Would you book into a hotel for 2 hours just to DTD?

[maybejustmaybeitsme]

A local ish hotel about 5 miles from where you live as the man is married though separated and living at his parents' and your ex is still living with you?

I didn't know you could actually do this it apparently the Travelodge or premier inn don't bat an eye if you check in at 8pm then out again at 10pm.

I think it's pretty unseemly but maybe I'm just a prude!

You're asking on behalf of your friend's ex husband and his new partner??

Yes an acquaintance of mine did this..had an affair with a friend's husband and apparently they did it everywhere..including using hotels and carparks. Disgusting fuckers. It's not so much the affair, deplorable though that is, but the fact that they were so grubby about it.

Op google love hotels in Japan - this is literally a thing in Japan.

I’ve never understood the inability that adults have of bring people around when they live with their parents. Do you all truly believe that your parents think that you don’t have sex? Or that they care?

Yup, done this! TTC dc2 and ovulating the week we were staying at my mum's. Rather than risk the shonky sofabed at mum's we booked a Travelodge room and packed DC off to the park with his gran and aunty. Back to parenting duties overnight, then back to Travelodge the next afternoon to do it again. Not even slightly embarrassed. No BFP though, grr.

Day rooms is fabulous for this. Beautiful hotels and cheaper than premier inn. Plus some of them have pools, gym etc.
there’s a few in London you can book from something like midnight to 6am. I’ve booked a few closer to where I need to be at 7.
Booked another daytime job one for a photo shoot.
And yes for sex. Doing it in the car isn’t that great. And we have to travel miles to avoid red light areas and dogging areas. Although great for a quickie when traveling

Pretend you’ve left something at home or feign an emergency to ‘leave’ if you feel compelled to give a reason

Haven’t RTFF but I’ve regularly spent the day at hotels on day rate between night shifts in London. Much cheaper than normal
Hotel rates and does the job for being able to get some rest between nights

I don't see the problem with it, if hotels can cater to day rate/short use, go for it.

@BogglesGoggles I happily brought proper boyfriends home when I was at home aged 23-26 ... but the more casual sex when I was single, I'd either wait til parents were on hols to use their huge bed and huge shower or I'd go elsewhere. Luckilu hooked up with people who had their own places so it wasn't an issue but would've possibly rented rooms otherwise, just more privacy.

Currently loosely involved with someone who has pretty noisy sex and also makes me moan a lot and v loudly when he expertly sorts out my very tense back. I go round his unless my housemate is away as he lives alone and it's more private. We're late 20s, plenty of people have less privacy than us & likely keep the local PI or TL in business.

@TomHagenMakesMyBossomTremble but surely you can just have quiet sex when there is someone else in the house? And why did you treat casual sex differently out of curiosity? (if you don’t mind my asking, i don’t mean to grill you. I’m just curios).

@BogglesGoggles we do have a quiet setting and exercise this, but we also both enjoy own space, so could see us doing this to have a space we don't feel "encroached on" in.

With boyfriends at home- they were part of the family and would stay over properly. My parents are very relaxed about my love life, but something more casual just felt odd in such a setting, and not awfully grown up- I could deliver the sex but not the rest of it. Family also live away from really easy public transport links, so unless they were away & someone would drive to me & stay as long as they fancied, it was usually just easier to go to whoever I was seeing.

That’s makes sense. Nothing more awkward than saying ‘ok time to go, by the way you’ll have to walk several miles in the dark. Bye now!’

I've done this with one night stands. It's not seedy, women are allowed to want and enjoy sex! The hotel staff do not care a jot

Also safer for a one night (or day!) stand than going to their house or letting them know where you live.

Make sure you get your money’s worth by going back to the hotel in the morning for a quickie before check out

Two hours seems unnecessary. What are the rates for 30 minutes?

Oh god. This explains a lot. I swear we always get the room next to these people. We refer to them as jungle sexers.