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To get my revenge

59 replies

Imfinallyhappy1 · 05/09/2019 17:01

I’ll start by saying I know it’s pathetic and petty. I’ve taken the high road for so long and forgiven my dad time and time again.

I’ve gone LC after another verbal lashing and subsequent family members not allowed to talk to me or just don’t bother with me.

My dad is controlling, I had a very hard childhood and various horrid things happen to me and as a result I’ve always craved my parents love, affection, anything really.

My siblings are treated differently, they had amazing childhoods, loving parents etc. I’ve always been the black sheep and I’ve never known why.

Even though I’m the odd one, they have always relied on me financially, emotionally when they want. It’s been very very hard. I love them but as I’ve gotten older ive realised they don’t love me.

My dad was recently petty to me and quite mean and I decided no more, I went LC and have since had passive aggressive messages from my mum which I know are influenced by my dad, I just want to scream st them but I know it will do nothing. They won’t care and laugh me off as insane or needing help.

So I had an idea! I’d glitter bomb him, a proper spring actioned glitter bomb. It would piss him off and he would never guess it was me.

I have to say I would feel utter satisfaction with knowing he had to clean up glitter and not knowing who it was or why.

I know I’m unreasonable but it would feel so good.

OP posts:
StillCoughingandLaughing · 05/09/2019 17:49

No need for biscuits I know I’m being petty ffs

Then why bother posting? Either do it or don’t, but why ask when you don’t really care what the answer is?

StephsHusband · 05/09/2019 17:53

Way to embarrass yourself

Bellasblankexpression · 05/09/2019 17:54

I don’t think it will actually help tbh.
It’s not like you’ll be there to see them open it.
I think you’ll feel good for all of one second then feel like it was a waste of money and pretty pointless.

FeckTheMagicDragon · 05/09/2019 17:58

Ok, I know it’s off topic - but can I ask when ‘babe’ and XXs became a thing on Mumsnet? Just curious

Chickychoccyegg · 05/09/2019 17:58

haha, just do it, send one every day for a week, they'll be so annoyed 😂
Then go completely NC with them, dont give them any more of your money or time, have nothing more to do with them, they dont deserve you, they sound like really horrible people.

picklemepopcorn · 05/09/2019 18:01

Having run circles round some really ridiculous people, I say 'go for it!'. Why not.

Kanga83 · 05/09/2019 18:06

Can you send one to everyone who is a 'babe' or a 'hun' while you are at it....for the love of God someone bring back Netmums please!

Mummyoflittledragon · 05/09/2019 18:08

Shitexpress. 😂😂😂

No don’t do it. The best revenge is to never more be under their power. They will hate that more than anything else. If they even have an inkling you send the glitter / some other thing they will get a large amount of satisfaction that they hurt your feelings.

Mummyoflittledragon · 05/09/2019 18:10

No babe and hun are not usually used here! They’re more for the glittery place. I thought the comments were ironic.

FAQs · 05/09/2019 18:14

@Nonotmenori 😂

pooopypants · 05/09/2019 18:18

Go NC and then glitter bomb.

It's the little things!

AnneKipanki · 05/09/2019 18:23

Brilliant @Nonotmenori
Have you sent one ?

OP I would not bother. Just go NC with them all .

NoBaggyPants · 05/09/2019 18:24

I don't get it. I'd assume it was a gift gone wrong. Not particularly annoying.

HypatiaCade · 05/09/2019 18:24

Hmm, there are far better ways to get your revenge. What sort of things does your father really not like? I'd then get busy joining them, or participating in things that he can't stand (as long as you don't dislike them too, obviously).

Supporting an opposition football or other sports team and plastering it on your FB page for your siblings to see, 'adopt' a parental figure of some sort - it could be through a hobby, or volunteering - and gush about how lovely they are so that your family can see it (and tbh, you may find that finding someone to be a stand in parent figure helps you emotionally anyway!!), etc, etc. The possibilities are endless. Someone as controlling as your father will have a long list of things he wouldn't want you to be doing. Time to go and explore them and see which ones you enjoy!

sparkles07 · 05/09/2019 18:26

I didn't know this was an actual thing and now I want to glitter bomb all my enemies!!!

Do it!!

AcrossthePond55 · 05/09/2019 18:28

they have always relied on me financially

You wanna really 'get him'? Cut off the finances, to all of them. In fact, just cut the lot of them off.

Tigerty · 05/09/2019 18:36

OP I totally understand where your heads at with this but it will only provide the tiniest respite followed by guilt. The best revenge is to detach and live a happy life without them scapegoating you.

It’s not an easy decision to make going NC but in my experience the relief is immense. Rather than glitter bomb have a think about what’s best for you with regards to your family. You. Don’t even think of what’s best for your family as it sounds like you’ve put them ahead of yourself for a long time. Flowers

Poolbridge · 05/09/2019 18:40

Turning to the wisdom of Confucius, who is said to have advised ‘Before you embark on a journey of revenge, dig two graves’.
I’m not so sure it is a great idea.

CuriousaboutSamphire · 05/09/2019 18:40

Should I admit how I got my own petty revenge on my DF (AKA money grabbing, narcissistic, thieving bastard)?

I got a friend who moved closeish to somewhere DPs had lived and I never have, to write and send a lovely letter thanking them for their generosity, wonderful open hearts, for making her feel so welcome, less lonely, a couple of questions about their family and then telling them that she had had something of a wonderful change in her life and, now they have had to move back to the chilly old UK, would like to offer them a holiday, on her, at her home.

It ended with, "You know where to find me, just drop me a line" Smile

I wil l admit it is killing me not to know how they took it! But mostly it is my own secret and it makes me smile!

willowsmumsy · 05/09/2019 18:43

I heard that Sharon Osbourne (?) used to send people she didn't like a Tiffany box containing one of her dog's turds.

springydaff · 05/09/2019 18:54

I say do it.

You've had therapy, yes? You'll need therapy if you've been so badly scapegoated. (Actually, thinking about it, there's no good scapegoating...)

It's them are mad op, not you Flowers

Blueoasis · 05/09/2019 18:56

Do it. And then go full nc with them and move on. Would be funny for you.

Butchyrestingface · 05/09/2019 18:57

I’d springle their carpet with seeds and then water it.

An oldie but a goodie.

Bluntness100 · 05/09/2019 19:00

Op, why would your family think you have mental health issues? Have they suggested this before?

And how old are you?

Dljlr · 05/09/2019 19:01

My ex sent a bag of cock shaped chocolates to his BIL. Not sure why dick chocs were his revenge parcel of choice (we were very LC at the point of him doing this) but it was motivated by dislike and certainly seemed to make him feel better. Each to their own.

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