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To wish for a silent hairdressers?

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IndianaMoleWoman · 31/08/2019 22:53

Hair cut today, the hairdresser was lovely but asked 10,000+ questions and didn’t seem to get the hint with my short but polite answers, even when I mentioned that my small children are driving me mad with questions!

Does anyone else wish that there was a chain of specialist silent hairdressers where you could go for a bit of peace and not an interrogation?

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Kuponut · 01/09/2019 20:07

My hairdresser is a genius - my hair is a right uncooperative bastard and she always manages to make it look bloody awesome to the point the school mums who spend hundreds and hundreds on their hair ask me where I go as the cutting on mine is so good when I get it done (and look horrified that it's a little tiny salon on the local high street and not a big brand name) but yeah sometimes I struggle with the chatting bit of it.

I used to go to a hairdressers near my mum's where I didn't have to chat because there'd be a steady stream of everyone in the local village popping in for a chat and so much going on you could just sit and watch the entertainment going on - the point where one of the ladies had dumped her fella who was sending her gifts from the pub across the road, which the poor Saturday girl was being sent over the road to return was amusing to watch. Was a bit too far to travel though.

TheClitterati · 01/09/2019 20:10

I had a silent haircut yesterday. Not one question. It was bliss.

BeerandBiscuits · 01/09/2019 20:26

Chatting doesn't bother me, although happy to sit in silence.
What I really hate is having to sit in front of a mirror. Hair salon mirrors don't flatter ageing faces.

healththrowawayx · 01/09/2019 20:34

Haha I have the opposite problem now.

They barely say a word to me. They were super friendly and talkative at my first appointment but have stopped speaking to me since, at first I thought they just like to get on with their work and focus, but then I overheard my stylist being super chatty with their next client. Sort of wondering what I did wrong lol but it’s actually nice to have a break from socialising!

At my old salon, some of them used to be annoyingly talkative. We have each other on social media so they would have 100s of questions to ask me about things I posted since I last visited which was quite cringe. However I did overall like them and get along, but it was 2-3 hours of long/intense socialising.

boatyardblues · 01/09/2019 20:38

Does anyone else wish that there was a chain of specialist silent hairdressers where you could go for a bit of peace and not an interrogation?

It’s why I always ask to go under the 1950s style hairdryer instead of a blowdry. I can crack on with MN without interruption.

healththrowawayx · 01/09/2019 20:44

One of my old stylists was so chatty to the point of over sharing. He told me about the custody issues with his kid & his ex, how his ex was ‘crazy’. How he has anxiety and panic attacks and in depth info etc. It just got intense really quickly considering I don’t even know him.

bonzo77 · 01/09/2019 20:58

YANBU. Thee are many things about going to the hairdressers that I dislike. This is one of them. 6 months since my last hair cut. No plans for another one.

riotlady · 01/09/2019 21:05

My hairdresser has picked up on my quietness and doesn’t chat too much, she also cuts my very thick hair in under an hour, I love her and would never go anywhere else. I take a bus to go see her her instead of going to someone in my town and I tip well!

rainbowunicorn · 01/09/2019 21:28

@busybarbara you are coming across as a very unpleasant person.

busybarbara · 01/09/2019 21:44

you are coming across as a very unpleasant person.

Whatever. Many people on here are saying how unpleasant it is to talk to their hairdresser. I think being polite and helping their day go by a little quicker and more pleasantly is the least we can do for them.

WooMaWang · 01/09/2019 22:04

Hairdressers never chat to me. I always wonder what it is about me that prompts that. All the stylist led around are chatting away but mine is always silent. Even if I say something the conversation quickly dies away.

Timeaftertime42 · 01/09/2019 22:07

Oh I'm with you op. I usually grin and bear it but once went in after a really full on day. She started asking me if I was going clubbing that night and who I thought would win X factor. I said, as nicely as I could that I'd had a hard day and wasn't really in the mood for chatting. She spent the rest of my hair cut glaring at me and making "can you believe her???" Faces at colleagues. I had to find a new hairdresser after that

SerenDippitty · 01/09/2019 22:14

My hairdresser is lovely. We do chat as we have stuff in common but he will pick up if I am not in the mood.

Leftiefterson · 01/09/2019 22:17

Oh I love chatting with my hairdresser. It’s akin to a therapy session for me.

Lorr4268 · 02/09/2019 13:05

Are you joking? I have been a hairdresser for 30 years and I can assure you that my job is neither low paid repetitive or boring. If you are a low paid hairdresser I would suggest investment to improve your skills so that you are no longer low paid if on the other hand you are not a hairdresser then you are not qualified to comment.

dollydaydream114 · 02/09/2019 16:08

I think being polite and helping their day go by a little quicker and more pleasantly is the least we can do for them.

But a lot of the time, they're not talking to you because they really want to. They're just talking to you because it's what they've been told to do to make the client feel at home. Don't kid yourself that your conversation is that scintillating!

PlanBea · 02/09/2019 16:21

I went to a spa day where in the medical questionnaire, it asked "do you prefer silence or conversation during treatments?" With a little tick box. I thought it was a brilliant idea and more places should ask it!

purplecorkheart · 02/09/2019 16:49

I adore my hairstylist. He is one of the nicest kindest people I have ever come across. We chat away but would consider each other friends and meet up outside work. However he is great at picking up ques and can tell if someone wants to talk or not.
Some salons here have introduced quiet chairs. Basically you ask for it when you book and the stylist knows you do not want to chat.

SconeofDestiny · 02/09/2019 17:42

@busybarbara you really are a peach.
You're right OP. There is a definite gap in the market that I'm happy to fill.
I decided to retrain in hairdressing in my forties after having a child as I fancied being self employed and doing something more creative with my time. I trained at college and then took extra classes at the Sassoon Academy in London and now work from my little home salon.
My clients are women aged 40 plus who want a good cut and colour in a quiet relaxing space with easy parking, beautiful rural views and a 1:1 service without the hairdresser wandering off to deal with other clients whilst their colour processes.
I don't watch much tv so have to google if someone mentions a 'Celebrity' from a reality tv series, but luckily, they rarely do.

I'm not after more clients as I've plenty and they're all 'word of mouth'.
Also, I live in Ireland so sorry, I won't be advertising my exact location.

Rezie · 02/09/2019 18:21

I thouget the universal no chatting sign was reading a magazine/phone/book. If you hold a mavazone it means not chatting and if not then you are open to have a conversation.

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