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Does this a bit off to you or am I just being a child?

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HackedoffH · 31/08/2019 10:14

Ex split up with his ex gf some time ago. They were together around 8 months so nothing particularly serious. Prior to that we’d been in a relationship for many years and we’ve now reconciled. No OW type scenario all above board.

Dp told me a few weeks back that ex’s daughter had blocked him all over social media which I thought was a bit childish really because the split was amicable but hey ho she’s a young adult I guess that’s what happens.

This morning we were cuddling in bed looking at the news on our phones and on his a notification came up to say that ex’ gf had posted on her story so u said oh I thought she’d blocked you and he said on yeah she had but then she unblocked me. So I checked and he’s following her; she’s not following him though. Is this weird? Why would you even try to reconnect now? He’s still friends on SM with his ex which I’m totally cool with, I’m not the insane with jealousy type but this just struck me as a bit off? And he’s also liked some of her really seductive photo stories? Someone tell me I’m being silly? Am I?

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BackOnceAgainWithABurnerEmail · 31/08/2019 20:35

Oh op, this does not sound good. Hope you get some answers.

FenellaVelour · 31/08/2019 20:40

The daughter wouldn’t look at him twice, she hated him when he was with the mother apparently.

Can’t think why

meyouandlulutoo · 31/08/2019 20:42

I wonder why the daughter blocked him. I agree it's creepy.

meyouandlulutoo · 31/08/2019 20:51

And don't you have to click a button to get notifications when someone posts something?

Either that or leave a comment on the post, either way you have to show some interest.

treeplop · 31/08/2019 20:59

So he's letching over his ex's daughter? Comparing her looks positively to those of her mother all the time whilst reconciled with you?

I'm going to take a punt and say he moved back into your property when you got back together? He probably told you he instigated the split..?

dollydaydream114 · 31/08/2019 21:06

Is it possible that she didn’t block him and unblock him, but just deactivated her account and then reactivated, and that’s why he’s still following her (ie he didn’t actually ‘refollow’ her but in fact never stopped)?

Either way - I think it’s weird that he would want or expect to stay social media ‘friends’ with the adult daughter of a woman he dated for eight months. It’s not like she was a child to whom he was ever any kind of father figure. She is absolutely nothing to do with him any more and it is beyond inappropriate that he would be commenting on sexy pictures of her dancing in her underwear. It’s creepy as hell.

Lucie8881 · 31/08/2019 21:29

I agree it's creepy regardless of the age of ex gf DD, just wondered for the sake of context.

I wouldn't be happy if that was my DP and I doubt ex gf would be happy with him perving over her daughter either

Nicetablecloth · 31/08/2019 21:33

I'm presuming DP isn't 22? How old?

MummySharkOfTwoDoDoDo · 31/08/2019 21:42

Seems a bit weird to be honest, how old is do? Not that he should be commenting like that on what would've been his step daughter

EmmiJay · 31/08/2019 21:42

Creepy McCreeperson. Ew. No. He needs a wallop with a loaf of bread.

snackarella · 31/08/2019 21:45

Sounds creepy....interested to hear what he has to say

Mummyoflittledragon · 31/08/2019 21:58

My mouth is still open aghast. She posted a pic in her underwear . He liked it . Now I’m feeling disgusted. It’s not you it’s him.

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HackedoffH · 31/08/2019 22:25

I’ve had it out with him. He said he followed her again because he just wanted to make sure she was doing ok because she was v.damaged by her dad. Still think it’s weird even just following her again.

Then onto the comments. He doesn’t know I snooped through his phone so I asked has he been in communication with her, he said no. So then I said, so you haven’t messaged her and he said he had liked her social media so I brought up the comments and he said he was just trying to be kind. I told him it was disgusting. He’s in his fifties ffs.

This all triggered a memory of him telling me that another of his exes daughters used to flaunt themselves around him, even said they were hitting on him! Not likely.

I called him a pervert told him to stay in the guest room and have come to bed. I’m so upset. I KNOW I’m not overreacting.

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NoSauce · 31/08/2019 22:34

He sounds a right catch. You can do better than him OP.

Waytooearly · 31/08/2019 22:36

Of course you're not overreacting.

Ugh.

This is not a nice man.

Bookworm4 · 31/08/2019 22:38

So the girl hated him but he’s ‘concerned about her’?
Sounds like his relationships probably ended because he pervs on their young daughters.
Just bin him, he’s a creep.

Nicetablecloth · 31/08/2019 22:41

Poor you OP, how horrible Flowers

AtrociousCircumstance · 31/08/2019 22:45

Disgusting, lying old lecher.

You can do better OP.

HuggedTheRedwoods · 01/09/2019 11:49

Do you have daughters OP?

TheCatsACunt · 01/09/2019 11:54

Are your children his or does he have prey in your house?

dollydaydream114 · 01/09/2019 13:41

This all triggered a memory of him telling me that another of his exes daughters used to flaunt themselves around him, even said they were hitting on him!

Christ. Absolutely ditch this man now.

BumbleBeee69 · 01/09/2019 13:43

How are you today OP ?

in the cold light of day, do his responses to your questions seem any more innocent? Hmm

He does sound like a perv to be fair, but only you know him. Flowers

GabriellaMontez · 01/09/2019 13:52

Eww glad to hear you can see through this bs

Dollymixture22 · 01/09/2019 14:15

I would be wary about allowing this man to be in contact with my children - I know this girl is an adult but she is still very young and he doesn’t seem to understand what is and what is not appropriate