CF neighbour

[Likethebattle]

Our neighbour always has an overflowing general waste bin. Again the lid is sitting at an almost 90degree angle and she has stuffed it with all sorts of stuff. She has also placed two bags of shite on top of my bin! Collection is today and I can see them refusing to take it with extra rubbish on top! Aibu to be really annoyed, the local tip is open and they have 3 cars and no disabilities apart from laziness!

[GibbonLover]

@TabbyMumz How the fuck does any disability, hidden or not, give a person the right to dump her bags on top of someone else’s bin?

[CTRL]

This would make my blood BOIL !

TEAR OPEN THE BAGS, THROW THEM ON HER DOORSTEP AND WALK OFF.

BLOODY CHEEKY B*TCH !

[Mothership4two]

I'm pretty sure OP meant no disability stickers on the 3 cars or obvious physical disabilities that would impact carrying rubbish bags. I am not sure what disability would excuse putting your rubbish on top of your neighbours bins week after week? Or moving your bin to a spot that inconveniences all your neighbours.

It is a bit naughty but it wouldn't overly bother me tbh unless the Council did refuse to take my bin. In which case, I would be irritated and would give it all back to them including my own rubbish. If I had a late bag to go in, but their stuff was on top, I'd dump the bags back next to their's then. I would, however, be speaking to them about their bin impeding everyone's car access.

[TabbyMumz]

TabbyMumzHow the fuck does any disability, hidden or not, give a person the right to dump her bags on top of someone else’s bin?
Not the "right to", but they might have an excuse as to why? Autism, confusion, brain injury, learning difficulties...the list goes on. Just because someone looks ok, doesn't mean they are ok?

[Likethebattle]

My father had a brain illness that made him act strangely but he was never a cf to their folk...just us. I am aware quite acutely of brain disorders having lost a parent to one but you seem to labouring a point here that has been cleared up!

[TabbyMumz]

@Mothership4two....You don't have a disability sticker to put on cars? There are blue badges, but most people hide these when not in use to avoid theft. Ours isn't in our car all the time . I just don't think people should presume people are lazy. For all I know, she may not have a disability, but I would always think it might be a possibility first?

[RosaWaiting]

Sorry OP the heat went to my head

[RavenLG]

A disability would not prevent any one of the 4 adult members of this house at least knocking on OPs door to say “Hi OP, sorry we’re all disabled and struggle with our rubbish (but nothing else in our day to day lives) when we’re struggling do you mind if we stick a bag or two in your bin”
Unless they’re all non verbal and blind in which case rubbish is the least of anyone’s concerns ffs.

Keep returning to her doorstop until she gets the hint!

[Mothership4two]

tabby I think it is pretty obvious what the OP is saying. Her neighbour has no obvious reason for doing this other than she overstuffs her bin and so uses theirs. I was making a comment on what the OP meant. And again I am not sure what disability would excuse putting your rubbish on top of your neighbours bins week after week?

Not everyone puts out disability stickers and some people won't get one. My dm and bil would be entitled to ones but neither will request them.

[Mummyoflittledragon]

YANBU
People like this are so rude and annoying. I like the idea of returning her rubbish.

@janj2301
I’m surprised the council aren’t interested in the house. Have you informed the fire safety officer or planning officer at the council? What about council tax dept? You could try reporting the owner of the illegal hmo to hmrc.

[Mummyoflittledragon]

What’s with continuing this discussion? op has said she has no obvious physical disabilities. She can run, drive, Chuck stuff in a skip and look after her gcs.

[SchadenfreudePersonified]

We got a skip a couple of weeks ago and withing 30 minutes of it being delivered some git had put three bags into it

You may be mistaken about this.

It is traditional for The Universe to add a number of bags of rubbish, an old sink and a broken toilet seat to any skip left outside a house.

i understand it is some sort of "Karmic Law". Conversely, if you are (say) pulling down an internal built in unit, and set aside some sturdy pieces of wood for your own use when you begin your own building work, the best of these will disappear into the ether, even though they are within your fence and you have a rottweiler.

It's just one of those Mysteries of the Cosmos. (Possibly Brian Cox could explain it.)

[Likethebattle]

Our bin is usually full but the lid closes but actually sitting 2 bags of rubbish on top of the closed bin is ridiculous and runs the risk my bin will not be collected. Our general waste is only collected every three weeks. Will she then take our bin to the tip since she caused the missed collection...no I think not as she seems to think the fucking tip is a mythical place.

[SchadenfreudePersonified]

Keto



Inspired!

[Mothership4two]

Not the "right to", but they might have an excuse as to why? Autism, confusion, brain injury, learning difficulties...the list goes on. Just because someone looks ok, doesn't mean they are ok?

I have worked with children and/or adults with all these conditions and I cannot see how this relates. If she/they have this kind of disability then they are obviously pretty high functioning (from what OP says) and there would be no reason to do what they are doing on a regular basis.

[Kazooboohoo]

"Evenv if she did have a disable concern that doesn't excuse dumping her rubbish with op,".....Yes it does, for the reasons I've put above

No, no it really doesn't. Your reasons are invalid.

People, there must never be a CF thread ever again on Mumsnet, because every CF out there might in fact have some MH issue that made them do it. The chances, of course, that CFs take up 3 parking spaces or put their rubbish in your bin because of an MH issue is of course vanishingly small, but let's work on that assumption.

[TabbyMumz]

No likethebattle....the point has not been cleared up....more and more people are showing their ignorance on here saying what disability allows people to put their rubbish on someone else's bin. They seem to think if the person doesn't look disabled, they aren't disabled. You would know from your father, that no disability is the same and no brain injury is the same. It could have been a perfectly reasonable mistake that their bag went on your bin. I also concede that it might not be, but at least I get to educate people on here to think twice before they jump to conclusions.

[Likethebattle]

@SchadenfreudePersonified it is a universal law with a skip. The builders ones here (new estate) were usually filled with nonsense... I saw men throwing her junk into one, there was a fence but she was lobbing her stuff over including a wind break for the beach that she balanced on the fence then slid over. It could be she is mistaking my bin for said skip!

[Likethebattle]

*saw her throwing her junk...no men
Involved

[70isaLimitNotaTarget]

SchadenfreudePersonified

I always thought the Unwritten Rules were to cram a load of your unwanted crap onto the top a full (someones elses ) skip , therefore jepodising the chances of the skip company taking it away "oh no, only level loads" and of course to make sure the Cuckoo-in-the-Nest rubbish must always be something random like a piss stained sofa and a rank toilet so that anyone looking at it will view the skip-renter with horror and shame .

That is fairly tolerable and of course The Done Thing , but our skip was completely empty and DH had just paid then come inside to get his boots and heavy duty gloves . Someone must've heard the skip lorry and thought "HaHa Result"
It's like asking to use your new lawnmower before you've even unwrapped it

Now if you can arrange for Dr Brian May (out of Queen ) to come and explain it (over dinner) to me , I'll be very grateful (and I'll pass on Professor Cox)

[TabbyMumz]

Evenv if she did have a disable concern that doesn't excuse dumping her rubbish with op,".....Yes it does, for the reasons I've put above

No, no it really doesn't. Your reasons are invalid.
Yes @Kazooboohoo, it does. You obviously haven't experienced anyone having bouts of confusion from any disability, be it a brain injury, alzeimers, autism, whatever. My family member can drive a car and be there for her children, but she often throws away food that is in date, and keeps food out of date. She often has clear out sessions, throwing away stuff that is needed. There are 101 things people with bouts of confusion from disability might do, including putting bib bags in the wrong place, or not being great at recycling. She often annoys people by taking ages looking at unnecessary items in the shops, causing a queue, which annoys people. She looks normal.you wouldn't know she was disabled in any way. Just asking people to give it some thought really. Just like there are disabled children, there are also disabled adults. You see things in a different light when you've been there and know someone like this. And yes there might be other adults in the house, but they might not be able to keep on top of everything.

[Likethebattle]

@KetoWithIF my other neighbour has sone tyres in their garden 🤔.

@TabbyMumz IT WASN’T A MISTAKE! She’s a piss taker and has fuck all reason to excuse it! Yes you’re point may be valid but here it’s not. She’s very physically fit and NT! Her bin lid was at a 90 degree angle but she still had rubbish so just whacked it on of mine as it wouldn't balance on hers. Anyway job done as I went passed I put them on the ground on either side of her bin and now the trick has been. My bin is safely stowed away...my precious lol.

[TabbyMumz]

@Kazooboohoo...I don't think anyone actually mentioned mental health? But you have....do you think hidden disability just means mental health?

[7yo7yo]

Yanbu. Chuck her rubbish in the middle of the drive.
Wish people would stop derailing the thread. Its fairly obvious to any reasonable person what the OP meant.