To wonder if gransnet has loads of dil threads ?

[kenandbarbie]

Any grans here who know?

Go and look.

It isn't invisible to non-grans.

Sign up and read! I use gransnet and I’m not even a mum, never mind a gran!

Yeah but you'd have to log on a lot over a time period to get a feel of it. One quick look wouldn't tell you.

Love the replies that won't even give a quick yes or no. More effort to make your silly point than actually answer the question, and as OP says a quick look is not the same as the experience of regular users.

I wasn’t trying to make a ‘silly point’ I was trying to encourage the OP over there! Of course there are DIL threads and SIL threads and threads where peoples DC have gone NC. It’s just the same as here really but better grammar 😂

Of course one quick look will tell you.....

Yes, yes they do.

It does from what I’ve seen. Threads like this one:

www.gransnet.com/forums/grandparenting/1253960-Dil-won-t-let-me-be-grandma

I could definitely coming up on mumsnet from the dil’s point of view.

They don't have nearly as much traffic as here so you probably can tell from a quick post, some of them are quite old.

I must admit trawling GN for DIL threads is one of my guilty pleasures

There are far fewer DIL threads on GN than MIL ones on MN, as a proportion of OPs.
Also the DIL ones tend to be posted in sorrow or worry rather than anger, and so far I've never seen anone suggest going NC over there.

There's a whole section in 'Relationships' about estrangement.
Usually about adult children but also geared toward DIL's.
Quite an eye opener and sometimes very sad indeed.
There's a small amount of crossover between M'sNet and G'sNet DIL threads.
The Grans are usually very supportive unless there's an obvious CF or P* Taker. < swearing allowed, I think, but not often used. >

In the thread linked above, I'm impressed with how reasonable the respondents are. The tone of posts is quite different from here.

@ArkwrightsTill, don't you mean better granma?

I'm pretty sure this thread will be deleted. We are not allowed to cross post across platforms. Very odd rule but there you have it

Yes it does. Some of the posts are incredibly moving and really show the impact of unkindness/thoughtlessness, and, sadly, estrangement. I often have a lump in my throat when I read how sad and lonely some of the posters are, how much they wish they could be closer to their adult children and their grandchildren, and pray that I will be able to navigate a good relationship with my DD as she grows into adulthood.
I often think that it is easy to 'go low communication' when a MIL is interfering/difficult when you are younger and busy but wonder how those Mums will feel if they find themselves in the same boat when they are grans themselves.

Oooh it's lovely over there, people are kind and polite, they even have a nicer font!

I bloody hope so!

Just had a quick look and found a couple of threads about DIL’s straight away. One Gran complaining that she has only seen newborn Grandchild twice in three weeks...

I don't think you can get the tone of the board from just one post.

Go and look, not normally and definitely not the amount of il posts on here
We talk about all sorts of stuff, besides our dgc and dil's.

I'd say don't look, you can't under the sadness you see over there (from someone who initially thought ooh, there's a gransnet?!)

Im sure we had a tread a few months ago where the op was raging that her mil had made a thread about her on gransnet.

Minai that thread stressed me out!

Don't think Gnets has as many DIL postings as Mnets has MIL postings.

I went and had a quick glance via the link from a PP. Still chuckling over the mega-large print for those tired old eyes!!

Omg is there actually a gransnet?!