. If they're hungry they try dinner. It sounds delicious and not overly 'not kid friendly'. I also wouldn't have let them leave the table no matter how politely they asked. I don't become an ogre or anything but I'm in charge of dinner time ...