Nana's baby?

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If your dm or mil said this about your baby/toddler, would this bug you? It annoys me as both do it but my dh doesn't think it's an issue.

It would bother me. Nana's little boy, grandson, darling etc all fine, but not baby. My baby is my baby, nobody else's (except DH).

@toomuchtooold That link takes you to a thread about someone accidentally killing a cat.

I'm still called nanas baby and I'm 31

My mother does this to my sisters children. Then again, she encouraged my sister to have children and leave the father, paid for her to go part time at work, doesn’t charge her rent and even bought her an eternity ring when the first child was born.

My sister is 33, lives at home, can’t drive. My mother is effectively her partner. It’s incredibly dysfunctional and she can’t see it.

So yeah, in some circumstances, it’s odd.

My mum used to open the door and call “Where’s my girl?” And dd used to run to her saying “Here I am!!! “

It was lovely.

She's not calling your child her son/daughter, or calling herself their mother. That would be weird.

Saying "where's my baby/my girl?" is normal and lovely.

DM said that sometimes and when older children she’d say ‘No where’s Nana’s darling?’ I thought it was heartfelt and wonderful. She was so close to my DC and is sadly no longer here so my DC and I treasure those memories.

Now not no

It’s a turn of phrase / term of endearment. They’re not claiming to be mummy!

My Nan still refers to me as "my baby"... I am 35 🙈

Unless your mum, or mil is being controlling, and tried to actually behave like your child's mum it shouldn't be a concern. I say something similar about my GC. Their parents and the children know I don't mean it literally. I I certainly dont behave like their parent. It just means I love them.surely its good they have a lot of people loving them?

My dad calls munchies DD3 “my little girl” as in “how’s my little girl?” and every time he says it I feel a bit stabby. It was worse when she was tiny so I’m starting to get over it but literally no one else in our family feels the need to use that terminology yes they all adore her.

I do potentially have some issues with my dad as a shit parent/grandparent though so I’m possibly a bit clouded 😂

My mil says this, I often say it too. Your baby will always love you the most, it's nice to make grandparents feel special too

My mum does it constantly.

"How's nana's little boy today?"
"How's nana's milk monster?"
"Nana's missed her baby these past few days."

Doesn't bother me in the slightest. She absolutely adores him and I love her so much because of that.

It’s sad that people are burdened with such insecurities. A baby that’s loved by their GM and other members of their family is a lucky one. Don’t let a few words make you feel unsettled.

If the MIL/DM isn’t a fruit cake and doesn’t refer to herself as mummy and over step boundaries, there’s nothing wrong with them calling your baby my girl/boy. It means they love them.

Think it depends on the type of grandparent they are. My MIL is controlling and manipulative, and even said just last night grandma's baby (about my own DD2) I didn't like it but she's making herself look more silly then I can bother being annoyed about.

It’s sad that people are burdened with such insecurities

They're not, or at least the OP isn't. She's said way upthread that her mother has narcissistic tendencies and doesn't respect boundaries. By posting here she is trying to get a read on whether this latest thing is normal, because she is trying to get along with her and give her the benefit of the doubt.

My DS is everyone's "baby" or "boy" or he has a few uncles who are too cool for that and he becomes "my little mate" it does make my heart feel a bit fuzzy watching people love him so much

Saying that it's not doing with any malice and I don't have underlying issues with boundaries etc.

No not at all? Mil always calls my dd nannas girl. I absolutely love it that my DD is doted on so much and loved by her gps. My mum calls dd nannas baby.

Jeeez people are so quick to get offended it's ridiculous

Thanks purpleflower! Actual Stately Homes thread here...

My mum does this with out 2yr old, "nannas little boy" think it's quite sweet and shows how much she loves him.

Vs MIL who is the least affectionate person with DS ever.. She never picks him up and cuddles and kisses him or anything.

Is baby

Is grandmother

Nomenclature seems correct

Thanks @toomuchtooold I'll check out that thread.

Maybe I should've added some more info to the original post; I just wanted to see if 'nana's baby' would be an issue for people who don't come from dysfunctional backgrounds. I have a great relationship with dd and know how important it is for her to form strong bonds with family and friends, too. My own grandma was a saving grace when I was growing up. However, dealing with my dm can be difficult.

IMO you should count yourself lucky that your dc has GPs that love him, and not ditto that don't give a toss and hardly ever bother to see him.

I've often called my Gdcs 'my best lovely baby/boy/girl' - it never occurred to me that dd might object and I'm quite sure she doesn't. Mind you it might be different with a DiL - having read so many anti MiL threads on here, I'm often glad I only have dds.

Great grannie says my son's her "best boy" and Nana says "my boy" I'm not fussed at all I love the relationship my son has with them.