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To think 10 is too old for a doll?

199 replies

AtSea1979 · 05/09/2019 21:46

DD has gone in to Y6. She’s 10. She wants a doll for Xmas and is still very much in to pink plastic things. I thought she would have grown out of this by now. AIBU to be concerned that she’s heading for high school next year and acts too young?

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Armadillostoes · 05/09/2019 21:57

YABVVU-Not only is 10 certainly not too old for a doll, the fact that she enjoys this kind of play suggests that she probably has a great imagination.

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AtSea1979 · 05/09/2019 21:57

I don’t understand why the backlash. If anything i’m worried i’ve held her back too much and her peers are in to older things. I’ve said no to crop tops, make up, earrings, Harry Potter films etc.

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CherryPavlova · 05/09/2019 21:58

We have a couple of baby dolls in their cot still. Very occasionally, I notice that their clothes have been changed and they’ve been ‘tucked in’. My girls are 21 and 26. They’re be horrified if I suggested throwing Pippa and Rory (the dolls) out now.

PalmersGreen · 05/09/2019 21:58

I wanted a doll in a high hair at that age and was refused. Decades later I still remember how much I wanted that doll and how the girl in the year above me had one.

You should be pleased she’s not asking for something inappropriate.

Jimdandy · 05/09/2019 21:59

Aaaaaw bless her I’d love it if my kids still loved simple pleasures!

arethereanyleftatall · 05/09/2019 22:00

Audacity - I think you're spot on. My friend has a 14 yr old dd who makes a bee line for the dolls when she comes to our house, under the pretence of playing with my (younger girls). She's far too pressured by what her peers think to still actually have dolls unfortunately, but loves to slip back in to that world given the opportunity.

Ohmydaysmate · 05/09/2019 22:01

I have girls in year 7 & 8 at secondary school that bring dolls in and have a picnic with them on the field! So 10 is not too young

Armadillostoes · 05/09/2019 22:01

OP-It isn't a backlash. You asked AIBU and were told yes! Surely it is good that we all think that your DD wanting a doll is a positive thing?

Ameliablue · 05/09/2019 22:02

No it's not too old but she will probably lose interest over the course of the year as she thinks about going to high school.

circleorsquare · 05/09/2019 22:02

I was talking to my 10 year old about playtimes and she still plays games, she told me that there's plenty of time to grow up and not play! She decided that high school must be boring just standing around talking. I'm happy she's still a little girl and would buy a doll if she wanted one

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AtSea1979 · 05/09/2019 22:03

It’s reassuring to know that others her age are in to that kind of thing too. Some of her friends seem to be in to clothes and make up and it scares the hell out of me. Then again when I was 10 there’s not a chance i’d have been seen with a doll, I was more interested in playing on my bmx and skateboard.

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BogglesGoggles · 05/09/2019 22:03

Because in most people’s worlds it’s normal for 10 year olds to still be interested in dolls and the like. Whereas it’s not normal for them to want make up etc. Out of curiosity why no to Harry Potter though?

CassianAndor · 05/09/2019 22:03

DD is coming up for 10 and wants a dolls house.

hopelesschildren · 05/09/2019 22:04

ha ha, agree with the other posters, but was a bit taken by surprise about the no Harry Potter films. Dds would be happy with both!

stucknoue · 05/09/2019 22:04

My 20 year old daughter has her baby doll tucked into bed next to her! My other dd boarded for 6th form and several of her friends had dolls with them. Let her have whatever makes her happy - but I would not shop until nearer Christmas because they change their minds!

HennyPennyHorror · 05/09/2019 22:05

I'm 47 and have never grown out of dolls. I collect the odd vintage doll to this day.

Crushedvelvetcouch · 05/09/2019 22:05

My DD is ten, just hone in to year six and still plays with dolls and prams etc. Yes many of her peers have phones and social media accounts etc bit I think that is rather sad. You have your childhood once so why be in a rush foe your child to grow out of it prematurely?
I echo PP, it will all change rather rapidly in high school yes, but all that is twelve months away which is ages in the life of a child.

hungryhippie · 05/09/2019 22:05

Why no to Harry Potter?
I still had my dolls at 10 and at 39 I would kill for a massive dolls house, but we don't have the space.

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AtSea1979 · 05/09/2019 22:06

armidillo I didn’t mean the YABU bit was backlash, just some of the earlier comments.

I was also thinking along the lines of cost and how long it would last. Then again I’ve bought things that have barely made it to Boxing Day before being disregarded so if it lasts her 12 months then so be it.

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PookieDo · 05/09/2019 22:07

I was ok with the doll, it’s not too old but Harry Potter? Whaaaaat?

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AtSea1979 · 05/09/2019 22:07

hungry because it’s creepy! It’s a no to all 12A films at the moment.

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Howtotrainyourhamster · 05/09/2019 22:07

You are not being unreasonable to let her have a doll....
Maybe a bit unreasonable to ban Harry Potter though Smile (as someone with 3 Harry Potter loving kids, 2 of whom are younger than 10!)

hungryhippie · 05/09/2019 22:08

Philosophers stone is PG isn't it?

SandyY2K · 05/09/2019 22:08

19 is still young. As long as shes a well adjusted child and doing well socially and in school, I wouldn't worry.

Elodie2019 · 05/09/2019 22:08

Another here saying buy her the doll. I remember holding a doll like a baby at a gathering when I was11 and overheard female friends of my parents making nasty remarks.
Some people like to push their DC through childhood.

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