What time is too late for a party to end?

[Zippyzoppy]

My daughter is having her 18th birthday party at our house tomorrow night. She is a good kid, and I'm not worried about the house being trashed.

We do however, live in a quiet street. We have a good relationship with our neighbours, and have informed them of the party and have received good wished from them.

My one big concern is the noise. So my question is - if you like your neighbours, and they were having a one off, 18th birthday party - what time would you think it would be until you got pissed off if a bit loud? DD is thinking it should go on quite late, but I don't want to upset anyone. BTW, there are no babies in the street - youngest resident is a kid about 14.

I think 11pm on a Saturday night is wishful thinking but completely unrealistic. It's a one off and I reckon if you can come to an agreement to turn down the music at 12/1, let it run its course.

I must be young.. 11pm would’ve got laughed out the door when we had 18ths, people were still turning up after 10. Hiring halls/bars was only really good if you were the youngest or you’d have a pretty crap guest list.

Have them indoors by 11 so they’re not out the back screeching like foxes at 1 but aim for 1 to get them out.

Warning neighbours helps ours warns us so if it’s still loud in our room (party wall) we know it’ll either not be long or we sleep in the spare room if we want an early night.

Thursday afternoon is pushing it

Ours have ended 11pm or midnight, agree with the PP who said there can be a lot of noise with them leaving, IME it can be incredibly difficult to ensure everyone can get home safely and actually move them down the street to disperse, I'd say it took us about half an hour last time with fairly proactive management!

Our local ordinance says noise has to cease at 10pm.

Music off by 12 and everyone out by 1am. I am assuming a lot of them will be getting lifts back home and that will contribute to the overall noise too eg. Laughing joking, car doors slamming. At least for most people Sunday is not a working day so as long as you earn them in advance it is not unreasonable. Hope she has a great day!

*warn

I’d say 1am (but as an 18 year old I’d want to carry on after!) could you hire the silent disco sets? Basically everyone has a headset and listen to the same music to dance to but obviously the neighbours won’t hear a peep. I’ve known someone hire them before but I don’t know how much they cost!

The notion that making a cacophony that can be heard in other people's homes is not only reasonable, but some sort of right, is utterly bizarre to me. if you want to make a lot of noise, do it somewhere other than a residential area.

For an 18yo, 11pm is totally unachievable and will feel pretty unfair to your daughter. I agree that you should aim for music off between 12pm-1am and people leaving quietly after that (but I wouldn't be throwing them out). Is this a last hurrah before they all go off to uni?

I think as a one off neighbours have to suck it up to an extent- it's part of living near other people that occasionally they will have parties and events that go on into the night. I'm sure that there are times when you disturb others even if it's early in the morning rather than late a night.

I do think people should be generally considerate of their neighbours, but part of this is accepting that occasionally people will have evening/night events- music in a residential property won't be super loud.

I'd say 2am, it's a one off, you warned them, no young kids etc.

OP I hate noise from neighbours, but can honestly say that I’d be absolutely fine with it ending around 1am, since you have already warned neighbours. It’s a one off. Hope she has a lovely night

I'm happy for teens to be inside for as long as they like but music down, windows closed and everyone inside by midnight.

I'd invite the neighbours and have a separate area to the kids and let it end when it does.