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Does this a bit off to you or am I just being a child?

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HackedoffH · 31/08/2019 10:14

Ex split up with his ex gf some time ago. They were together around 8 months so nothing particularly serious. Prior to that we’d been in a relationship for many years and we’ve now reconciled. No OW type scenario all above board.

Dp told me a few weeks back that ex’s daughter had blocked him all over social media which I thought was a bit childish really because the split was amicable but hey ho she’s a young adult I guess that’s what happens.

This morning we were cuddling in bed looking at the news on our phones and on his a notification came up to say that ex’ gf had posted on her story so u said oh I thought she’d blocked you and he said on yeah she had but then she unblocked me. So I checked and he’s following her; she’s not following him though. Is this weird? Why would you even try to reconnect now? He’s still friends on SM with his ex which I’m totally cool with, I’m not the insane with jealousy type but this just struck me as a bit off? And he’s also liked some of her really seductive photo stories? Someone tell me I’m being silly? Am I?

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Bubsworth · 31/08/2019 10:15

You're not being silly he's being a sly little liar.

Ellisandra · 31/08/2019 10:17

What has his ex’s daughter got to do with anything? Confused

Waveysnail · 31/08/2019 10:37

I'd ask him calmly to block her please and it's making you uncomfortable.

Nautiloid · 31/08/2019 10:42

Sorry, is it his ex he's following or her daughter?

Ravenblack · 31/08/2019 10:45

@HackedoffH

Also confused .. Who blocked him and who has now unblocked him? The ex or her daughter?

Waytooearly · 31/08/2019 11:08

I'm assuming it's his ex gf daughter you're talking about, yes?

If so yes of course it's creepy.

Ravenblack · 31/08/2019 11:09

You still there @HackedoffH ?

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HackedoffH · 31/08/2019 19:19

Sorry - had a bit of a crisis with my dc. Re-read it and no wonder you’re all confused. Back now. Ex gfs daughter blocked him a few months after the split, he remarked on it a while back saying he thought it was petulant then today when we were looking at the news on his phone he got a notificarion that ex’s daughter had posted a story. This only comes up if you’re following then so she must have unblocked him and he’s re-followed her which I find odd.

Also snooped on his phone (yes I’m akin to the devil flame me) and can see he’s replied to her stories saying how beautiful and talented she is just like her mum. I’m going to talk to him when dc are in bed.

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Ravingstarfish · 31/08/2019 19:23

That’s really creepy

Lucie8881 · 31/08/2019 19:23

How old is ex gf daughter and how old is dp?

Nautiloid · 31/08/2019 19:24

Eurgh.

Waytooearly · 31/08/2019 19:28

Yikes.

That is really really creepy. No matter how old she is.

Poor girl. Her mum finally dumps Pervy Boyfriend and now he's still creeping around.

I'm so sorry OP. You must be in shock.

LemonAddict · 31/08/2019 19:32

So he’s letching after his ex’s daughter.

That’s really grim.

Didntwanttochangemyname · 31/08/2019 19:34

That is creepy creepy creepy

TwatCat · 31/08/2019 19:42

That is very odd. When you say the daughter is a young adult, how young is she? Because calling her beautiful etc, seems a bit pervy to me. And don't you have to click a button to get notifications when someone posts something? Otherwise you'd be getting notifications every couple of seconds from everyone you follow. So he's actively selected to receive notifications from her.

OP I would be really uncomfortable with this behaviour.

carly2803 · 31/08/2019 20:08

how old is the daugher??

BumbleBeee69 · 31/08/2019 20:11

OOft OP I wouldn't be comfortable with that convo atall .. Flowers

Boshmama · 31/08/2019 20:13

Seriously creepy. Not ok at all

FurnitureAndBackgammon · 31/08/2019 20:14

Eww

JoxerGoesToStuttgart · 31/08/2019 20:16

I wonder why they split...

Boules · 31/08/2019 20:17

Did they split up because he was perving on her daughter when they were in a relationship? Because that’s what he’s doing now and it’s extremely creepy and completely inappropriate. I would end this in a heartbeat in your position.

covetingthepreciousthings · 31/08/2019 20:22

This is creepy & would make me wonder why they had split up tbh.

KUGA · 31/08/2019 20:22

yukky as fk somethings weird here.
BEWARE.

BackOnceAgainWithABurnerEmail · 31/08/2019 20:25

Oh this doesn't sound great. Few things, how old is exD, how long was he in her life, what sort of video/photo etc has he commented on.

But on first impressions: Yuck.

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HackedoffH · 31/08/2019 20:33

She’s 20 I think. So not old at all. There were a few likes of her photos which I thought not a lot of, he liked one of her dancing in her underwear (yep, I know wtf!), and said she was beautiful on an artsy style shot. Tbf it was a beautiful shot but I just find it weird.

To the poster who referenced that you had to sign up to receive someone’s notifications I thought that too but wasn’t sure and didn’t want to sound like a mad woman. DC going to bed shortly then I’m having it out with him.

The daughter wouldn’t look at him twice, she hated him when he was with the mother apparently.

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