To think there’s something in this?

[MyMindsTellingMeNo]

This is going to make me sound a bit odd.

There was a guy at work, we dated for a few months then things ended.

When I first met him I just ‘knew’ from the first time I saw him that we would be together. I never told him how I felt about him and he never told me. It was two years after we met that we ended up dating. He left the job and I didn’t see him for about a year but I still never had any doubts about us being together, I ‘knew’ he would be back even though we didn’t keep in touch and I had no way of really knowing what he was up to. We started dating a few months after he came back to the job.

Now since we split up I’ve always felt like we’ll get back together. At first I thought ok I just miss him and hoped things would work out after liking him for so long and that feeling would pass once I started getting over him. But now it’s been a few months and that feeling hasn’t passed. It’s hard to explain but I feel like I’m just ‘waiting’ for him to be ready to try again. I’m not really waiting for him and we aren’t still in contact but I just can’t shake that feeling and I’m not sure why.

Am I mad? Or is just because subconsciously I want him back that’s making me feel like that? Has anyone had feelings about someone like that before?

he just said he felt like he couldn’t give me what I wanted.

Polite speak for "I'm just not into you".

This has happened to me. I met a man in passing and I just knew we'd get together. So much so that I broke up with my boyfriend. Didn't see the man again for three months but when I did he asked me out and the rest was history. Unfortunately literally since four years later we had a really unpleasant breakup and never spoke again. It was good (mostly) while it lasted though 😁

Sounds like you were/are into him and unfortunately he wasn’t that into you.

@myMindsTellingMeNo - how long were you together? Was it 3 months?

I don't think you are doing yourself any favours. You've put your life on hold waiting for this man to see the light and you both walk off in the sunset together. A couple of PP have said this is how it was with the men who they ultimately married. There are plenty more who will tell you you are wasting your life, it never happened for them.

Why don't you live your life to the full, be open to meeting someone else and if this man suddenly sees the light, take it from there?

I am notnsure how unreasonable it is. But at 17 I set my cap at a boy and told him I was going to marry him and have his babies. He held out about 6 months. We've been together 20 years now and 3 kids. I knew he was the one for me.

@HeadintheiClouds yes together 3 months.

@SilverySurfer I’m not putting my life on hold. It’s been 2 months since we split and I’m not telling myself I’m never dating anyone else unless it’s him. I’m open to meeting new people if that happened but equally I’m not actively looking just yet. I’d do that anyway after a break up. It takes me a while to feel I can be with someone else regardless of how it’s ended. When I get to the point I’m wanting to date again if it’s not with him I’ll happily look elsewhere.

He could give you what you want if he wanted to but he doesn't want to.

Don't waste your time.

It was once said, "You know nothing Jon Snow." I don't think this will happen if it hasn't yet, but let's see. No one "knows" what will happen...

@Neverender maybe it won’t, but it took 2 years to get there the first time so who knows

And no I’m not going to wait around for him for 2 years before any says