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I’m camping next to a woman who is parenting very loudly and incessantly ....

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BigSandyBalls2015 · 30/08/2019 16:07

... driving me fecking nuts.

She arrived this morning with a young girl (8/9ish). Girl wanted to go to swings which are almost next door to tent, mum had a loud 15 minute safety chat before she was allowed to go. 2 min later the mum called the girl back and declared she was extremely disappointed in the DDs “lack of judgement regarding safety” and therefore wasn’t allowed back for 30 minutes. Cue another loud chat. I hadn’t seen her do anything outrageous.

The girl was then blowing bubbles from a wand thing, cue mum going over and telling her she was doing it all wrong, just watch and learn. The kid wasn’t allowed more than a few metres in front of tent and she was called back for being marginally out of “the boundary that had been previously discussed and agreed” 😳.

Girl asked mum to play football with her ... mum did for about 30 seconds before it all started again “use your left foot, do you not remember the discussion we had about it being your weakest foot at football practice ... slow down and think about where you are going to pass as that looked completely wrong”

It’s just exhausting and I feel so sorry for the girl. Where’s the fun and enjoyment ... what’s the point of going camping together if it’s going to be that strict!

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BigSandyBalls2015 · 30/08/2019 16:08

It’s 4pm and she’s making me want to get the wine out .... and she’s distracting me from my book Grin

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dollydaydream114 · 30/08/2019 16:08

She sounds like a female version of Competitive Dad from The Fast Show.

BruceAndNosh · 30/08/2019 16:11

Get the wine out.
Offer Loud Mum a large glass and she might unclench

Lindy2 · 30/08/2019 16:12

At least you have wine. It sounds like you are going to need it.

Chickenitalia · 30/08/2019 16:12

There’s a parent in my dds class at school who is like this with everything, schoolwork, swimming, dance... same age too. If it’s the same person you have my utter sympathy, it’s loud and exhausting.

If it’s any consolation, we all suspect the girl will go NC and hopefully live a little once she gets to 18 and goes to a top university (mum discusses this loudly too, with anyone who will listen).

If you can find it in you, get mum a bit tipsy and it will all calm down a bit. I hope. Have you kids that could lead the DC astray a bit 😁

PrincessHoneysuckle · 30/08/2019 16:13

Jesus sounds like the performance (dick) parent i witnessed at a play area the other day,loudly telling yound Edward what he should be doing

CottonSock · 30/08/2019 16:16

Poor kid!

eddiemairswife · 30/08/2019 16:16

I haven't been camping for years but, when we went,blowing bubbles near tents was a 'no no', as if they landed on the tent it destroyed the waterproofing.

OrchidInTheSun · 30/08/2019 16:17

She sounds awful. You might want to encourage the kid to blow bubbles right outside their tent rather than yours - they wreck the waterproofing

Oneborneverydecade · 30/08/2019 16:18

I thought this might be about me until I remembered I'm not camping except my loud and incessant is more "leave your brother alone" "stop hitting him" "get out of the pool now"
I almost wish I had the energy to that annoying

violashift · 30/08/2019 16:20

I do feel for the poor child. I don't know why some people parent loudly. I would be embarrassed.

A bit different but there was a mum on a jammed train the other day. All of us stood in the aisles sweating. Young girls trying to play on their tablets. Every minute or so. She kept giving the girls lectures on water hydration and pointing out lots of land marks which is fine now and then but some were ridiculous. The children looked fed up.

At one point she proclaimed, as we were going over the Tyne, ' Look girls some very interesting bridges ( fair enough ) but the best bit ' look girls the beach'. It was a silt/mud tiny bank on the Tyne. My friend and I were in hysterics by this point.

Zakana · 30/08/2019 16:25

Forget the wine, think you need to get the vodka out! Bloody mother sounds dreadful, that poor child! If she carry’s on parenting in that manner, that child will be out of the door as quick as she is legally able to, and I for one wouldn’t blame her.

wijjjy · 30/08/2019 16:26

It was a silt/mud tiny bank on the Tyne

Are you sure you were looking the right way?

There is an artificial beach at the quayside

www.chroniclelive.co.uk/whats-on/family-kids-news/when-newcastle-quayside-seaside-open-12821289

NoSauce · 30/08/2019 16:27

Poor girl and poor you having to listen to the mother. Definitely have a wine or three.

HeffaLump1 · 30/08/2019 16:27

Goodness she sounds exhausting. Poor kid. Had a loud parent in Wilkos today saying VERY LOUDLY to her children to "KEEP AWAY FROM THE PLASTIC! WE DO NOT BUY PLASTIC. DO NOT TOUCH IT!!" Am not kidding.
Then I looked at her purchases and she was buying an Oasis drink - in a plastic bottle Hmm

ImNotYourGranny · 30/08/2019 16:35

I haven't been camping for years but, when we went,blowing bubbles near tents was a 'no no', as if they landed on the tent it destroyed the waterproofing.

That's what I thought too. I'd go nuts if someone was blowing bubbles near my tent.

ButterflyOne1 · 30/08/2019 16:37

Do you have children with you? If so try and get the kids to play, pour yourself and her a glass of wine and teach her how to 'chill out'.

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BigSandyBalls2015 · 30/08/2019 16:39

This kid is so going to rebel in her teens, she’s going to go wild .... or else just be the “odd one” who spouts constant health and safety bollocks at anyone who will listen. I do hope it’s not the latter!

She’s actually a really nice kid who is so well behaved but her mum just can’t relax and let her be Sad

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BigSandyBalls2015 · 30/08/2019 16:41

Mine are late teens, I’ve got one with me and we’re with a friend and her younger ones for a couple of nights. Might send the younger ones over.

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mbosnz · 30/08/2019 16:41

That poor kid!

Could you spike her kale and beetroot smoothie, do you think? The Mum's, not the kid's. . .

Whatisthisfuckery · 30/08/2019 16:41

Oh well, give it 5 years and the girl will be a teenager. Then overbearing mum will have some fun.

S1naidSucks · 30/08/2019 16:41

Oh good grief! I think you could take the wind out of her sails by pointing out that you’re surprised she is letting her daughter blow bubbles as they’re very damaging to tents.

or just sneak out during the night and blow bubbles all over her tent and pray for rain 😁

Gatepost1820 · 30/08/2019 17:04

I've got one of them in my dc's class, goodness it's incessant the chatter that comes out of that woman. She is nice but extremely tiring and hard work. Everything is a competition, she needs her dd to be top of the class at everything. The poor kid is only 8 but from reception she was tutored for an additional hour each night.

Deathraystare · 30/08/2019 17:13

I think a very loud round of applause is called for! "Very well done Lady for your very loud and incessant very public parenting" and marks out of ten for her.

Just had to check with Gatepost's post that I spelt incessant right!!!

Lovemusic33 · 30/08/2019 17:24

We camped last week, the site was lovely but opposite us was a very loud American man and his girlfriend, he was verbally abusive towards her and very big headed, on the last day he was awake at 7am mouthing off at her, slagging off what she was wearing and generally being horrible, every other word was a swear word, I wish I was brave enough to say something but I was camping alone with the dc’s and didn’t want any trouble.