I just made a report to NSPCC

[Spanckd]

And in scared. I'm scared of my ex, but I'm concerned about his child. I have a child with him, and I witnessed for years the way he treated his other child. I was always there to protect her, and I feel extreme guilt for letting it go on. I was being abused too and now I worry about her every day. It was emotional abuse, and she made disclosures to me about some physical abuse such as punching and banging her head off a wall. I reported this immediately to SS but they didn't even want to speak to her. I was advised to call the NSPCC and I have. In waiting for a practitioner to call me back. I have witnessed this abuse, and I know that she is emotionally not safe around her father. She is only 6. I am so scared that her mother is going to be angry, and that her dad is also going to go mad. I am so scared I am creating a bigger mess for myself but I couldn't just let it go unnoticed. Please tell me I've done the right thing?

Of course you’ve done the right thing!
That poor little girl. I hope they help her

Poor little girl

It's awful and nobody seems to give a shit. He is horrible, just vile. SS didn't even speak to her. The school know and are keeping an eye but it needs a proper investigation. Nobody cares. It's so so sad.

You have absolutely done the right thing.

You need to get help for the little girl, she is too young to get it herself and needs you to help try and protect her.

I don't even know what is normal anymore and what isn't. I look back and think 'oh, that was abuse wasn't it?' - I didn't even realise and don't know how Ive ended up so brainwashed

100% done the right thing. Push it if you need to.

You're a good person. He isn't.

It's so bad that the courts have given him a no contact order for my son. How can they say it's safe for him to see one child but not another?

You can't let that sort of thing go OP. We've all got a responsibility to report a concern and I'm just sorry to note that social services were not effective. You have definitely done the right thing and I hope that your concerns are taken seriously.

Well done. Thank god you reported it. Violence against women and girls must stop, and you have been instrumental in that.

What a horrible horrible bastard.

Keep speaking up for that little girl. Good on you for being brave enough to stand up for her. The important thing is that you know its wrong and your doing something about it.
Keep calling keep reporting keep sending emails to her school. Make somebody listen. Punching a six year old is just despicable. Talk to her mum make her listen.
You are strong enough to get away from this piece of shit. Don't be afraid of his reaction. SS are pushed to the limit but there is no excuse. I would ring and report again.
Goodluck OP

I have no faith that it will amount to anything

In my experience nothing will get done, I've made numerous reports of extreme long term neglect to nspcc, ss and to school and its been ignored every time sadly. At least youve tried OP Nothing more you can do.

It's easy to say don't be afraid of his reaction, but I am afraid and always will be. He terrifies me.

If i was told this as a teacher i would immediately inform safeguard who would act.
You have done the right thing. Hope school continue to push it.
If any threats to yourself happen call 999.
There are children everywhere who end up seriously hurt or dead at the hands of abusive parents and everybody says they wish they d spoken out.
I m glad you have

@recklessruby what would safeguard do? I feel like they just ask the child and is they say 'no I'm fine' it's taken at face value. People dont understand that this girl is scared of her dad. She's not going to just open up like that. It's so frustrating.

You seem to be the only one right now concerned for her. How frightening for that little girl. Are you in contact with her anymore op? I hope someone intervenes.

I don't see her at the moment but I'm sure I will be soon as she needs a relationship with her sibling. Her mum agrees. Her mum does care but she's a victim too.

Could you and the mum of the other child get together to speak to Social Services etc? It would give more weight to what you each say.

It is an interesting point that if a man is completely banned from seeing one child he should be banned from seeing any child. I would agree with that. Could the other mum see a solicitor and say that Spanckd has a ruling that her child is not to be seen could I get a similar order for my child. Maybe both the mums should also get a non-harassment order for themselves/each home.

Thank you. I actually have a restraining order against him. It's not just a case of him not being very nice. He was severely emotionally and psychologically abusive towards me. Aggressive. Horrible man

This is absolutely dreadful for you and the child, this man is clearly very dangerous.

He's extremely dangerous. Nobody cares. I feel so much guilt it hurts.

What a horrible situation but you have absolutely done the right thing. Well done for being so brave, and doing what you can

You can make the report anonymously, they'll keep your name out of it if you ask them to. No one will know, though they might suspect I guess, but you could also call the police on the non-emergency number and tell them you've made a report and think things will kick off, how do you safeguard yourself?

Well done for doing it.