To not want other children playing with DDs special Teddy

[FabLaura]

So today we went to a disco held in a local community centre during the day. My daughter (9 months) and I were dancing with her special teddy and one family (Mum, Dad, daughter & son) all came over and asked if son could play with Teddy. I was taken back but before I could think of a polite way to say no; it's her special ted, the mum took ted and said 'that's nice sharing'. I wanted to go WTF! But just smiled, argh! He played with ted while my poor daughter watched on with me saying to the boy, 'one last time' about a million times before we could escape. Is this normal??? Of course, special ted won't come out again but am I the old one or are they?

Oh op, I used to be the same. You'll get better at it, believe me. In fact, it sounds as if you have got it already, after this baptism of fire

There will be a million other instances like this and you will rock the 'no' soon enough.

Have you always been a wet hen, or did it arrive with becoming a mother? Someone took your DD’s toy and you smiled and let them.
Any more passive and you’ll find someone writing WELCOME on your forehead.

More intrigued as to how a 9m old was dancing ?

“More intrigued as to how a 9m old was dancing ?“

If you’ve never danced with a baby then I feel very sorry for you indeed.

Don’t daft, you put them on your hip and dance to them, you hold them up and move to the music. Did you never dance without your babies before they could walk?

Why didn’t you take it back

If it was your phone book watch etc / you would t just let someone walk off with it

My dd has a bunny. If someone took it off her , with her eyeing it up - well she would prob be howling as that’s her comforter - I would be taking it back at once

In what way did the family hand the teddy back? Was it in a manner that suggested they knew the teddy belonged to DD?

It’s easy to be lost for words when something completely unexpected happens. If DD is very attached to special teddy I wouldn’t necessarily leave him at home next time. Just come up with an answer so you are ready in the unlikely chance it may happen again.

Honestly just leave the special comfort toys at home.

The drama of them getting lost or 'borrowed' by others isn't worth it.

If it helps your DD, say leave it at home and you can tell special bear all about our day when we get home. Worked well with my DD.

I actually can’t believe people are telling the op that if she doesn’t want her child to share it she should leave it at home

The other Mum was being weird taking the special Ted. Seriously who does that? I never thought of taking other kids' toys and giving them to my child to play, he plays with stuff which is not used by others, end of. But in future, keep your toys at home. I made that mistake and saw some kiddo walk off with our special giraffe which had been temporarily abandoned by my son, and had to chase the parent and felt very silly about that later, but hey, we live and learn.

I'm laughing at a 9 month old understanding she did good sharing!

You're not the odd one.