To think this is cruel and not know how to cope on the day.

[FrankieDoyle]

I posted a few weeks ago about my husband walking out on me and trying to adjust to life alone. I'm doing ok at the moment. Still battling depression and anxiety but coping ok every day.

My husband is dealing with the divorce proceedings . I'm so sad. I know he is a selfish man (he lied, cheated on me twice and was unbearably inconsistent which played havoc with my mental health) but I'm still so SAD all the time. I'm grieving for a future I thought I'd have.
He was a shit but I still miss him.

I got an email from the courts a couple of days ago.
Our divorce hearing is going to be on our wedding anniversary
I cant believe it, it seems so cruel. The first time in 13 years we haven't celebrated our anniversary.

I cant stop crying. Does anyone have any ideas as to what I can do on the day itself to distract myself?
My mum is a bit thoughtless and doesn't think about stuff like that. I told her the date and she just said "oh right" with a blank look.

I'm at work on the day. That might distract me

Does it actually matter what the unreasonable behaviour is claimed to be? Its not published is it?

It's just a sad coincidence, as someone has already said. Do you mean the decree nisi? If so, it isn't the date of your divorce - that will be at least six weeks later. So it's just a procedural step along the way. You can get through it, it's only a date, it doesn't change anything. You can do this.