To think if someone sleeps with you /kisses you they like you?

[harriettytt]

Having a chat with some friends last night and have been dating a guy for a month now.
Obviously we are kissing and sleeping together...so I said to my friend I'm going to ask where this is going.
My friend has said I shouldn't say anything till I know he likes me more than a friend.
So now I'm all confused ..surely if he kisses /sleeps with you he likes me more than friends ?
Am I being silly?

I'm 34 so I don't know if that's young or old In people's eyes

I'm 34 too OP so I'm voting YOUNG!

It's so hard to guess intentions. The best thing is to ask him, have a chat and don't be afraid of asking him if he's wanting something more serious or if he just wants casual. Good luck!

OP, have you met his friends? Has he met your friends? How much do you really know about him? Do you think your lives would blend easily together?
You need to take a good look at him when you're not actually having sex with him, a cold hard look.
The. Consider whether you want him long term

And, I have a FWB who asks me how I am, how my children are etc. It's what polite people do

Sounds like you are dating as you’ve been out and about with him. Has he ever introduced you to anyone? What did he describe you as?
Could your friend have any insider info from someone else that she doesn’t want to share with you as it would hurt you, eg pal saw him in the pub with another woman or something? And that’s why she was saying that stuff?

He sounds keen but you need to have the convo about being exclusive. You don’t know where you stand till then. If he says yes then that’s fine if no then you can think what you want. I’d want exclusivity. It’s not everyone’s cup of tea though. But it would be my no1 relationship priority if I really liked him.

I can't sleep with someone I don't like

I reckon we've got a different definition of what like means though

There's lots of different degrees of like

Same here Positive orb o ok me a few years to wise up.to.the fact that early sex didn't mean men necessarily wanted a relationship,but then I had a one night stand with dh,and thought fuck it if he gets in touch he gets in touch I'm not doing the running anymore he got in touch the next day and have never really been apart since so.I'm a hypocrite too! 😂Nearly 15 years for us .

Going out and about doesn’t really mean anything. I had a FWB that I went out with, did mundane normal everyday stuff with, met his parents etc. We were just really good friends who fucked ocassionally.

I don’t stop talking to or meeting other people when I’m physically dating someone

Which is totally fine, but wouldn’t work for me. I would go on 2-4 dates, dump them if there was no spark by that stage, and start looking again at that point. No overlap, and no sleeping with men I don’t particularly like for months on end. My time is too precious to waste on bland men.

OP, meeting somebody, going on four weeks of dates with them, texting no backwards and forwards daily, and sleeping together sounds like a nascent relationship to me. Bit too early for the “love” conversation, but definitely not how I behave with new platonic friends (and I find it bizarre that people say that sounds more like FWB than dating to them - wtf do you do when you are actually romantically dating these days?).

I'd wait a bit longer for "the chat".

1. Because it'd be better to get to know him for a bit longer and feel more certain.

1. My experience has been that when a man is really into you, you will KNOW. They show it, they tell you how they feel. You don't ever have to try to figure it out.

As my dear mother said, "Ever since I learned what men will do with sheep, I've never been impressed that a woman has gotten a man." Not that someone doesn't like a woman if he kisses her. But I'd look for other signs as well, such as courteous and caring treatment.

This man sounds like someone I'd cut loose.

Lots of people have sex without liking the other person. That’s why people have one night stands and friends with benefits. And how hookers make a living.

I think it sounds promising actually. But you do need for him to know that you don’t want to sleep with him unless it’s exclusive, and you’re not interested in a FWB situation, but with dating and seeing if things develop.