To wonder if gransnet has loads of dil threads ?

[kenandbarbie]

Any grans here who know?

I did have a look and I was surprised that they have a topic called 'estrangement' and they do have lots of posts about adult children in general not just dil. Many seemed bewildered about why they don't get on, it is sad

I really like gransnet but rather sad at times.

Yep I looked - mainly to see if I recognised MIL

I love Gransnet, I haven't been on it but there's a board called Grandads potting shed. I've been on other threads and yes it's sad at times.

I read the title and thought it was a piss take. I had no idea there was such a site.

I looked at gransnet yesterday and found that some posters feel very peripheral to their adult childrens lives. The power/control/"busyness"in the family relationships has moved to the adult DCs and many GPs just cant seem to understand it. Power struggles between DIL and PIL are as old as time (and of course families will differ) and there are 2 sides to every story

I am a gran and look at both. There are a few DIL gripes but not nearly as bad as MN . The older women do not suggest cutting contact unlike all the NC advice that wings around here. For sure some MIL behave badly but so do some DIL. Relationships certainly take work and effort and a lot of lip zipping. We can all do better

This annoys me too. In years gone by you tolerated your ils, unless of course they were really bad.
We are all different and I find it so sad that the first response seems to be go nc. I'm sure some of the dils wouldn't like it if their dh suggested they were nc with their mother over something trivial.
All this it's his mother let him deal with it crap, like they don't have a bloody voice themselves.
My dils are brilliant and will talk to me not have to go via my sons.