To expect at least an apology.

[Rungoutoflife]

NC but regularly post.

Last night we were all watching a film (dh, me, four kids 5,8,12,14)
All summer I've been really pushing healthy eating and cutting down crap as DD 12 has really put some weight on this year (obv haven't said anything to her)
Dh gave them all a biscuit (after dinner and pudding) fine, but then said I'd like to give you another biscuit but your mum won't allow it. I got a bit cross as fed up with being seen as the bad one, he reacted by punching the telly and storming off. Telly is now broken and we only have one. Aibu to expect an apology? Dh says I'm overreacting over a telly which he will replace. Fwiw I'm now home alone with the kids for three days with no telly. I'm not even cross about the telly but how he can't see the problem.

What was your kids reaction? Hope that you havent normalised this to them - and actually your OH needs to also apolgise to them. Something makes me feel that he wont though...
Sounds like an incredibly unhealthy environment OP.

Is your DD even overweight? I'd worry that this is another sign of his abuse to you and them.

Breaking things in a temper is absolutely not OK, ever. It isn’t normal and it isn’t acceptable.

He was also being an arsehole to try to play the kids off against you over the biscuit thing.

Punching the TV is really really really not normal behaviour.

Please end the relationship and remove your child from such an awful upbringing

Christ I wasn’t expecting that. What an absolute twat of a man. If he can’t see that his actions are wrong then it’s time to give up. What sort of man punches the TV?
You and your dc don’t have to put up with this shit OP.

He says YOURE overreacting???

Interesting to read that people think I'm minimizing this as dh thinks I'm overreacting. Well of course he does. Because if he admits the seriousness of it, he’s acknowledging that he is abusive. I grew up watching my father smash up our home (when he wasn’t hitting my mum). He used to make it very clear that if he wasn’t punching walls or furniture, he’d be punching her. It damages children.

Also, he’s trying to make your children think of him as the kind, generous, loving parent that wants to make them happy, and you as the spiteful, mean parent who wants to deny them treats. I wouldn’t be at all shocked if he tells your DD that you think she’s putting on too much weight.

None of this is normal. It is abusive. It is likely to get worse. It will harm you and your children. It is not acceptable.

I'm not a regular user of the LTB phrase, but my goodness you need to remove this man from your home.

The fact that he was violent because of anything signifies that he wants to control the situation because rational, happy, healthy people just don't react this way. Your children are old enough to remember this - and your reaction to it.