To text him about this?

[ElleDriver]

Really sensitive issue between me and dp atm. Have tried to talk to him about it face to face and it just becomes awkward and really difficult to communicate. Nothing seems to get resolved.

I don't want to keep bringing it up but it is playing on my mind a lot. I'm sat at work stewing on it now and so tempted to text him but I know he'll be busy too and probably won't be received very well at this time.

Do I bite the bullet and just get it all out or do I wait and have another probably failed face to face conversation about it? I'm not usually an impulsive person as in I wouldn't usually just blurt stuff out or send these type of texts willy nilly but this is really getting to me.

@pinkyredrose yes it would cause a few practical problems especially with my new bedroom carpet it's something I find a bit silly rather than sexual but it's clearly something that he's watched and enjoyed for years, way before I met him. And as I've said it's hard to know whether or not he'd want me involved. It's just a shame we can't have more open communication about it

@ElleDriver we don't have regular sex, due to my medication making it difficult for me.

Wet and messy is actually one of mine too 😂 my best friend is into it & writes bespoke porn stories for people about it.

WAM can be a bit daunting at first, especially if you're not very sexually confident. It's also not very practical, hence why he looks it up on the Internet instead. PM me if you have any questions/want to talk things through. It's definitely an odd one, but it's also great!

yes it would cause a few practical problems especially with my new bedroom carpet that is the most mumsnet post!

OP just think of it as an adult foodfight. Ask him outright if he'd like to try it with you, he may not want sex as such, just a sploshing session in your undies or something. No need or any hand wringing on either part, it's completely harmless!

@Purplerain16 I'm using the app atm with no PM option but believe me I have MANY questions lol. I'm will try and get in touch when I'm on a computer.

I'm not sexually confident and the thought of it just makes me want to laugh tbh. I wouldn't know where to begin. Or if he'd even want me to begin lol. But I guess if it could bring us closer it's worth a try.

It's hard having to compromise on my sexual needs and suspecting (knowing deep down) it's because he probably enjoys something else more. The tension and resentment that's caused has put a bit of a barrier between us. But ultimately he is a great man and we have a lovely life that I really don't want to throw away. So definitely open to ways I can try and improve things.

He doesn't care much about your sexual needs, does he? As long as he gets his jollies by wanking to his fetish. Sorry to be harsh, but he doesn't sound lovely, he sounds very selfish. What happens if you obligingly take part in the WAM fetish, and your whole sex life becomes about that, with no room for the 'normal' sex you enjoy? How is that lovely for you?

@Juells when you put it like that it doesn't sound great. What I meant was in every other aspect of our life and relationship we are very happy. We get on, we have fun, he is kind and generous and my dc from a previous relationship love him. So it would be a lot to throw away.

He has obviously has this preference for many years and it was part of his sexuality long before we got together. He still does please me although maybe not quite as often as I'd like. I guess I'm just trying to see it objectively which this thread has helped a lot with.