To ask if you celebrate other people's anniversarys?

[passthebluebottle]

DPs anniversary soon, they have gone away and will be away on the date

DM said on the phone tonight "I know you've been busy so it's probably slipped your mind but I will get the card when we come to visit when we are back"

A DF recently stayed and brought a gift and card for our anniversary in a month because she won't see us before

As nice as it is I would never expect anyone to get us cards, I feel it's between DH and I to celebrate

DMs family only sent cards for the big ones, DFs family do every year. DH family don't do anything

AIBU to ask what the general view is?

DH has said not to get a card for their visit, but I know this will upset DM and I don't want to open a whole can of worms

We tend to celebrate it by ourselves. FIL tends to send a long-ish email wishing us lots of blessings and with a Bible verse about marriage, which is lovely. Other family members will say “happy anniversary” if they remember. It would be weird to get a card or a gift from anyone else other than each other.

On second thoughts, I’d probably do a card for my parents’ anniversary if my mum was still alive. But not for anyone else - I’m not very thoughtful like that ;)

Nope. It's between the people who got married that day and that's it.

My PIL except an anniversary card. I've always found it weird and unnecessary.
I don't expect others to remember mine and DH's. It's between us surely.

No, and we barely celebrate our own.

We celebrate our own and I’m always amazed when we get cards from other people.

DH’s grandparents are big on sending cards for everything though, so we do send them a card for theirs.

We barely remember our own anniversary, never mind anyone elses!

My mum sends us a card but my husband has been away for 5/8 anniversaries so I think she just wants me to know someone remembered (bless her ❤️)

No, I wouldn’t send anyone an anniversary card except my DH, unless it was a big anniversary and they were having a party or celebration.

My parents and my in-laws generally get us an anniversary card and sometimes gift too. I don’t expect it though, and would find it a bit weird if anyone else did more than just say happy anniversary if they realised.

I get a card and gift for parents/in-laws on big anniversaries only.

No cards for anniversaries maybe silver and Golden ones.

I have stopped sending cards at all unless its a really special occasion or a child's birthday.

We live close to my in-laws so we pop in or call to wish them happy anniversary. It's not expected but my lovely MIL especially appreciates it. I quite like the way that their family grabs any excuse to squeal and celebrate, it's sweet rather than a chore.

Not generally. Special anniversaries, like silver, ruby, pearl or golden then we’re more inclined to send a present. I always would if there was a party or event of some sort.
We do give to each other but don’t expect cards from anyone else. We’d usually go for a meal, maybe with the children.

My DH’s family always wish happy anniversaries on the family WhatsApp, including their mum’s although their dad is dead. I don’t think anyone in my family would remember when anyone else got married and I just assumed it was an Irish thing with DH family.

We don’t, never really did, but dc was born on our 5th anniversary, so it became their birthday rather than our anniversary.

My friend has just gone all out with a 'thoughtful' gift and Moonpig card for her fairly new boyfriends friend. I must admit I cringed a little. I think its between the couple.

I just felt awful that I wouldn't have even considered getting my friend a gift if she were to have a random anniversary (nothing remotely on the horizon with regards to relationship)

I would for big ones for family and very close friends though I suppose if we were getting together to celebrate

We don't even celebrate our own.

We made a fuss of parents when it was their 50th wedding anniversary. But other years, no. DH's parents make a fuss. They always send us a card, and send each other those twee little "to my wife" cards.

Occasionally Facebook reminds me that I went to a wedding X years ago, then I might send a text but that’s the extent of it.

No we celebrate our own but no one else’s. It feels very personal.

If it was a big one for someone I’m close to I would get a card.

Hell no. If I didn’t marry you in that date, I don’t care. Family members’ very special anniversaries excluded.

I send cards to my parents and brothers. MIL has never once commented on our anniversary despite the fact it is DH’s birthday😂
She has nosied at the cards but still kept quiet, it’s our 25th in a couple of years so waiting to see if she comments then.

Only if it’s a particularly significant one.

Otherwise I’d celebrate with dh and id expect others to do the same.

I sent db and his wife an email to wish them Happy Anniversary last week, but I don't suppose he'll remember ours in a fortnight or so (well, he might as dgm died on our 20th). Mum sends us a card, and perhaps ds will raid my card stash to write us one but it's for us really.