To ask about contraception in a new relationship

[Nighttimenow]

Was thinking today- what on earth would I do if I entered a new relationship. Not advised to take the combined pill as b.pressure usually quite high, bleed constantly on any minipill I’ve tried.
The thought of a coil makes me feel nauseous and I’ve read too many bad stories of people who have asked to have them removed and it’s been refused when they ask.
So what would I do in a new relationship. I couldn’t exactly ask a new guy to get a vasectomy but the topic of contraception would need to be brought up fairly early on I guess so that he knows where he is.
Ideas please!?...
Oh and I wouldn’t feel ok with condoms alone in case they rip or something like that.

The implant? The injection?

Why wouldn’t you feel comfortable with a condom? They are effective when used correctly 99% of the time and there is the morning after pill should it split.
Or you could get the implant.

I mean, no contraception (except removal if your womb) is 100% effective as vasectomy can naturally reverse itself

Would the implant not have the same effect as the minipill? ie if it’s similar, I’d bleed constantly..

Condoms are relatively safe. Implant could potentially be a good shout, combined with condoms?

Anyone have experience of the implant?
If you bled on the minipill, did you bleed with the implant?

I had heard of the horror stories about the coil over the years which is what largely put me off. However, once I got into a relationship and didn't fancy using condoms long term I opted for the copper coil (hormonal contraceptions play havoc with me) and I have never looked back! It's been great for me and I've had no problems whatsoever.

My advice is choose a contraception that is right for you and not what wasn't right for someone else.

I’m allergic to quite a few metals so wouldn’t want to risk the copper coil either but honestly, the thought of any coil makes me feel nauseous

The implant seems to be progesterone only so I’m assuming I’d bleed all the time...

I bled almost constantly on implant and mini pill. Coil worked perfectly with little to no bleeding. It's worth a shot!

*mirena coil

OP, you will need to use condoms anyway in a new relationship, as protection against STIs. So you may as well rely on them for contraception as well. Theyre the simplest solution, with no health implications or toxic side effects.
Used properly every time they are a reliable method. Some people who claim they “split” or “fell off” are just too embarrassed to say they didn’t actually use one! And in the unlikely event of a genuine accident, there is the morning after pill.

New relationship means protection against STDs required so condom or femidon surely? Once you are exclusive and have both been tested for STDs then you can decide what suits you best. That might be sticking with condoms or using a diaphragm or a coil. Do you know if you'd be OK with the mirena or a vaginal ring that releases hormones locally? Those are your choices basically if you can't have hormonal contraception.

I wouldn’t be happy relying on condoms alone and don’t want the coil. So I’m left with the implant then.
Or does anyone know of another progesterone only pill? I bled constantly on Cerelle and also on Noriday

Diaphragm?

Could you use condoms and get the morning after pill if ever one was to break? It’s not ideal but in all my life, I’ve only ever had a condom break once (it was really obvious!). Surely a short course of hormonal contraception would be better than one you are taking constantly- if you had to choose the lesser of two evils.

Has anyone tried Norgeston?
Thanks so far... I still wouldn’t want to rely on condoms alone.

would you have a problem with a diaphragm?

What would be your suggestion? You’ve discounted all hormone contraceptives and of course you couldn’t expect someone to get a vasectomy into well into a relationship

Find a man who has already had a vasectomy!

Are you particularly concerned about getting pregnant? If not then I suppose you could use condoms plus spermicide and avoid fertile days then have an abortion if you get unlucky.

Diaphragm is amazing!

I hated the implant asvot made me extremely moody to the point I wanted to kill someone!

What is it about the coil that makes you feel nauseous? Having a tiny coil inserted into you is no different in terms of "ickyness" to having a tiny implant put into your arm.

I'm allergic to lots of metals too and I've never had a problem with the copper coil.

Boggles- yes I am.
I think if I get into relationship, I may try Norgeston. Anyone any experience of it?
I think the diaphragm would be too tricky for me

I second condom and learning your own cycle. If you are already off hormones start doing it now. Easiest is to search for info on looking to get pregnant but obviously its the opposite!
As a worst case scenario you then have morning after pill if its a true condom accident (but like someone else noted - apparently many 'accidents' of a split are just people being embarrassed they didn't use one)
Also make sure the guy actually really knows what he's doing with a condom - putting it on properly so it won't split and also taking it off cleanly. Plus then very thorough washing if you want to carry on being physical...