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AIBU?

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Original poster

To fly Premium Economy whilst my boyfriend is in Economy?

83 replies

sneta · 03/09/2019 23:27

Basically, found a really good deal on premium economy long haul. Not only is it a good service, but I also need to get some more points to keep up status/ earn airmiles etc.

So I want to take advantage of this deal and fly premium Econ, but my partner of 4 years wants to save money and go regular. We are each paying for our own flights.

So I am going to suggest to him that he flies econ, and I'll fly premium.

I'd consider swapping with him for one flight, I'm sure they wouldn't notice.
I'd get 2 x hold luggage with my flights, and he could then not pay for hold luggage and we can have one each of mine.

Is this an outrageous idea ?

OP posts:
BrittleJoys · 03/09/2019 23:33

Of course not. You want to spend the money, he doesn’t, and you’re still going to get to your destination together.

justheretostalk · 03/09/2019 23:38

Do it. I wouldn’t even offer to swap. If he wants premium he can bloody well pay for it himself.

Samosaurus · 03/09/2019 23:38

I agree, don’t offer to swap, why would you do that?!

Original poster
sneta · 03/09/2019 23:40

I just feel really bad! I even offered to pay half of the fare difference for him.

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Original poster
sneta · 03/09/2019 23:41

Not sure why I feel so bad actually, just that this is our first trip together long haul I suppose.

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HeronLanyon · 03/09/2019 23:41

I’ve travelled split between first and economy for not dissimilar reason. We swapped Agter few hours then stewardess bumped dp up to first with me
Grin

FlamedToACrisp · 03/09/2019 23:43

You say 'long haul' - is this the trip of a lifetime, or just another of many holidays? If this trip is special, could you compromise by offering to pay half the difference each so he can fly Premium with you?

Bodear · 03/09/2019 23:43

Hmm is there a big difference is earnings between you? If so then yes I think yabu. If not and it’s just about where you choose to spend your similar amounts of disposable income then yanbu.

WhyBirdStop · 03/09/2019 23:43

If he couldn't afford it I'd say YABU, but he just doesn't want to and you generously offered half the difference. Enjoy the extra leg room!

Mummyshark2019 · 03/09/2019 23:44

Do it!

Shortfeet · 03/09/2019 23:45

It’s fine and you sound like a nice person!

busybarbara · 03/09/2019 23:59

If he's game, do it. Some people are very arsey about being split up on flights though, especially nervous flyers. So be sure he really is ok with it

Yabbers · 04/09/2019 00:01

I'd consider swapping with him for one flight, I'm sure they wouldn't notice.

Fuck that. I wanted to upgrade to first on our holiday, OH didn’t think it was worth it. When I said I’d pay for me and DD to do it he said “yeah and we could switch about” Nope, I said. You want it you pay for it. In the end he took so long to decide there were no seats available so the whole time on the flight he whinged about discomfort I pointed to the front and said “should have paid for through there”

Superlooper · 04/09/2019 00:02

I think I'd want to sit together Confused

Yabbers · 04/09/2019 00:02

We were in premium economy. You couldn’t pay me enough to fly bucket for long haul.

Hedgehogrescue · 04/09/2019 00:09

Hell no, especially if long haul.

TheRebelAlliance · 04/09/2019 00:11

premium economy with whom?

is the economy seat also a good price on this flight or will you be travelling on different planes?

Do you have the option to upgrade him with miles? Or book a reward seat for him?

HollowTalk · 04/09/2019 00:14

Why would you swap? That way you pay more and suffer, while he pays less and benefits. No way. You should each pay for the flight you want. Luggage is a bit different, I think.

HollowTalk · 04/09/2019 00:15

Which of you earns more? Could he actually afford to pay more but doesn't want to?

Lucked · 04/09/2019 00:19

Well it’s not very romantic but your reasons are valid and you have been together for long enough that it won’t be awkward.

Atthebottomofthegarden · 04/09/2019 00:25

Probably wouldn’t be that reasonable if it’s your honeymoon...

Depends on his reasons for refusing. If he can’t afford it and doesn’t earn as much as you, YABU. If he has the money but isn’t choosing to spend it on upgrading, them YANBU.

Expressedways · 04/09/2019 00:41

Go for it! I don’t really talk to DH much on flights anyway- it’s usually headphones and film or sleeping. We had a trip once where I was flying out later than DH as part of his travel was for work- due to a promo I got a first upgrade on the return and he didn’t. There’s nothing romantic about flying economy and if he doesn’t want to pay for it then that’s his choice, definitely don’t pay for yourself then swap seats with him. Enjoy your upgrade and let the romance begin when you get to the hotel Wink

Stefoscope · 04/09/2019 00:49

Seems like a very fair offer to pay half the difference for him to upgrade. Could you reassure him that you'd be happy with a frugal few weeks after the holiday if he's worried about finances? If that money's not the issue, then enjoy the extra leg room and let him crack on in econ.

HeddaGarbled · 04/09/2019 00:52

I’m in two minds about this. It feels a bit off to travel separately. Not like a couple, or even friends. On the other hand, if he could afford it but is just being penny-pinching, I can see your point.

I’m not sure you’re compatible 🙁

Torridon19 · 04/09/2019 01:05

Its fine IF....you'd be perfectly happy if the situation was the reverse, and would promise not to post on MN that your partner was treating you badly......cos if the situation WAS reversed, many MNetters would say "Dump that twat !!!!!!" ......

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