Dd10 is an attention seeker. There are many reasons for this: she’s the youngest and has always felt overshadowed by her older brother, and also she is the ‘bottom’ of the class at school. She has very poor self esteem. I blame myself (because it IS my fault. I have bipolar disorder and for all of her life I have been disorganised and forgetful. Don’t get me wrong, she’s looked after very well - my dh is amazing and no one knows about my mh condition, but the mh condition has made Me useless at making her do spellings, time tables etc. She’s two years behind but we’ve got her a tutor who’s amazing. Everyone thinks she’s dyslexic - I privately suspect she is not, she’s just not had my full support. I’m a good mum in every other way (I think) I don’t sweat the small stuff with my kids and they have a lovely life. But for dd, the school thing has taken its toll.
Anyway (sorry for rambling) we are just back to school from hols today. Unfortunately dd broke her shoulder blade in a riding accident very early on in the hols, and has been in a sling for most of the duration. But now she’s healed. She’s not been wearing it for about 10 days.
This is my AIBU:
On her request I’ve let her take it into school in her bag. I’ve just had a call from school saying she’s put it on and they know nothing about it. Bless her she’s taken it in for attention, and I knew this but I let her take it in. Now I’ve probably allowed her to look a fool in class, for suddenly getting it out for the kicks and forgetting to inform school. I’ve ended up just saying to the office that yes she needs it if it aches. It doesn’t ache..
This is not the only thing she does. Friends find her quite hard work sometimes and she can struggle in that department. I’m always torn between indulging her need for attention or telling her to snap out of it.
AIBU for indulging her?
I hope this makes some sort of sense.