Heated debate with male friend who, until now, I shared very similar views with. Need some opinions on if the comparison I gave was reasonable.
We started having a general discussion about dating and meeting people, and he was telling the general ways he likes to flirt with women on nights out or online. Some of the things he was mentioning was a bit "forward", for example touching her arm or back while chatting with her at a bar, trying to dance very closely to her, grinding on a girl he likes the look of, making sexual jokes to her and stuff like that.
I said that it would be a bit weird to do some of that to someone you'd just met and were trying to talk to, not even yet knowing their name.
He said I was being ridiculous and that girls like it when guys come up and grind on them in clubs etc. I disagreed strongly, saying a lot of women aren't keen on feeling some random guys knob pushing up against them purposely in a club, which is when I then gave the comparison:
" Don't do anything to a girl in a club, that you wouldn't want a gay man to do to you . If she does not reciprocate the behaviour, it is because it makes her uncomfortable and she is not interested in you. It would be the same as if a gay man was flirting with you by doing these things, I can guarantee that you partly due to your massive ego would hit the roof if another bloke pushed his package into your arse while you're trying to dance with friends".
He didn't understand this, saying how the gay man would know he isn't interested as he is straight (like that is in any way obvious unless they had asked him?!).
Anyway, am I unreasonable to think that if blokes acted towards him the way he acted towards girls, he would have a massive issue with it? And not just him, but guys in general. The amount of men who would happily send a random girl some gross, inappropriate message in the hopes of getting a sexy response, but would be outraged if another man sent them the same message with the same intentions.